Do they cry when you go to get the other one?

Every morning I get up and get one of the babies and take them downstairs while listening to the other one SCREAM bloody murder. I leave baby one in a safe place downstairs and go back upstairs to get the other. Then the first one starts screaming. So I walk upstairs to two screaming children...wondering what I did wrong. I get the other one, and bring them down.....

We do this routine ever and over - into the car, into the high chairs, to naps, etc...

It breaks my heart!!!

Am I alone? What do you do?

 

I carry them both for short distances... but I don't have stairs and wouldn't carry them on stairs anyway. I think it's just one of those things you have to grin and bear.

I know what you mean about them crying like I've just left them alone forever. If I pick up Sean and go to change his diaper James cries like I've slapped him twice and told him he was ugly... and visa versa. The silver lining is that they love you so much they never ever want you to leave. :wub:

 

Heck yeah! If I change one, the other cries, even if he/she can see and hear me. Ditto with putting down for naps. I'm just trying to develop a thick skin about it. On days when I don't have help, there's two of them and one of me, and like they say, you can't please everybody all the time.

 

Ooohh yeah. They still don't realize that you haven't actually left forever and are coming back. My girls do it too, although it's getting worlds better. If I do the one at a time to the car (I always take Emma first, she's worse) Lauren will sit there and watch the door for me.

 

this is good to know to prepare myself.

 

It's just something they (and you) have to get used to. If you're alone, there is really nothing you can do about it. I don't have stairs so I would carry them both when they were smaller, but they weigh too much for me to do that now.

 

Yes!! My DD screams like a crazy person when I even take two steps away from her!! I just keep telling myself it is a phase...because soon enough it will be me crying that she is leaving me! lol

 

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I think it's just one of those things you have to grin and bear.



:good: Ditto! It was hard at first, but now I know what to expect EACH AND EVERY day! :huh: I don't know when they will grow out of it? By 20, I hope!

 

My boys are quite young yet, but they already do this. Aric especially. It is all about him, if you know what I mean.

 

My girls screamed bloody murder everytime I would get one out but not the other. It does get better (or at least it did with my girls). Now they just wait patiently until I can come back. It is pretty neat actually.

 

I don't know if you've tried this but I try to make sure they have a toy or a book they like to busy themselves with for the brief time they will be alone.
Usually that will do it when they have to be in a different area of the house for a little while.

 

Definitely happens at our house. You have to learn to tune it out, because they don't understand me when I try to rationalize with them!

 

In the mornings i grab both at the sametime but i also do not have to go down any stairs, but they do it thru out the day when i take one for a diaper change.
Its very hard to listen to but as long as they are safe they will be fine.

 

I let them cry -- unfortunately. There is not much you can do when you only have two arms. :hug99: We all have been there. So at least you are not alone.

 

I'm with the PP about making sure they have a toy or some other distraction before walking away if possible. One trick I use in the morning while I am dressing and changing them, I actually put them in each other's cribs to play while they wait. They each have a different aquarium type toy on the side of the crib, so the change of scenery distracts them while I am taking care of the other. Now they have gotten used to that routine.

But I agree that sometimes there is just nothing you can do, and I just tell myself that they are learning patience.