do you ever just feel like you're in over your head?

i'm moving on "e" right now and have been for weeks. this whole business of me being alone all the time (adults) is taking it's toll and mix that in with all our feeding frustrations and you've got one hot mess.

i just feel like this is so much more than i asked for, you know? it's not all what i expected it to be but then again nothing ever is, right?

i just wish DH was home more so he could help with the boys and with me...

 

:hug: Sure I felt that way before, especially in the beginning. You'll get over it!

 

I'm right there with ya. My husband is hardly ever home because of the military.

Not to mention he's got less than 3 weeks till he deploys again and then I'm literally completely alone

 

yeah I get it. Jim was out to sea for the first 6 months and I had 4 under 3. I get it. all you can do is take a deep breath and keep moving. Im was always saying, we survived another day and right now that's good enough. Some have it easier, but there is always someone that has it harder. We are all in this together. I found my attitude effected a lot. If I could stay in a good mood (it is a choice), laugh at it, and buck up, things were better.

 

I can honestly say I feel that way too much lately. I know it gets better. My twins are 6 months old and I have an almost 3 year old (next month), I miss adult interaction. Don't get me wrong I love my kids but there are many times where I just can't wait until bedtime especially now when all of them are sick. Ugh I am so tired. Being a SAHM isn't easy but I wouldn't want it any other way.

It is just hard doing the same old stuff everyday and being stuck at home with no one else but my kids to talk too! :wacko:

 

Everyone feels that way sometimes. Hang in there! :hug:

 

It WILL get better soon. By month six you won't even remember those horrible months. And for us the horrible months lasted till about month 5.5. We had a lot of feeding, underweight, reflux issues too and very high demand babies that did nothing but cry 24 hrs/day and never napped for more than 20 minutes without a burping (or barfing as it was). They also never sat still (one still doesn't). Caring for the twins is the hardest thing i've ever done but now that I am not overwhelmed with super miserable babies anymore I can also say it's the most rewarding thing i've ever done. It's hard to keep perspective when it's so bad but you will make it and they get to be so much more fun soon. Of course they are still babies and still do have plenty of fussy times they are still a lot easier to deal with. You don't have too much longer now, hang in there!

 

E.V.E.R.Y.D.A.Y! There are days when its not so bad and days that take the cake. Raising kids just isnt easy. ardon:

 

All day, every day. And mine are 2.

 

I feel this way almost everyday, so you're not alone.

 

I do, but it's starting to get better. As soon as they could sit consistantly on their own, it got soooo much easier. I think the 4-6 month range is really hard, because they want to play, but can't get what they want. Once they're sitting, they can play with so much more toys. Plus, mine hated being on their tummies, so being able to sit made their playtime more enjoyable.

 

Yep, what she said. I think I got 4 hrs sleep last night. Color me tired!!

 

I am right there with you...I am alone with the girls about 18-20 hours out of 24. My DH is a lawyer and works crazy hours so I never know when he will be home - some nights he's home at 7pm and other nights not until 11pm or later. Plus he often has to work weekends. That was fine when my mom was helping me out - now she says she has "done her bit" and needs to take care of her husband so won't be coming by during the day anymore unless I "really need her". I realize that I shouldn't be bitter about that because she has been a great support to me these first few months but part of me is upset because she kept on going back on her word. Before the girls were born we discussed having her move in with us for a month or so and then when they were born she completely backtracked on that promise and pretended as though that had never been the plan in the first place. Instead she said she would come by every day during the week. At first she came by most days but pretty soon that turned into a few days a week and then a few hours a week. I know that I need to learn how to take care of the babies and all the household chores on my own (after all they are my children, not hers) but it just pissed me off that she led me to believe she would be around more than she actually ended up being. It would be one thing if she said she couldn't spare more than a few hours a week to help me take care of the babies in the first place (btw she is retired) but that wasn't the case. There were also many days when she said she'd be coming but then she ended up cancelling at the last minute because she "needed a nap" (what are naps again?? they sound wonderful). Again, if I had known in advance that I would be operating solo I could have prepared myself and not been disappointed and frustrated when promised help evaporated at the last minute. Argh.

