Did/do you secretly hope for another set?

When we were going for our first u/s with Liam, we were kind of hoping it would be another set of twins. There was a little bit of a letdown when we found out there was just one baby in there, even though we knew we were very lucky to be having another. He has been a joy and it has been wonderful seeing what it is like to have one baby at a time, but that hope was in the back of our minds when we found out we were expecting. Crazy, yes??

Anyone else have those feelings?

 

Count me in!!! I would LOVE another set of twins. My girls are awesome, they were great sleepers (still are) and we had no major problems with them. I always said that if I could be guarenteed another set of twins as good as my girls, I would take it in a heartbeat! However, for financial reasons and with my job situation, we are hoping this one is a singleton. Before my job situation, I would have been SO excited about the potential of having twins again. Don't get me wrong, we would still be excited if we find out in a few weeks that it's twins again, it would just be really scary financially. I'm looking for a new job (b/c mine goes part-time August 6) and I don't need the complications of a twin pregnancy (like I had with the girls) on top of the potential of finding a new job. KWIM?

So, I guess I definitely wanted another set, but that changed with all the recent things that we've had going on outside of baby land. But, we would be THRILLED with either! DH isn't fond of another set, he wants just one...but I would be SO excited with another set. You just learn to make ANYTHING work!

 

yes!!! I think the only way to describe it is the letdown you would feel over opening up a gift box in which you expected 2 wonderful presents and you only find one... You are still thrilled over that one, but somehow you feel like something is missing. Can you imagine how higher order multiple moms feel if they go on to have just one!! They really feel like something is missing!!

 

I was just thinking the other day that I might be sad if I find out that we are "only" having 1. I really don't know how I would handle bedrest with 2 toddlers though. I guess I'll know soon - our first u/s is August 3rd!

 

No. I can honestly say that I am really looking forward to experiencing being a mom of a singleton this time. I love my girls and I love being a mom of twins. But, I want to experience what its like having one. Plus, financially it would have been really hard on us to have twins again.

I can say that the first u/s pics that we got looked funny to me because I was so used to seeing two babies. And, DH and I still incorrectly say "when the BABIES are born", "THEY" etc.... it's hard to break the plural thing.

 

I did! I wanted another set, and I didn't really care the genders! Everytime I go in for an u/s we ask my OB are you sure there is only one!?

 

Absolutely NOT. LOL. My boys nearly put me in the loony bin. But, I did kind of experience a little letdown when we confirmed just one. I just think it's "special" to be given twins, ya know? It can be h*ll but special nonetheless. If I had twins like Becky's, I might say sure. But, alas, I don't. LOL.

 

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Absolutely NOT. LOL. My boys nearly put me in the loony bin. But, I did kind of experience a little letdown when we confirmed just one. I just think it's "special" to be given twins, ya know? It can be h*ll but special nonetheless. If I had twins like Becky's, I might say sure. But, alas, I don't. LOL.


That's the complexity of the feelings I went through... some disappointment...and at the same time a rational realization that this was best for my family!! and for my own sanity. I'm really, really hoping this kid sleeps well. My first didn't sleep all that great...and your first is always difficult no matter what...then the twins, well, there were two so obviously it was difficult too... so I'm hoping I finally get that "this is old hat, piece of cake" kind of feeling...but I'm afraid that perhaps I just don't do well on any sleep deprivation at all. But why can't my kids be like typical kids...sleeping 5 or 6 hours at 3 weeks... why must they be up every 2 hours for months on end??!!! :wacko: My mom says I'm due for a sleeper, but I'm not sure I believe her!!

 

My husband was very sad. There was actually a chance that we would have another set b/c we were using frozen embryos and had done our last two together. I was just happy to be pregnant, and pretty much relieved to see one baby. I had a terrible pregnancy last time... and, although I"m not on bedrest yet, this pregnancy is not going much better...

 

When I was pg with Andrew I secretly wanted another set. There is something special about having twins . As my pregnancy progress I thought it was pretty great to have one too. I felt very blessed to be pregnant. When he was born it was so different with him and special because there he was only one. Maybe I'm weird but with the girls I always felt like I was spending so much time with one verses the other and was constantly worried that I was giving too much time to one or the other. I felt like I had the best of both worlds. I know what it's like to be a mom of twins and then a mom of one.

With this pg I honestly hope there is just one. I can't carry twins very well. One of the reason we wanted to get pg so quickly is for a close sibling for Andrew since the girls are so close. I don't think there is a chance of twins since this happen naturally so I'm not too worried about it.


Elizabeth

 

We would have liked to have twins again!! It was a little sad to only see one baby at our U/S but like others have said, exciting too. I am excited to go thru a new experience. How many of our friends will get to know two totally different pregnancies? Plus, my Dr. has said that a VBAC is a strong possibility for me this time so I will get to experience a different delivery as well.

We are just excited!!!

 

I got pregnant again (suprise!) 4 months after our twins were born, and I was TERRIFIED it would be another set.....Thankfully it was just one because having 3 in 13 months was hard enough! Lol. But, we're TTC again, and I find myself hoping for twins again all the time.

 

We have talked about having more children....secretly I do want twins again!!

 

I had a singleton before my twins and I'm pregnant again now. I knew when we were thinking about having this baby that whether we had 1 or 2 that I'd be a little disappointed and very excited. There is something so special and sweet about having 1 baby and I really felt that I missed out on a lot of my girls' first 2 years because I spent so much time on the basics of feeding/changing/putting to sleep that I didn't get to enjoy them as individuals as much. Also, I don't think I can carry twins to term and I did not want a repeat NICU experience and possible issues resulting from their prematurity. On the other hand, twins are so cool and special and fun that I'd have loved to have had that experience again. We are having one this time and I'm really looking forward to it but I was a little sad about what we are missing out on with not having twins. I know if we were having twins that I'd be thrilled but also sad to not have my singleton experience again.

