Do they listen to you like they do DH?

It just seems like they don't take me as serious as they do DH. DH is always telling me that I need to discipline. I do! I put them in time out and occasionally they get a pop on the butt (which I don't like to do, but sometimes it is just a reaction). It is hard for me to get them to take a nap on the weekends. But DH can do it! They run from me when it is medicine time, time to get dressed, etc. They think it is funny. I was just wondering if yours listen to you or DH better?

 

Mine listen to me better for the most part since I am stricter and he is the one always fooling around with them and having a good time. So if they aren't listening to me then they are most likely not going to listen to him but it depends on what they are doing too.

 

QUOTE(Becky02 @ Feb 25 2008, 08:38 PM) [snapback]639831[/snapback]
Mine listen to me better for the most part since I am stricter and he is the one always fooling around with them and having a good time. So if they aren't listening to me then they are most likely not going to listen to him but it depends on what they are doing too.



Ditto. When I stopped working 2 jobs back in December and just kept the day job.....I said "the law is back in town". I chew him out for taking so much crap off of them, specifically Amber. He just rolls over so easily.

 

They listen to both of us equally. We try very hard to be consistent -- DH tends to be a little stricter but I am the one who reads the parenting books and tells him what language to use. Neither of us give in to tantrums and both of us make the girls say "Please."

 

QUOTE(Becky02 @ Feb 25 2008, 12:38 PM) [snapback]639831[/snapback]
Mine listen to me better for the most part since I am stricter and he is the one always fooling around with them and having a good time. So if they aren't listening to me then they are most likely not going to listen to him but it depends on what they are doing too.

double ditto!

 

QUOTE(Minette @ Feb 25 2008, 01:35 PM) [snapback]639942[/snapback]
They listen to both of us equally. We try very hard to be consistent -- DH tends to be a little stricter but I am the one who reads the parenting books and tells him what language to use. Neither of us give in to tantrums and both of us make the girls say "Please."


Same here, except that I tend to be a little more strict than DH.

 

im a single parent, and mine dont listen at all.. it drives me crazy...

 

Its definately me because DH travels. When he is in town he likes to play and entertain them not be a disciplinarian...totally fine by me. Im the mom, the rule keeper, scheduler, blah blah. The benefit is they look to me to see if things are ok or not and know when my voice changes that they have gone too far. Ahhhh the mom power

 

QUOTE(three_precious_girls @ Feb 26 2008, 01:28 AM) [snapback]640311[/snapback]
Its definately me because DH travels. When he is in town he likes to play and entertain them not be a disciplinarian...totally fine by me. Im the mom, the rule keeper, scheduler, blah blah. The benefit is they look to me to see if things are ok or not and know when my voice changes that they have gone too far. Ahhhh the mom power


Ditto for us too. I like how someone said the "law was back in town". :lol: That's how it is around here too.

 

I'm with you...mine listen to DH much better...but he is tougher and I do admit, I'm sometimes let stuff go...being a SAHM with no help is tough...my DH travels a lot and we have no family here so I pretty much never get a break..if I was as tough as I should be...I feel like I'd be on them all day! Sounds like I am rationalizing it doesn't it??? HMMMMM..... :unsure: .....

 

Mine are opposite. They both listen to me and laugh at my dh. They dont take him seriously :laughing:

 

Hello

A DH here. They tend to listen to my wife more than me. Although for the most part they are good kids

 

QUOTE(TripleL @ Feb 25 2008, 05:18 PM) [snapback]639783[/snapback]
It just seems like they don't take me as serious as they do DH. DH is always telling me that I need to discipline. I do! I put them in time out and occasionally they get a pop on the butt (which I don't like to do, but sometimes it is just a reaction). It is hard for me to get them to take a nap on the weekends. But DH can do it! They run from me when it is medicine time, time to get dressed, etc. They think it is funny. I was just wondering if yours listen to you or DH better?


I find the same as you. If DH has a stern voice they really listen or even get upset, with me they couldn't care less. I woz thinking they're just more used to being with me more, not sure why really.

 

QUOTE(Becky02 @ Feb 25 2008, 08:38 PM) [snapback]639831[/snapback]
Mine listen to me better for the most part since I am stricter and he is the one always fooling around with them and having a good time. So if they aren't listening to me then they are most likely not going to listen to him but it depends on what they are doing too.

Same here!

 

THey listen to DH, but dont listen to me at all. I am pretty sure that my voice is at a decible only heard by dogs! They will be sitting next to me and I ask them to do something and they flat out ignor me. UGH!!!

 

Mine are the opposite. They listen better to me than they do my DH. ardon:

 

Mine definately don't listen to me and its not like I am easy on them, but they just seem to have a whole different respect for DH.

 

QUOTE(BaaRamEwe @ Feb 27 2008, 09:56 PM) [snapback]643642[/snapback]
Mine definately don't listen to me and its not like I am easy on them, but they just seem to have a whole different respect for DH.



Same here! All my DH has to do sometimes is give them the "Look" and they straighten up. For me, they're not afraid to push my buttons. Which is really hard, when he is deployed and I don't have re inforcement for 3-6 months!

Sara

 

I could have written your exact post!! I am the stricter parent but my kids listen to DH better!! I think it is because when he gets on to them, it is SO rare that it is a total shock!!