dh says they are spoiled ALREADY!

my babies are happiest sitting with me and breastfeeding -dh says I
have spoiled them but they are only going to be 3 weeks old tomorrow
they are growing and need to eat - I have given them a little bit of
formula and let dh feed them - they drink it but will make faces at
first - I tell dh that it is because they are not used to the bottle
or to the formula not because they are trying to tell him that they don't want him to feed them or something silly!!

 

my babies are happiest sitting with me and breastfeeding -dh says I
have spoiled them but they are only going to be 3 weeks old tomorrow
they are growing and need to eat - I have given them a little bit of
formula and let dh feed them - they drink it but will make faces at
first - I tell dh that it is because they are not used to the bottle
or to the formula not because they are trying to tell him that they don't want him to feed them or something silly!!

 

Oh boy, mine says the same thing when they cry and I rush to see what's the matter, he thinks that that's "spoiling" them ... no, it's paying attention to their needs!!!

 

It's not him it's the formula. I bet if he had your breastmilk in the bottle it would be a different story. And there is NO WAY you can spoil a 3 week old! Keep doing what you're doing and enjoy every minute of it

 

I think, oh wait.... How silly! No way are they spoiled that young. They're just HAPPY and taken care of, which is what they need! Maybe he's just feeling a little left out & jealous.

 

I think so!!

 

there really so little! there's no way to spoil them. keep doing what you're doing! why would you try to give them formula if you are happy and they are happy with the breastfeeding? if it's just for your dh to participate maybe he could do something else?

 

You CANNOT spoil a baby under 6 months of age!

Husbands!

 

Thank you, I don't think I spoil them either. Riley will crawl over to me and cry and stand up and put her arms out - so I pick her up and she stops crying. So automatically I spoil her and it's all my fault that she whines and cries all the time.

 

There is absolutely no way that you are spoiling them already!! Daddy's just take some getting used to period when it comes to babies! It's hard when the dh doesn't understand.

 

Totally opposite here! My DH runs every time they cry! To them that is! Even when they make a peep!

 

there is NO WAY to Spoing a child at this young an age and for at least the first year. Bottom line, if your baby cries for something, they probably need something and don't have the brain maturity to understand why, they jsut want that thing.

Babies need to learn higher level brain behaviors -- and your ability to breastfeed them and be there for them in the first 12 monts to 2 yrs is critical to ensuring that they will be indiependent little beings beyond 2 years.

There's a great book called the "science of parenting" and it discusses brain development in the human baby -- it may be worth a look to help discusswhy what you're doing with your kids right now is PERFECT for them.

As for supplementing, I would forego the formula at this early of a stage and pump breastmilk if you want to give yoru kids bottles. formula supplementation is a slippery slope on yoru milk supply -- which is not fully established for a few weeks out.

Oh well. I hope I don't sound preachy... do what you think is best for your babies. you're doing the right things!!

Teri D