DH wants to separate the babies

DH says tonight the babies should be in their own cribs. I really don't want to separate them yet. I know they love cuddling. When DS is crying DD will scoot right over to him to sooth him. I guess when he went into their room this morning he was kicking her in the head. She wasn't crying, but he is very strong and DH is paranoid he is going to hurt her. I do have a foam bumper that I could put between them, but is that just like putting them in different cribs??? I want them together as long as possible, what do I do?

 

I think if its a matter of safety, then maybe DH is right. Mine never slept together .. so I didnt have the issue of separating them .. but they have always slept very close to each other .. just in separate beds.

Good luck with your decision !

 

I've been thinking a lot about this lately so I want to see what responses you get. My ped said to seperate for SIDS risk...I kind of don't believe that since they are so aware of eachother and all they wanted to do was cuddle, but I guess it's possible if they got into a bad position. I hate having them seperate at night b/c during the day sometimes I let them nap together (when I'm in the room) and they seem so much calmer...but now that she said it, I don't want to take a risk.

 

I think putting them into different cribs is a good idea if safety is a concern. Mine were in separate cribs at two months. They can still be near each other if they share a room.

 

I ended up separating mine because they were kicking each other all the time also... We only did it at 4.5 month because we were waiting for the second crib or we would have done it before.

 

I used a crib divider for a while. When they were 5 months they went into seperate cribs. I took it much harder then they did. They honestly could have cared less.

 

I think you should do what is best for your babies. My boys never slept together. I tried it once and they weren't happy. So they have always slept in their own crib.

 

Do what you feel is right for you & your babies.

My babies slept together everyday until they were 2 yrs old. We had no problems ever. They bumped into each other, slept on top of each other & yes, occasionally kicked each other.

It was all fine. If they are not having a problem (unable to sleep at all, etc), why mess with it?


Babies sleeping together is beautiful!

 

I agree it's whatever is best for you. Ours still sleep together and I don't see us changing that anytime soon. Sometimes I put a rolled up blanket in between them but usually I don't.

 

I've also been thinking about this topic as I find my two wake eachother up now, and also my DS is getting too big for the crib the way they sleep. Mine are in sleep positioners and they really don't move much yet except for scooting up. I've just been feeling bad about it because they are now becoming more aware of eachother and I catch them cooing and looking at eachother. It would be mean to seperate them now.

 

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I ended up separating mine because they were kicking each other all the time also... We only did it at 4.5 month because we were waiting for the second crib or we would have done it before.



My babies are basically the same age as yours We separated them into their own cribs last week for the same reason above. I know how you feel--I didn't want to move them out of the same crib--but know it's better for safety sake and so they have personal space. But tummy time and other daytime activies are spent together!!

 

same here. i didnt want to seperate them cuz they look so cute sleeping together, but we did it about a month ago. since then DD has been sleeping through the night about 90% of the time. they would hit/kick eachother and wake eachother up, so it was for the better.

 

My girls were in different isolettes in the NICU(obviously) and different isolettes/cribs in the children's hospital so fortunatly I never had to worry about seperating them. Once in a while I will let them "nap" together during the day but I find they don't get "good" sleep. When one moves the other wakes. Punches are throw. Kicks are given. So I do let the enjoy each other's company by napping together once in awhile.. but for nighttime sleep they are in thier own cribs. I can really tell the difference. Maybe it's just what they are used to. Good luck with the spereration process. Maybe don't cut them off alltogther right away. Try to do a nap here or there by themselves.. It might help to ease them into the process. Good Luck!!!

 

I seperated mine at around 2mnths, because they were kicking each other and waking each other up, so I was a little worried one would get hurt. And, honestly mine didn't even seem to notice that they weren't in the same crib anymore!

 

My babies and yours are about the same age. Ours actually never really slept together - I think from the time they got home they loooved to stretch and move specially my son who was a big kicker, and my daughter was a bit smaller than him, so when it came to night time sleep, we put each in their crib. They sleep beautifully and still do.
Of course during the day they play next to each other etc, but i prefer them separate, at least they never really woke up the other in the middle of the night for feedings.

However, i feel it's a preference - do what works for you!