I think having twins and a singleton or 2 is the best combination for us! I never wonder what I'm missing.

 

Oh NO! Not here!! I would love another ONE! But if there were two I think I'd have a heart attack!

 

Absolutely! We have our U/S next week and I'll cry if it's a singleton and I'll cry if it's twins! I'm more than happy with anything I get. We have such a hard time getting pregnant and I know that there is a reason for all things....

I actually thought twins was easier than a singleton. Busier for sure, but much easier for me. They entertain each other so well and really, I am lucky to have pretty easy babies.

Wanting twins is no secret here. DH will probably pass out if we get 2 again. I will be thrillllllllllled!

 

Crazy, we did secretly want another set... maybe because it's what we get used to?
However, 1 has turned out to be just as nice
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Dh wants another one. Although i am still vry much against the idea, the thought that if I do fall pregnant again, that is woudl be twin boys have crossed my mind and well it did not make me want to run to the hills screaming. So I guess, yes secretly i have the same hope... ugh what, Am I Crazy..

 

DH and I have never really talked about it. We are not having anymore babies but I have said that if I was promised at least one girl and I wouldn't be as sick as I was early on in the pregnancy then I would have another set of twins.

 

I would have liked another set, I mostly feel bad for my daughter not having that built in best friend, I think that is part of why I am really hoping for another girl this time....

 

Not here. We always wanted three children. If it would have happened, we would have dealt and been fine with it, but we are happy that there is just one coming this time around.

 

I just really wanted one. I'm happy with what we got.

 

I was definitely hoping for another set. But not secretly. I was let down when we only saw one baby on the screen and a boy at that (I wanted another girl). The Lord knew what he was doing though because now that I've experienced a happy singleton I think I was crazy to want multiples again and this little boy is an absolute joy. I like the singleton lifestyle. I don't know what people with only one good baby do all day!

If I was guaranteed an uncomplicated pregnancy, I would be open to another set of multiples but I don't want the pregnancy issues. My singleton pregnancy was a breeze, even over 41 weeks, and I definitely prefer it that way.

 

I was hoping that it might be twins again, but I have to admit that it will be nice to experience it all with a singleton.

 

I wanted twins again, and everyone knew!!

 

Im kinda hoping its twins again, although I have been keeping it quiet, it was so hard losing twins the first time, I didnt want to jinx anything this time around. but since we found out were pregnant on the day we lost the twins one year ago, maybe thats a sign, we have our first u/s at 6 weeks on the 26th.

 

No, no, no!
I love my boys but I thought having twins was awful. I loved the idea of having twins, the double buggy, the stares and comments, but I hated the having 2 babies part! They were terribly difficult babies (one more so than the other), who didn't sleep through the night until over a year old and the physical tiredness and stress was nothing compared to the mental stress I felt; I just felt I was never fair to both.
I never had that bonding time, because my mind was constantly thinking if the other one was loved enough, cared for enough, if I was spoiling one and abusing the other one with my absence.
To this day I feel like I can't be fair to them, I feel that they are such great potential kids, but because they have had to fight for attention since they were born, they are so difficult. To this day I feel guilty about everything.
It is probably this that made me put them in different schools, schools that could do them justice and where they would be the only one there. Where they wouldn't have to fight for attention with a brother.

Now the baby is just amazing. She is one of those incredibly good children (my husband says "god" owed us one child like this after the "terrible twins"), she literally never cries, is content with lying on the floor forever, has no problem with anyone. Wakes up with a smile and goes to bed with a smile, eats well, sleeps well, and even though she is contantly hassled, she just grins and rolls away.
Now if my twins had been like her, children that could entertain themselves, that were content, that made life easy, yeah maybe I would have enjoyed the twinness of it. But now I just adore my mornings when it is just me and the baby. Being able to take her places, to carry her for hours without feeling guilty, to go to gymboree and swimming, without thinking the second one will drown... it is just amazing!
Millie

 

I think that's what got me into trouble. I started worrying about how the third child was going to feel with twin older sisters. I was worried that they would be left out and wasn't sure that I only wanted to have three children.. and what do you know I'm pregnant with another set of twins.
We are excited but I can tell you that another set of twins brings another set of worries.. (just like any child would)

 

We have a singleton and twins. We weren't sure we wanted more children after the three. we always wanted four but the three of them was quite crazy. They would be out of diapers soon and we were even thinking we could take a much needed vacation. Well, we decided that since we were young and we really wanted four, we didn't want to get fixed and regret it later. We thpought it better that all the kids be close. So we weren't really trying. I got off birth control and we used other protection. Then we had one night of fun and guess what we are expecting again. Even better we are having TWINS again. I was hoping for one but felt I would be dissapointed if there was one. I felt horrible with my last twin pregnancy that I really hoped I didn't have to go through that again especially now that I have 3 to take care of. Never thought I would have 5 children age 4 and under, but here we are trying to make the most out of it. I am excited. I haven't heard many people say "oh I have 2 sets." My biggest worry is I am a SAHM and we are on a strict budget and I will have to hire help if I go on bedrest and to be able to get any rest once they are born. Not so worried about it being two, been there done that, what a wild ride this will be, mostly financially.