Dinner last night

So last night the whole family went out to dinner. We were sat in a booth, DH and DS on one side, me and one twin on the other side, and one in a sling next to the booth. Of course, as soon as I walked up I could hear the people in the booth next to us start chiming in about twins, etc. We just sat down and tried to enjoy ourselves. I decided to feed Brooke before dinner came, so I put my nursing cover on, and latched her on. About that time the people in the booth next to us got up to leave. One lady walks over and says, "Oh, I just have to see your babies." She looks at Hailey in her carseat, and then moves over to me and tries to peer down at Brooke. I looked at her and said, "She is nursing, she looks a lot like her sister." and pulled the nursing cover closer. Wow, I thought that was extremely rude! Since when do complete strangers think they have any right to try and watch my baby nurse? For that matter, they don't even have to be complete strangers. My MIL loves to crowd me when I'm breastfeeding and stare. Ugh, when she does it I usually just cover them up with a blanket until she moves away.

What do you think? Maybe the lady at the restaurant didn't realize I was breastfeeding, although I think it was pretty obvious, at least as obvious as it can be without a boob hanging out. Or are people just so infatuated with twins they lose all since of privacy and personal boundaries?

 

Yeah, I bet she didn't realize what you were doing..even though it might be blantently obvoious for anyone who knows you! It was rude, but I bet she didn't know.
I have to say :bow2: Kudos to you and going out with them to eat! :clapping:

 

once my sister bent down to give DD a kiss goodbye, didn't realize I was feeding her and was quite surprised!

 

That would have ticked me off too! But I agree that she probably just didn't realize. People can be pretty frickin' oblivious. I read a great quote somewhere - "People only notice what you tell them to notice, and then only if you remind them."

Plus, I bet you're just such a natural at nursing that it just looked like a snuggle!

 

you are giving people way too much credit!!!! I bet she didn't even notice YOU, all they see are the babies

 

I can't imagine getting so close to a nursing mom or to any new baby for that matter. I'm always surprised at people's lack of boundary awareness.

 

I'll be one of the oblivious ones that chimes in...DH and I were at a church function (before we had the kids) and a friend of ours was there with her son (although he wasn't tiny) and I went to say goodbye and pat his head because it looked like he was sleeping - well he was AT THE BREAST! so imagine MY embarrassment - however mom was not! I never knew she was feeding him because she wasn't "hanging out" nor did she have a nursing cover (although he was their 4th child I'm sure she'd perfected her technique at that point!) - so I'd give her the benefit of the doubt in thinking she was probably just "twin blinded"

 

Ok, after reading all these comments, the lady must not have known what I was doing. In fact, I guess come to think about it, since I have been nursing my kids, I can usually pick out a mom in a crowd who is nursing, but if I had not done it myself, I might not have known what was going on.

 

I think people think twins are basically the best thing ever when they see them they don't think straight. Even little kids yell after us "TWO BABIES TWO BABIES". Even though it really isn't that rare you don't often see young twins out and about.

Good for you for giving dinner out a try. We've done breakfast but never tried a "slower" meal!

 

Or maybe she thinks breastfeeding is pretty normal and didn't think there was any reason not to check out the babe? The cover should have given her a clue that you weren't comfortable, but like someone else said she wasn't only thinking about you, only baby.

If I'm going to see a friend's new babe and she is nursing, I wouldn't think twice about checking the babe out then. But I wouldn't disturb the baby while he/she is eating.