different nappers, what do i do?

i have 12month old b/g twins, that are completely different. i feel like i always try to be consistent, but have never been able to get them on a great nap schedual. i put them to sleep at 8Pm and the boy wakes up at least once a night, but the girl normally sleeps throught the night. they wake up about 6:30, olivia desperatly needs a nap at 9am and lincoln does not (he normally screems for about 30min before going to sleep) and still wakes up first. then olivia again desperatly needs a nap at about 1:30 (lincoln screems and sometimes does not go to sleep). then at bedtime lincoln always screems for a little bit (varies on how long). i don't know what to do, but i need to keep them on the same schedual because for my sanity i need some baby free time in the day. any advice?

 

I say keep them on Olivia's schedule. I too have a pre-nap screamer and since she (mine is DD, Lilyl) is going to scream anyway I just keep mine on my non-screamers schedule for napping. My Jack and Lily are 13 months right now and we also have times of non-napping and nap resisting but I think it is still too early to go to one nap so I am kind of forcing 2 naps right now. It is a cinch with DS but sometimes I just let DD go for an hour playing and fussing and then I get her. Even though she does not sleep sometime it gives me much needed time AND forces her to have some "quiet" time of her own. Mine do their naps at 9:30 and 2:30 with a 7:30am wake up time and a 7:30 pm bedtime although the screaming and fussing lasts until 8Pm.

It won't be like this forever and in a couple of months they will go down to one nap which will be great for everyone!

 

thank you for the advice, that's kinda what i was thinking, but i just needed some encouragement.
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I say keep them on Olivia's schedule. I too have a pre-nap screamer and since she (mine is DD, Lilyl) is going to scream anyway I just keep mine on my non-screamers schedule for napping. My Jack and Lily are 13 months right now and we also have times of non-napping and nap resisting but I think it is still too early to go to one nap so I am kind of forcing 2 naps right now. It is a cinch with DS but sometimes I just let DD go for an hour playing and fussing and then I get her. Even though she does not sleep sometime it gives me much needed time AND forces her to have some "quiet" time of her own. Mine do their naps at 9:30 and 2:30 with a 7:30am wake up time and a 7:30 pm bedtime although the screaming and fussing lasts until 8Pm.

It won't be like this forever and in a couple of months they will go down to one nap which will be great for everyone!

 

First you should know I've never been a keep to the schedule type of person in any aspect of my life, but I took the presious one-on-one time when I could get it and never tried to manipulate their schedule until I started back to work and we had to go on my work schedule.
But I also often got them to nap at the same time by walking them in the stroller. Even well past age two I'd load them both in the stroller when they got to the cranky tired stage and off we went. Once they were asleep I either came home (and left them in the stroller till they woke up, if that doesn't work, like you have a lot of stairs to get inside or something then I don't know) or I took a book with me and just sat in the shade somewhere and read until one woke up.
If it was too cold to walk, I'd used the car. bring snacks for me and them and a book and drive until they were both asleep, park somewhere and read and eat my snack. You don't have a location, so I can't tell if you live in a place where the weather might be too extreme for this option.

 

You know yourself and your kids best.

For us, I had to put us on 1 nap before their 1st bday. Syd would scream all day long and I was on the edge of a nervous breakdown. It worked great for over a year. Now they are older and both trying to give up naps (but that's another story).

Everything is a phase... try to do whatever YOU think is best and don't let anyone judge you for it!