Do you Ground your kids, if so what from?

So my girls are spoiled by both us and grandma. The are 9 1/2 now and they know how to get what they want. They have both started to get really mouthy or not doing what we say. I have started with 2 days grounding from the computer. Just curious how others punish their kids at this age.

 

Yes I did grounding, from the computer mainly and sometimes the tv but never more than a day - I just felt that was too mean. I also made a point of talking to her with statements such as "when you talk to me in that manner, it hurts my feelings. It makes me feel as if you have forgotten all that we have learnt about how we respect one another in this family." etc... I also made a list on a blackboard which is up permanently with all the things that she is expected to do. This way there are no arguments about my expectations. Seriously this worked for a couple of years! I wish it still did

This is a tough time and good on you for trying to pick up on it now!

 

usually from the TV or their electronics...

 

We have done a week of no electronics--no DS, no Wi, no XBox, no computer--unless it is needed for school work. A week is what we need to make it work. On the upside, it gets them reading or playing outside more.

 

We take away electronics too for inside offenses. For outside offenses, we take away their bikes or scooters. This really hurts because they ride them to school!

 

It depends on the kid and the time of year.

It always works to take away Zach's electronics. Any missing assignments on the school website and he loses electronics until he has them all current.

For Ethan it works better at times to take away playing outside with friends. That bothers him more than losing electronics. Right now though, we are so busy with baseball for him and cheer for Cassie, that he doesn't have time to play outside with friends.

Cassie loses electronics too.

We have a rule that there are no electronics or friends over until all homework and chores are done.

 

Early bedtime works here, and Mom enjoys the extra silence at night.

 

Our twins are only 2 but we have 4 other kids ranging from 11-22 yrs old.

I am very creative with consequences. If I take something away, like computers, and by take away, I remove the laptop or pc from the room and they do homework on my laptop, then I substitute another more beneficial, to me, activity for that time. Such as, they go through their closet or drawers, neaten them, refold, make a neat pile of outgrown clothes, or shine the tile in the bathroom, wash the windows, wash my car, brush the dog, pick up leaves, etc (everyday they get something to do besides normal chores based on their age and what is appropriate. The teens, you want the worst jobs, like cleaning mini blinds , so the consequence of their behavior really sinks in).

This way instead of feeling sorry for themself or playing, they get to have a little soul searching and I have found they do not usually repeat their mistakes. I have also had them write a paper saying what they did, why they shouldn't have done it and what they will do next time when they feel like that.