Do you have friends with multiples?

Now that the babies are getting older and it is harder to go out I find myself not going to any playgroups for older DD or for their age.
I am signed up with my local Mom of Multiples group and am thinking of becoming more involved.
I can't help but to think they would be much more understanding and "get it". More than just keep asking "How do you do it?" which gets old.

So I ask- Do you have friends with multiples (aside from on line) that you get together with? Is it more fun/less stressful to be around them- like they understand?

 

Now that the babies are getting older and it is harder to go out I find myself not going to any playgroups for older DD or for their age.
I am signed up with my local Mom of Multiples group and am thinking of becoming more involved.
I can't help but to think they would be much more understanding and "get it". More than just keep asking "How do you do it?" which gets old.

So I ask- Do you have friends with multiples (aside from on line) that you get together with? Is it more fun/less stressful to be around them- like they understand?

 

My best friend actualy has twin boys that a few years older than my boys.

It is nice having someone who has been there done that, and nice that she can warn me about things that may be coming, LOL.

It's wierd, my boys have totally different personalities from each other, but each one has a lot in common as far as mannerisms and taste with each of her boys.

The one things that isn't so nice - I'm always hearing "Just you wait". If her boys have gotten into trouble at shcool for example, she always tells me "Just you wait". While I'm sure we'll have our issues - we discipline completely differently so I don't think they'll be the same issues

 

My best friend has twins (b/b) thanks to IVF (she has severe endometrioses) and one of my other sorority friend had b/b twins naturally in April after her ds in Sept. 04 (so 3 out of 11, quite a lot). However, these friends live in Europe and I am here in the US. I met some people through a parents network here in Chicago and they have a multiples group too, though I've only emailed with them, haven't met them personally yet.

 

I am in touch with the local mothers of multiples group and like them, but I also meet up with just a regular moms group in the area. It is nice to have a mix of both and to be able to go to others who have multiples when i get fed up with the...":youve got your hands full" comments.

 

I don't have any close friends but I joined the Twin Mother's Organization in my area and found out that a friend from grammar school and high school has 2 year old twin girls. There are several people with little ones in the group as well that I hope to get to know.

 

When I was pg a neighbor with twins girls found us. We didn't know her before, she lives in the next subdivision over, but she knew one of our closer neighbors and we were introduced that way. Anyhoo, her g/g twins are about 5 months older than mine and we get together occasionally. It's great having someone so close who knows what it's like having twins.

 

I know several people with multiples...I was actually working with 3 different people who all were parents to twins when I found out I was pregnant!!! And, a friend of mine that I went to college with has twin girls 7 weeks younger than mine. We lost touch for a while, and then when I was 6 months pregnant, I called her and told her that I was having twins, and she thought that a mutual friend of ours had told me to pull one over on her, b/c she was 4 months pregnant with her girls at the time!!! It was so strange! We don't get to see each other nearly enough but we talk all the time through email and phone calls. We have decided to make an effort to get together once a month, so that will be fun.

 

I have a few close friends with multiples. One has 2 girlsa year and change older than my girls. The other two have b/g twins and triplet boys. The trips were born 3 days after and the twins 10 days after mine, and we all met in the NICU and spend several months getting to know each other. They are the most awesome friends because I don't ever have to explain ANYTHING to them.

 

I think that in my neighborhood it is a requirement to live here. There are 3 other sets of twins within a 2 block radius. It is kind of strange to have so many in one area!! Other than that all of our other friends have singletons.

 

I don't have any multiple friends. The connections that I made for dd1 are still holding strong. My little girls have joined her playgroup & we go to all the activities we can.
Honestly, I've hung out with some multiple moms, but they only understand having 2 babies- not a toddler. Right now, my little girls are a breeze! It's the almost 3 year old I need "help" with!

 

No, not really, but I'd like to have at least one! My list:

Man I worked with who has 4 yr old g/g
Man I worked with who has 7 yr old b/b (not sure on the age)
Friend of a friend who has 18 month g/g

Multiples group that doesn't appear to do much. I went to the zoo outing and there weren't many people that met up. Talk of a monthly meeting, hasn't happened.

After my ridicule at the latest book club (see post from a couple weeks ago), I would like to have a great multiples group to hang with occasionally.

 

Yes, I have two friends with multiples that I met through our multiples group and it is WONDERFUL! Like a pp said, I don't have to explain anything...they understand completely! We just went Christmas shopping yesterday and you wouldn't believe how many MOMs we saw! Plus, a set of 2-month old triplets. It was fun saying hi. I would highly recommend that you get involved with your multiples group because like you said...you get tired of the "how do you do it?" comments. You just want to take your kids to a playdate and have fun and not be the center of attention and answer the same questions over and over again..."what do you do if they're both crying at the same time?", "how do you feed two at once?", "do they sleep in the same crib?".... UGH!!! GL!

