Did you get a twin baby shower

I was just wondering if anyone had a baby shower for you twins when they are your 2nd pregnancy?

My family is split into three...my mom's family, my dad's family & Dh's family. For my first pregnancy I had 3 showers (one for each family). We got pretty much everything we needed.

Dh's family doesn't believe in a shower for 2nd, 3rd, etc pregnancy unless they are like 10 years apart. So I know I wont be getting a shower on that side. My mom's family keeps telling me that b/c we are having twins we really should get another shower. My dad's family (my father passed when I was 4 years old so that is why the family is seperate from my mothers (she re-married) they dont get along) is the type of people who dont have more than one kid each and those that do are stable enough to afford everything for the 2nd or 3rd child so I doubt we will have a shower with that side.

Dh and I are pretty well off but twins do require a lot of stuff and I know a shower would really help us out. My mom's family can't really afford much but they try to give us what they can and I really love them for that. I'm not sure if I feel right having another shower with them. Since we are having twins that means they would need to buy double of most things. I feel bad "asking" for this knowing we already had a shower but I dont think we could afford everything we need for the twins right away.

Has anyone felt bad about getting another shower? Does your family have some type of limit (like only for the 1st pregnancy)?

I know we could do it if we were having g/g twins since all of DD's stuff is in great shape. We wouldn't have to buy much. Even g/b twins would make it easier but I have a feeling we are having b/b twins and will have to buy everything all over again which we cant really afford right now (I will be giving up my job at 22 weeks and wont be going back (I'm a nanny and it's getting hard for me even now). Dh's hours were cut 3 months ago plus we have a new van payment.

 

If your family wants to give you a shower then I wouldn't feel bad at all. I didn't ask for my baby shower, my sister actually surprised me with it and it was great. I got a lot of hand me downs from her since she'd just had twins (so I got a double snap and go and infant car seats, etc) but it was a wonderful time to get together and celebrate the impending arrival of my boys. It was more of a party than anything else (though I did get a TON of diapers!)
Good luck and I hope it all works out!

 

Yes, we did get a 2nd shower for the twins. Our oldest was about 2.5 yrs. old, but everyone wanted to do something so I let them. My work threw me a shower as well, which was so nice. I was about 24 weeks at that time. My family shower was when I was about 30 weeks. We had just moved into our new house, so we did a housewarming/babies shower combo. It was also a combo of friends, my family and his family and very laid back (did a bbq). People were extremely generous. I think a lot of times people don't give 2nd showers, but in the case of twins (or higher) people often want to make sure you're set up. That's not always the case, but in general I think people tend to be generous when they find out you're having twins.

 

Yes we had a shower for the "twins" it was a big family bbq! It was a blast! I had been on bedrest forever so it was great to have everyone over at our home! These were my 3rd & 4th children...they were my husbands 1st & 2nd!!! My older boys were 16 & 17 at the time!


Have fun and let them "shower" the babies with love!

 

I know my friends and family are having one for me. Twins are expensive and I most definetly can't afford everything I will need. I am buying pretty much everything second hand for them. My family doesn't generally do baby showers for second or third babies either but because its special circumstances(twins) and I am a single mom to one already. And I am not with the twins dad we broke up before we knew I was even pregnant. If your family wants to have the baby shower for you then I would let them.

 

I had two showers with my first child, both from work and friends and family. This one, my second pregnancy, we live in a different town and I don't know a lot of people. I do have family here though, and they INSISTED on throwing me another shower for the twins. It was mostly just family and a couple neighbors.
It was nice.

Molly
34 weeks +5

 

My aunt wanted to throw a shower for me, but I told her I really didnt want one. Our son will just be 2 when the babies come, I had 2 for him, and I kept all of his baby stuff. I do need a double stroller and another infant carrier, and a crib. What I am prob going to do is register, that way if close friends and family feels the need to buy something, they will have an idea of what we need.

 

Yes, my Mom and sisters threw me a shower for the twins, they were my second pregnancy. We also had a shower for both my sisters' second pregnancies too. :good: I did not feel bad having a shower for the twins. I think it's great if your family wants to throw you one!


So far my family has stopped after the second pregnancy for showers. By the third, you don't need one really.

 

My friends and family usually only have a shower for a first pregnancy, but my sister threw me a small surprise shower since I was having twins. If she or my mom has asked me, I probably would have said no, however, I had a great time. It was just my closest friends and I really enjoyed hacing an afternoon with all of them.

I don't know if my experience is typical, but the gifts I got at my twin shower were mainly matching outfits. My parents are the only ones who bought us some of the stuff that we needed, like carseats and a cosleeper. I am not complaining at all. I really didn't expect anything and I have been really lucky in that a few friends have given us their baby stuff so we didn't have to buy a second bouncer, exersaucer, or highchair.

