Do you ever think...

Some days I wake up and make that first bottle and feel like a hamster jumping into a wheel. My day: Feed, place in various baby holders, put down for nap, clean up various baby holders, do dishes. Repeat until dark. I call myself the "child care provider" because I'm pretty sure they really don't care who is doing the above tasks-mom, dad, the neighbor. Doesn't matter. In fact, they prefer my mom over me. They just have been crabby for the last week or so.

It's not really all that hard. I quit a job where I worked alot longer and harder to do this. It's just that the job was more fun and more personally rewarding. I know that there are rewards along the way. It's just that sometimes it seems like they are very few and far between. I miss my old life!!!!!!

Thanks for listening. I feel better now. Have to go jump back in my wheel.

 

i think every mother goes through this.. where its easier to do this than that.. and so on.

they do care who feeds, clothes bathes them .. they cant show it yet.

and i care who feeds , clothes , bathes , makes decisions for my kids..

sure wking a ft job may be easier.. but this is more rewarding.. give it some time..
m

 

We have all felt that way. Truthfully the first 4 months were the most difficult. By the time they were 6 months, it was easier to go out with the kids & they smiled all the time and laughed and could be a bit more independent. That's when I felt this job as being a twin mom was more rewarding and fulfilling. Hang in there. It does get better and easier!

 

Most definately there are days like that. I think I am just a bottle maker cleaner washer diaper changer poopie wiper u name it I wipe it clean it etc. But than there is usually a moment where they just giggle or laugh and I think ok it was worth it and than some days where I just want to run screaming like I can't take it anymore. That usually means I need a bit of Mommy time away and that is when Daddy becomes the wiper cleaner etc.

I do remember the 4mo mark and it was hard and it does get easier I know i am sure u have heard that before but with each day comes new and different challenges. But they seem to be a heck of a lot easier than in the beginning that is for sure.

 

The first few months were so monotonous for me too. If I felt like I was really getting into a rut I would shake things up a bit and go out for a walk or visit a relative.

It will get better, just try not to become a prisoner to the blahs. :hug99: You're allowed to go out even if it for a short drive.

 

I get to feeling that way in the wee hours of the morning. After everyone has already gotten up for a feeding and I am stressed out knowing that sometime between 5:30 and 6:30am they are going to inadvertantly flip themselves over, DD will play and DS will scream, and they will be waking eachother up but they have already eaten and it is not time to get up yet and I don't know what to do with them....etc...

I don't really feel like that when I am in the thick of things during the day...when I am laying awake waiting for the next cry...imagining that I am hearing the cry on the monitor when it isn't even happening...I then think that I want my old life back and that I cannot possibly go through another day of bottles being refused and babies crying about going down for naps. Once the day gets going; however, I lose myself in it and have tons of fun...until the next morning when I am freaking out again !

This has been a rough week for us as well. Mine are 4mos. and 1 week so maybe it is something with the age.

Amy

 

I remember feeling that way too. Around the same time - actually it was almost daily until about the 6 mo. mark. I still feel like that now every now and then. But like everyone else says - it does get better. Within the next couple of weeks you will be amazed at how much more aware and reseptive they are. Then you'll go through the stage when they are hanging on you and cry when you leave the room. If I can share a funny story - I'm in the kitchen - it's 5am - still dark - the girls are up - my blinds are open on sliding glass door - Im washing the 1001 bottle of my momhood - and I have one girl hanging on each leg - they are standing - and pulling my PJ bottoms down! now - I wear a thong - so anyone driving by etc. got a nice shot of my butt - with 2 babies hanging onto my legs practically sucking on each one of my butt cheeks!! Of course I'm trying to grab a towel to dry my hands without making them fall etc. - It was quite comical. So that's what you have to look forward to. It does get better - and when you hear that first squeal when you walk in the door or the first time they reach out to grab your face - it'll all be worth it. Hang in there! :hug99:

 

Yep, and there are STILL days when I think that... especially now that they are nearly 3 and into everything... their behavior has really gone downhill... and that was before the new baby came, so I don't blame that for it...

 

Every once in a while I'll feel like I'm in a rut but luckily it's not too often. In a couple of months your babies will be doing a lot of fun things and entertaining you, it was at about 6 months when the girls really became fun for me. Hang in there, it gets ALOT better! :hug99:

 

I promise you that they will be more fun to be with in a few months time. I felt exactly the same way at around the four month mark - I told a lot of people it was monotonous to keep washing bottles and feeding babies and not getting much back from it. They smile and interact now and its much more joyous to be a twin mum when they are closer to one year old! I used to have freedom to work and do what I like and interact with people but right now I'm so so happy that I can stay at home with them. Hang in there girl!

 

Thank you all for your support. I've been feeling guilty for even complaining with this post...I'm sooo blessed to have 3 healthy children. I sometimes read the posts on the nicu or grief pages and my heart just aches for those mamas. So, thank you for reinforcing that I'm not terrible for feeling this way, and I know it will get better. Even last night was a better 4-6 pm time. I think taking them out of the house at that time might be the key. Thanks again to all of you.

p.s. love the pulling the pants down story!!

ks

 

Hi Kendall,

We do move quickly from 4-6pm. If they aren't catnapping (which is rare anyway) we play inside for a moment, the move the bouncies outside onto the porch for a few and then off on a walk for a few. I find that it is more about them being restless and boring easily than anything else at this time of day. Outside or out of the house at that time has done wonders for us! Anyway, like I said in my pp, I am right there with you sister.

Amy