do they treat you the same way when dh is around?

one of my little ones, joey, has basically been going through separation and/or stranger anxiety for about 6 months. in other words--he just wants mama! all. day. long. i don't leave them that often but when i do it's generally not that easy to. however, he does at least really like my mom (not so much the mil, however). it's not always bad but it's usually a litle difficult in the beginning. we have a babysitter one afternoon a week and he's been known to cry or fuss the whole time she's here until i end up taking him w/me to do things around the house (which defeats the whole purpose of a babysitter! but, i digress...). the main point is that he is pretty attached to me all day.

but, all of this changes w/daddy gets home! he drops me like yesterday's news and it's all about dh! once he even cried when dh handed him to me (you could hear my heart break!). he's never done that again but he sure prefers daddy to mommy most of the time when daddy is around.

granted, daddy had always fed him all night (and, unfortunately, he still wakes for a feeding far more often than we'd ever want to admit). that's because my other ds, henry, nurses so it's always been easier for dh to feed joey at night while i feed henry. but still, it's hard for me not to feel a little sad.

does this happen to anyone else?

thanks, jl

 

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My two definitely prefer me over anyone else. Although, when DH gets home from work, they go crazy. They start screeching and yelling, pushing each other out of the way to get to the door first They help him put his things away and then.....it's back to normal. Mommy, mommy, mommy!!

I can see how DS would have an attachment to DH since he bonds with him during feedings and such. Just know that it will change and he'll only want mommy soon enough ~ and just when you get used to that....he'll want daddy again

Hang in there

April [/SIZE]

 

Oh yeah, when daddy is around for bedtime they wake daddy to carry them into bed and tuck them in. It doesn't make me sad though since I know its because DH isn't around every night for bedtime so its special.

 

I can relate. When Daddy gets home from work they are soooo happy to see him! DS seems to have more of a bond with DH then me. We take turns who dresses who at night time and which one sets with us while they drink their sippy cups before bed. But, DD always wants me and DS always DH. I feel sad at times but, I know I'm at home with them all during the day while DH is at work.

 

Mine's a different situation, I work days, my husband works 2nd shift, so he's with them for most of the day. They are perfect angels when he's around or the babysitter, but when I get home from work, holy guacamole, 2 hours straight of tantrums.

 

I'm sure it has to do with night feedings also... It should even out eventually though!

 

I agree with Fran, it will even out. My DH works night work and he is around my DD wants nothing or no one but him. When he is not around, she is perfectly fine with me or any other adult around.

 

When it is just me and the boys they are all over me ..once their dad walks in the door, mostly Lucas will prefer his daddy. And heck fine by me!! I know how happy it makes Chad to have them so excited to have him home, to want his attention and so on. And it gives me a little break.

Dianna

 

Oh yeah, my girls drop me when DH comes home at the end of the day. I don't take it personally though, I think if DH were the one home all day they'd do the same thing for me when I walked in the door. I think it's a matter of seeing a new face and being bored with the person who has been around all day long.