 

Thank you all so much for responding! I feel better knowing I'm not the only twin mom who will get a 2nd shower. My daughter will be 2 on July 28 and I guess I was just feeling guilty about people giving us stuff for a 2nd pregnany when DD is still so young. I'm not really worried about clothes since they will be baptized before 8 weeks old and our familys usually give tons of clothes for that. Plus they are coming close to Christmas. I guess I'm more worried about the big stuff....like two cribs, another car seat, twin stroller and play stuff like a bouncer. I bought a very nice 3 in 1 crib for DD so passing down the crib wont work since we will be turning it into a toddler bed in the next few weeks. I really want 2 more cribs like hers but they are $420 each. The nice thing is I know they will last forever b/c they are sturdy and a great product. I guess it's good they babies will be here close to income tax season lol!

 

Yes, but it was my 3rd shower (3rd pregnancy-two babies). It was a wonderful shower and everyone enjoyed themselves. Don't feel bad, let your family do it if they want to, twins put you in a whole different ball park. :unsure: :unsure:

Congratulations on your twin pregnancy. Best wishes for a happy, healthy pregnancy and beyond!!

 

For me, a shower is about celebrating the imminent arrival of a new life (or lives ). If I were to get pregnant again, I would be terribly sad if no one wanted to celebrate that new baby.

 

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Thank you all so much for responding! I feel better knowing I'm not the only twin mom who will get a 2nd shower. My daughter will be 2 on July 28 and I guess I was just feeling guilty about people giving us stuff for a 2nd pregnany when DD is still so young. I'm not really worried about clothes since they will be baptized before 8 weeks old and our familys usually give tons of clothes for that. Plus they are coming close to Christmas. I guess I'm more worried about the big stuff....like two cribs, another car seat, twin stroller and play stuff like a bouncer. I bought a very nice 3 in 1 crib for DD so passing down the crib wont work since we will be turning it into a toddler bed in the next few weeks. I really want 2 more cribs like hers but they are $420 each. The nice thing is I know they will last forever b/c they are sturdy and a great product. I guess it's good they babies will be here close to income tax season lol!



I have one suggestion for you CRAIGS LIST! oh and another one....hook up with your local twin club sale. I have seen beautiful cribs sold there (matching of course!)

Your babies don't have to go right to a crib either....you could use a pack n play at first until you get the cribs up!

 

No shower here, however I would have jumped at the chance if someone had wanted to throw me one. There is just so much stuff you need with twins!

 

Yes, we did get a twin shower...we had a boy the first pregnancy, and this time we are expecting two girls...so while we had a lot of the big stuff, we needed everything else in pink! As a suggestion, you might want to hold off on asking/registering for a second swing, exersaucer, etc...you never know what the babies will actually like and use...for example, my son HATED his swing...the thing sat there collecting dust...so I"m going to wait and see if the girls even like it...one might the other might not...if they both do, I'll run down to the local consignment store or check craigslist for a second one.

I agree with PP that a shower is the celebration of a new little life...I think that subsequent showers tend to be smaller affairs, but it's fun to get together!!!

 

Hi Jennifer,
I don't have much experience with showers because they don't do it in UK. If you mom want's to throw you a shower then that's brilliant - don't feel guilty! If you didn't, you would be denying her the opportunity to feel involved in an very exciting event! If it feels awkward don't do the other family. Maybe you should do one with close friends and they can bring baby stuff that they don't need anymore. Not everything has to be new especially if it wasn't used much.


In addition, or the other option is to make a list of the things you think you need and then after the babies are born you can either invite your closest friends & family over to meet the babies and do a register (tell them what you need) or just wait until people ask if there is anything you would like and you will have the list already prepared.

I don't think I'm going to have a shower unless someone throws me a surprise one - I have a deep rooted Jewish superstition that I don't want any baby stuff in the house until after the babies are born. (which will change nearer the time when I get paniced about all the stuff I need!) Both my sisters have kids and are not having any more - so they are waiting to send me all their stuff from UK and Canada! My husband want to make the cribs and other baby furniture. I will make a list of anything else big that we need and let people know who ask, or register.
hope that helps
good luck!

 

Yes, I had an older DD when I was pregnant with the twins and I did get a shower.

 

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No shower here, however I would have jumped at the chance if someone had wanted to throw me one. There is just so much stuff you need with twins!


What she said

 

I wont' be getting a shower either and gotta say I'm a bit sad about it lol. But I think we will do something like a meet the babies bbq after they are born

 

I did have a shower for my twins, but it was 7 years after I had my son, and I was having girls and had already gotten rid of every baby thing imaginable. I, personally, don't see anything wrong with having a baby shower after you've already had another child when you're expecting twins. There is twice as much stuff needed and a shower is where you can get alot of that much needed help.