Disciplining 14 mos ols?

We have one twin who is very loud - like her dad!. She yells when she can't get something opened or reach something, etc. Most of the time it's funny, but it's becoming a behaviour problem at meal time though. She yells when I don't get food out to her fast enough, or when she doesn't like something. What would you do to discipline? Telling her to "use her inside voice" doesn't exactly work. THe only "discipline" we do so far is smacks on the hand if they are grabbing an outlet or electrical cord defiantly. Just curious as to your discipline at this age.

 

I ignore tantrums (like you are describing), and once they calm down I explain to them that we use our indoor voice. I have learned that my girls will not listen to anything I have to say when they are in that mind set. As far as other forms of discipline (like if they are in something they shouldn't be), I redirect, redirect and more redirecting. It gets very repetitive, but eventually they "get" it. At this age there really isn't much else you can do because they are too young to comprehend "time outs". I think a lot of it is just pushing their limits to see what they can do and what gets a reaction out of you. Good Luck! It is so frustrating sometimes!

 

For screaming or tantrums I just ignore them and don't give in to it. I don't think it would hurt to say "inside voices please" but then don't give any extra attention. For disobeying or fighting mine go in their cribs for time out for 1 minute.

 

Like pp's said I ignore tantrums (and still do) and will redirect when they are doing something they aren't supposed to. We also do timeouts for a minute or two.

 

I need to just start ignoring my daughter. She drives me batty with that high pitched squeal/scream she does now. I think it is getting worse that I keep telling her NO KERA! So I am going to start ignoring her, and then when she calms down I will give her a talk, rather or not she understands or not .

As far as if they are getting into something or biting, or whatever. My pedi just told us this at our one year follow up appointment. He asked if they had started biting. I told him my daughter bit me once. He said he doesn't recommend the slapping on the hand, or the popping in the mouth, or the biting back, or the spanking, because that will teach them that hitting is ok, and they will probably start hitting each other. He said instead put a highchair, or a playpen in a corner, and make that a time out spot. He said the rule in pediatrics is one minute of time out for every year they are, for a maximum of five minutes. He said say no first, and then give a warning, and then do the time out. So our appointment was Wednesday, and I just had to use this approch today. Today was the first day that they got their ball pit, which is a tent ball pit. It has that mesh on the sides. Well my son was scratching it over and over and over, I said "No Drake, please do not scratch the mesh", he smiled and did it again, I said "NO Drake". He did it again and I said "No Drake, when mommy tells you No that means NO, if you do it again You will get a time out" (I am sure he does not understand all of this, and this is my first time to do the time out, so I wasn't really sure what to do). Anyways, he did it again, so I pulled him out of the ball pit and put him in the pack and play in the corner for one minute. After one minute, I held him and looked at him and told him "When mommy says NO that means NO". Then I put him back in the ball pit, and he didn't do it again. Later tonight he was climbing on the tent, I said "No Drake", he started to do it again and I said "NO Drake", and then he stopped! I think it will take a little getting used to, but I think time outs are good.

Sorry for the novel.

 

QUOTE(faithandtalia @ May 9 2009, 12:48 AM) [snapback]1306228[/snapback]
She yells when I don't get food out to her fast enough, or when she doesn't like something. What would you do to discipline?

This is Eleanor exactly. After she is in her chair she has about 15 seconds of patience before she starts yelling because she wants her food. Sometimes making a short loud noise (saying Oi/Oh/Ah in a sort of sharp annoyed tone) will get her attention and stop it, and we follow it with "No. Stop shouting". I also tend to tell her what I'm doing/what she's waiting for such as "Eleanor, you just have to wait one minute while...it cools down/I put it in your bowl/I butter the toast" because I figure at some point she will understand what I'm saying, and then she will know that she won't be waiting much longer and it will help her learn to wait nicely. That's the plan anyway.

 

I would ignore it instead of calling attention to it. She wants your attention and when you tell her to shush or use your inside voice, she is getting what she wants.

 

QUOTE(faithandtalia @ May 8 2009, 07:48 PM) [snapback]1306228[/snapback]
We have one twin who is very loud - like her dad!. She yells when she can't get something opened or reach something, etc. Most of the time it's funny, but it's becoming a behaviour problem at meal time though. She yells when I don't get food out to her fast enough, or when she doesn't like something. What would you do to discipline? Telling her to "use her inside voice" doesn't exactly work. THe only "discipline" we do so far is smacks on the hand if they are grabbing an outlet or electrical cord defiantly. Just curious as to your discipline at this age.

Mine just laugh at me no matter what I do!

 

I think its the age because mine do it too!
Their dad gives them a couple cheerios (like 5) to hold them over while we get their real meal. often times though I put steaming hot food on their trays and tell them "HOT" they know what "HOT" means and will sit there and help me blow on their food.
Other times I do what PP said and explain what im doing and then I just ignore the rest.

Trying times huh?!