 

Unfortnately no. My friends dont even have any children and since the twins were born are no where to be seen. It sucks. But I'm pretty busy with the babies anyway.

I was involved with my local Twins Club but it was all women 35-40+ that sat around together once a month and talked about how great it was to be wealthy and have twins. Which is fine, if thats what you are into...but thats not for me. So, I didnt bother getting a membership this year.

I have seen a couple walking with their twin stroller (the babies are always covered up though) walking around my neighborhood and we have exchanged a some small talk but they are much, much older then me.

Being 22 with any babies doesnt seem to be the norm around where I live. So..we just hang out with Dh lol. We're starting baby swimming (splashers) in Jan so hopefully I will meet some other mothers with babies..even if its just 1 baby

 

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Originally posted by Mommye&m:
Yes, I have two friends with multiples that I met through our multiples group and it is WONDERFUL! Like a pp said, I don't have to explain anything...they understand completely! We just went Christmas shopping yesterday and you wouldn't believe how many MOMs we saw! Plus, a set of 2-month old triplets. It was fun saying hi. I would highly recommend that you get involved with your multiples group because like you said...you get tired of the "how do you do it?" comments. You just want to take your kids to a playdate and have fun and not be the center of attention and answer the same questions over and over again..."what do you do if they're both crying at the same time?", "how do you feed two at once?", "do they sleep in the same crib?".... UGH!!! GL!


Exactly- I feel like all I talk about with the singleton moms is "how I do it" and blah blah blah. Ok, they are interested in it but true, I feel like I am always stared at with them thinking "what's she gonna do when they both cry". I just want some friends, not to be a freak show.

 

I know 2 families with triplets. One family lives next to my parents and the other family I met through the former. We don't get together very often as we're all very busy, but it is a trip when all 9 kids get together!

 

My neighbor has twin boys that are 8 yrs old and then she has a 5 year old daughter and a daughter that was born a day after my twins. It is nice to have her because my older kids play with her older kids and she is very easy going (twin thing I think) Sometimes she asks me how I do it and I look at her and go "what? you have twins you know what it is like." She still thinks I am super mom because she didn't have any other children to deal with when she had her twins.

 

I have a friend with twin girls the same age as my twins and we hang out. It is nice to have someone else who understands. I go to both regular mommy groups and MOMs groups and it's totally different. At the regular groups, I tend to stick out since I have two babies, and like a pp said, I feel like I am being watched to an extent because people want to see how I do it. At the MOMs groups, I am one of the group. Everyone there is juggling two babies, and the babies way outnumber the mommies. It's much more laid back too, and everyone helps one another. Babies get passed around a lot. This never happens at the regular groups.

 

Hi there,

my local mot (mother of twins) org has been wonderful for meeting other moms.... our chapter is 350 moms strong, I believe and I have a playgroup with exclusively twins and moms. It's great fun.

I'd start asking other moms if htey'd be up for playgroup each week or every other week. It's been great for me.

Teri

 

I don't have any one that I am good friends with now, but two friends that I grew up with (our houses were next to each other) both have twins. One has frat. boys and the other has frat. boy/girl. And where I was working three other people were pg at the same time with twins. One was having ID boys, one with frat. boys and one with frat. boy/girl. And my husband is a frat. (boys). Lots of twins around me. I guess it was destiny. The local MOMS group near me is supposed to be really good, I just haven't had the time or energy yet. They meet at 7:30 pm and I'm wiped out by then.

 

Hi, it's me again. I SO need to find mommies. I was with a group of girlfriends, some of which are in the book club - AKA nail the twin mommy with badgering questions club.

So, I mentioned that I was excited to get a playyard soon so that the babies could roll around and be safe. We weren't planning on moving furniture to the basement and DD has already scooted halfway under the couch. I want them to be able to have space to be active until they get more skilled.

I'm not kidding when one mommy asked why I would do that? Why not just let them crawl around - without gates!!!! Her DD never fell down the stairs or fell into a wall, chair, etc. WHATEVER

I felt like everybody was staring at me. There were 8 of us together that evening. The thing that sucks is that we have never been rude about anybody's marriage/husband. I don't know why they feel okay to express opinions about my multiple parenting.

*Serenity now*

 

I havnt got any friends with multiples.There is two multiple groups in the area that i live but i havnt been to them yet. I have quite a few friends in the same village that have just had babies so i meet up with them once a week. Im quite happy just meeting up with my friends with their babies. Though it wuold be nice to have a friend with twins just to discuss twin stuff . x