Discipline

Discussion in 'The Toddler Years(1-3)' started by rebeccalynn71, Apr 30, 2008.

  1. rebeccalynn71

    rebeccalynn71 Well-Known Member

    Hi,

    My twins are 20 mnths old (18 mnths) adjusted and I'm wandering what types of discipline other people are using and when to start. Up until now I have been telling them no and re directing their attention but I think it might be time to start applying some other methods. One problem I know others are having this time of year is keeping them out of danger when we are outside, we have fenced in our backyard but also occasionally play in the front yard, we live on a quiet street but I want to teach them to stay in the yard. My daughter is pretty good about listening but my son does his own thing. My other issue is my son again, he gets frustrated easily but sometimes he is impossible to please (example. wants to be picked up and then wants to be put down). Should I ignore
    this behavior?

    In summary, 1. how do you handle keeping your kids from danger inside and out at this age? and 2. how do you handle tantrums at this age?

    Thanks,
    Rebecca
     
  2. JDMummy

    JDMummy Well-Known Member

    1. Dangers: I redirect, say no, and if need be, place them in a time-out so that they can "see" their action was not a good one.

    2. Tantrums: Typically, I ignore them. If they get really bad (the head banging, throwing yourself on the ground type), I take them to their room and they will stay in there til they calm down. I have done this with my eldest and the twins and it has worked so far.
     
  3. DATJMom

    DATJMom Well-Known Member

    We are still in the re-directing stage for discipline but for tantrums I too, ignore it and it we have good days and bad days with that one.
     
  4. Utopia122

    Utopia122 Well-Known Member

    QUOTE(Sarah© @ Apr 30 2008, 07:52 PM) [snapback]749282[/snapback]
    1. Dangers: I redirect, say no, and if need be, place them in a time-out so that they can "see" their action was not a good one.

    2. Tantrums: Typically, I ignore them. If they get really bad (the head banging, throwing yourself on the ground type), I take them to their room and they will stay in there til they calm down. I have done this with my eldest and the twins and it has worked so far.


    Good advice--this is what we do.
     
  5. bellamibella

    bellamibella Well-Known Member

    We just began time outs with our 23 month olds this week. It seems to be helping. By this I mean they stay in time out when I put them there and after I take them out they are good for a little while. I was told it would take a good week for time outs to really work so we'll see.
     
  6. Monika

    Monika Well-Known Member

    QUOTE
    My other issue is my son again, he gets frustrated easily but sometimes he is impossible to please (example. wants to be picked up and then wants to be put down). Should I ignore
    this behavior?


    Yes. I think this is a security thing. They want to let go so badly but then they really don't. This is normal.

    As for tantrums, I try to watch for warning signs. If it has been a long time since a meal, try a snack. If you have been very busy, give some attention before the tantrum can start. Remove from any frustrating situation. Children that young often cannot calm themselves. Discipline- Teaching; remember learning takes repetition and children cannot learn under stress. Since young kids have so little control, offer a choice of two acceptable alternatives "Would you like to go in your stroller or walk?" or "Would you like to wear the red or the blue shirt?", "In what room would you like to have your diaper changed" or "on which bed?". Just about anything you feel comfortable with. Just by letting them choose the simplest things will make a huge difference.
    Stay calm, ignore as much as you can, and forgive the tantrum! :hug99:
     
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