PHEW - I feel better now. I guess I just needed to get that off my chest. I will shut up now! :hush:

OK - just had to add: thank GOD for coffee and baby swings. Now I'm done.

 

Yes, there are days that I feel like that. It's gotten better as my LOs have gotten older. In the beginning I felt like that almost every day.

 

My DH is home on weekends, which I am thankful, but I DREAD Mondays!! :aggressive: Just knowing that I have a whole week ahead by myself makes me sigh. Sometimes I feel like I am going to pull my hair out because of the lack of adult interaction! :wacko: I do think that this stage we are in is one of the hardest because my boys want to be active and crawl and sit up, but they just can't yet. They get bored with things so easily and I am guilty that I get bored trying to entertain them! :umm:

 

Yeah, I get you. I have THREE under THREE and trust me, when all three are cranky, it is all I can do to not scream! My hubby helps out with the twins at night, but works full time and goes to school (trying to finish a degree) so he is gone ALL day. And, my bedtime routine is ridiculous! Takes an hour to an hour and a half to get everyone bathed, fed, changed and asleep. I hear ya sister, I really do.

 

I've got four kids and my DH has had to work mandatory overtime since the twins were born because his department is short two men. Literally within a week of the twins coming home he was working 12-16 hour days and spending his off days in a promotional class. The fact that I didn't go stark raving mad is nothing short of a miracle. The only reason I have any semblance of sanity left is that my boys are absolute angels. They rarely fuss unless they need to be fed, changed, or put down for a nap. Now that they don't usually need to eat at the same time, life is much much easier.

I have to say that I am in awe of the military moms here. I don't know how you do it on your own for extended periods of time. I guess it must be like everything else, you do what you have to do, but when I think that I can't possibly do this any longer, I think of you guys.

 

I think everyone of us feels that way more often then we like. Adult interaction is SO important!! My DH does help out a lot, which helps...but another thing that I've found that helps me a ton is working out. If at all possible I would see about finding a place that you can go to workout, just for an hour, even if it's only 2x a week. I know a lot of the places around here offer daycare for like $2.00 per child. I pulled a muscle in my neck this week and wasn't able to workout and I couldn't believe the difference in my attitude by the end of the week....I almost ripped my DH head off for no reason at all. It's a great stress relief and gets you out of the house.

I also agree with pp that attitude is EVERYTHING!

 

so hearing you with the 'three under three!' it is just nuts over here these days...

 

agreed!! The sacrifices these families make astound me!

Thank you for starting this thread. I have had a really overwhelming week and it is helpful to check in and know I am not alone. Hang in there too, somehow I think we will all get through it...

 

at some point, every single day i feel like this...i have the twins, who are 4 1/2 months, izzy who is 3 1/2 years and very mischevious and refuses to speak, jayden who is 7, and james who is almost 11 and has aspergers and is emotionally more like having another 7 year old...last night jason sent me to bed after dinner..admittedly we ate late, but by 10:30 my butt was in the sack, VERY VERY early for me...my bed time is usually 3 or 4 in the morning, at least it is if i'm lucky enough to NOT have a baby wake up just as i'm getting ready to go to bed...friday night, jack woke up at 4 and FINALLY went back to sleep at just after 6...and he's going through this thing where he is NOT HAPPY unless he is being held by me ALL THE TIME...the wrap isn't working for him either, i tried that...it has to be in my arms held...doing this makes eating difficult, going to the bathroom difficult, i have an online job and i can't do it while holding him because sometimes i have to type...as soon as he is laid down, even if he falls asleep, he starts to cry and doesn't stop until he is picked up again...ugh...just take it a day at a time...eventually everyone will grow up and move out and you'll wonder where they all went

 

yesterday and today. fussy babies getting over the stomach flu....

 

I keep wondering who I pissed off to end up with twins! I'd never wish this on anyone. Not even my worst enemy!

The poster about how 4-6 months is worse...OMG. Pleaseeeee don't say that!

I keep telling myself this is only for a few months. I'll miss it someday...I think!