Do you expect a "push present"

I read an article in the Parade this past Sunday about Push Presents. Of course, these were jewelry type things and that's something I know OUR family can't afford. But do you expect SOMETHING when the babies are delivered?

I told my DH to get me these little Willow Tree figurines - "Two Together" - for when the girls get here. He got them for me for mother's day instead. Oh well I DO expect him to bring me flowers, though.

What about you?

 

With my twins I got a 'mothers ring' wedding band set that I could wear (I am allergic to nickel so I wasn't wearing my original band out because of my reaction to it). I didn't expect one at all. This time (when I did really push) I got nothing. No flowers or anything. But, I'm not a flower person and we really need to save money. (that hasn't stopped him in the past) I've done some 'damage' to my expensive camera and he didn't think twice about replacing the parts, so I am not disappointed in the no push gift. It's a nice sentiment, but not necessary IMO!

 

No I did not expect anything. I think it's a sweet gesture. With my oldest DD my DH got me a pair of opal earrings (her birthstone since she was an Oct. baby) with the thinking I would pass them to her. But with the twins coming so early and unexpectedly and being in the NICU I never got anything. It doesn't really bother me, but I do jokingly ask him where my amethyst earrings are. :laughing:

 

Sure didn't. The babies were present enough. Although it sounds like a nice gesture I just wouldn't expect it.

 

I doubt dh will give me anything. That's just him, though, he doesn't think of these things and I feel weird asking him or reminding him.

 

No, I don't expect anything.

 

I got a new diamond necklace before he deployed (3 weeks after giving birth to dd). It was for giving birth, mother's day, and him deploying again. But, I don't think it was really a push gift.

I don't really expect anything when the twins get here.

 

I have to add that even though I expect flowers - he knows to use the same vase I got flowers in from TJ's birth - and that he can go to Fresh Market and get a dozen roses for $8

To me, it isn't how much it costs... it's a matter of knowing he is being thoughtful - even though I have to help him a little!

 

With my DD, I got a pair of diamond earrings. For these babes, I don't expect anything, but I would guess he will bring me some flowers. I don't think it is necessary or expected by any means, but it is always a nice gesture. Of course, having twins means extra expenses so maybe the cheaper route is better, even a nice card would be appreciated. Or two roses, one for each baby! Either way, you will have the best gift of all in the end!

 

Unfortunately I didn't know about them until after the fact! And I don't plan to have any more children...but if I did...I'd mention it...(to his mom). He wouldn't ever think of it himself.

 

I have never expected anything but he has a habit of getting me something after every baby.. not jewelry as thats not my thing.. but with my last baby I got a dozen beautiful pink roses.

 

I wish they weren't called "push" presents. . . it just makes it sound like an appeasement!

I don't expect anything. DH has gotten flowers in the past.

 

I didn't get anything when I had my girls. My husband is not one of those types to think of gushy stuff. I am just now getting Mother's Day gifts with a little thought and we've been married 9 years.

 

I always thought that was a lovely idea but it just isn't my DH's style. I've since purchases my kid's birth stone rings for myself. Right now I have a son who's an emerald and a son who is an opal and I have a lovely antique ring with an opal in the center and emeralds all around. These girls will be emeralds too! I told DH he's going to save a lot of money because I already have opal & emerald jewelry.

 

I never expected one, like a PP said....the baby was gift enough. DH isn't a big gift-giver. He's more of an attentive hubby. He'll clean, cook, give massages, give me time for a nap or bath, etc. I'll take those things any day over material items.

 

Dh is the same way, with the taking care of stuff around the house and helping me out, and I, too, would rather have all that then an actual item.

 

My hubby gt me the willow tree figure of a pregnant lady holding her tummy, looking down! it's fab! i loved it! it was the first mother's day i celebrated!



QUOTE(JediMom @ May 13 2008, 02:20 PM) [snapback]771137[/snapback]
I read an article in the Parade this past Sunday about Push Presents. Of course, these were jewelry type things and that's something I know OUR family can't afford. But do you expect SOMETHING when the babies are delivered?

I told my DH to get me these little Willow Tree figurines - "Two Together" - for when the girls get here. He got them for me for mother's day instead. Oh well I DO expect him to bring me flowers, though.

What about you?

 

My boys were born right near Mother's Day so I got a necklace with their babyshoes as charms.

However, my BEST present was them surviving and making it through delivery.

 

I hadn't thought of it before but thanks to your post I sent my DH a note telling him I would like earrings instead of flowers this time around. LOL

Thanks for the idea!

 

I have never expected anything when the babies were born...however this time....being our second set of twins I just might I always "assume" that I will get some flowers and I do, but this time I think I need something like jewelry

 

QUOTE(2forjoy @ May 14 2008, 09:54 AM) [snapback]772703[/snapback]
My hubby gt me the willow tree figure of a pregnant lady holding her tummy, looking down! it's fab! i loved it! it was the first mother's day i celebrated!


My husband got me the same thing for Mother's Day when I was PG with my son! He got this awesome card and wrote some really beautiful things in it. Made me CRY! My hubby has always been really awesome about cards and picking the right one. The one time he got a saucy card that was kind of sexual (I think it was for V-day), I got really upset about it! I guess he's spoiled me! He isn't big on thinking about gifts - and pretty much has to be told what to get for me. But as far as cards and being sentimental, he rocks!

 

I first heard about "push presents" just before my son was born almost 3 years ago. I thought it was the funniest thing. I started pestering DH about it (jokingly). He didn't get me anything at the time (September) but for Christmas we got a big screen TV and joked that it was my push present.

This time around I told him that I seriously want a camcorder, since ours died about a year ago. I caught him surfing some electronics websites the other night, so maybe he took my request to heart.

For any holiday or birthday or what-not, I am big on gifts that are useful for the whole family - camcorder, TV, larger vehicle to accommodate all the carseats. LOL I don't go for flowers (and actually have never gotten them from DH in 14+ years) or chocolates or jewelry.

My mom, however, works in a jewelry store and she is dead set on getting me a mother's ring. I don't know if that counts as a "push present" since it's not from hubby.

 

Ok, I'm starting to feel a little selfish here- My DH has always been a "gift giver"- but has not always been sure of what to get. I have always dropped hints or showed him things I like (I am a HUGE jewelry freak!) since he isn't comfortable purchasing jewelry based on his own taste. One of his teaching partners received a diamond bracelet from her DH when she delivered her son two years ago. While pregnant I jokingly said I couldn't wait to see my jewlery since I was delivering twins (although I must confess I was sort of serious- I didn't let him know that). I never said more, or picked out anything etc. That first night in the hospital after the twins arrived he handed me a blue box from Tiffany and Company with a lovely charm bracelet full of baby charms on it. (I have a friend that works there that I think helped him out). Who knows if he would have done something had I not "mentioned" it during the pregnancy- I'd like to think he would have