DH going out of town

Okay so Dh leaves Sunday at noon for Denver for work and doesn't get back until late Thursday night. My mom is staying here Sunday ngith for sure but I dont' know about the rest of the nights! The boys have been so bad at slepping lately I dont' know what I'm going to do (i have major issues sleeping ever since PPD meds and Dh does all the night shifts) I can't expect my mom to do them! I'm just trying to figure out how I'm going to survive! feeding all by myself cleaning, EVERYTHING!!
So there really wasn't a question in here just need to vent but any added advice would be great!

 

QUOTE(Mommy Rash @ Nov 2 2007, 07:25 PM) [snapback]478334[/snapback]
Okay so Dh leaves Sunday at noon for Denver for work and doesn't get back until late Thursday night. My mom is staying here Sunday ngith for sure but I dont' know about the rest of the nights! The boys have been so bad at slepping lately I dont' know what I'm going to do (i have major issues sleeping ever since PPD meds and Dh does all the night shifts) I can't expect my mom to do them! I'm just trying to figure out how I'm going to survive! feeding all by myself cleaning, EVERYTHING!!
So there really wasn't a question in here just need to vent but any added advice would be great!


Just know that some things have to be let go - just keep everyone fed and do your best with everything else. Sleep when they sleep (or at least rest). Just know that lots of moms do this every day, and you can too! You're going to feel great knowing you can handle it.

Good luck!

Best,
Mia

 

QUOTE(Mommy Rash @ Nov 2 2007, 11:25 AM) [snapback]478334[/snapback]
Okay so Dh leaves Sunday at noon for Denver for work and doesn't get back until late Thursday night. My mom is staying here Sunday ngith for sure but I dont' know about the rest of the nights! The boys have been so bad at slepping lately I dont' know what I'm going to do (i have major issues sleeping ever since PPD meds and Dh does all the night shifts) I can't expect my mom to do them! I'm just trying to figure out how I'm going to survive! feeding all by myself cleaning, EVERYTHING!!
So there really wasn't a question in here just need to vent but any added advice would be great!


how old are the twins?

What specifically are their sleep issues (ie., how bad is the night)? Maybe Gma could split the night shifts with you and come over during the day on the nights you have them so you can catch up on some zzzs?

Foodwise, I'd make a couple of casseroles to stick in the freezer, that way you can pull one out each night after the kids go to bed, pop it into the frig in the morning, and stick it into the oven 45 minutes before dinner with no fuss. Maybe plan a crock pot meal one night and chop up all the veggies/meat so it's ready to go from frig to crock pot in the am.


I say as far as 'cleaning' goes, do what is necessary and leave the rest until DH gets back. I always make sure I get 30-minutes of stuff done as soon as the boys go down for nap/bed so I don't get sucked into the couch! I start with what's most pressing and anything that doesn't get done in the 30-minutes just has to wait.


You can totally do this. DH takes business trips every so often and my boys have always been terrible sleepers. Don't underestimate the power of a willing Grandma!

 

My husband travels every week, so I have had a lot more time to get used to this! Don't be hard on yourself. Let the piddly cleaning stuff go!! Don't do floors or windows or dusting. Just clean the things you need to use again!!

I feed simple. Think eggs for dinner, hot dogs or drive thru one time. You'll be JUST FINE!! You can handle it.

I'm sorry about the overnight stuff. That's really rough. It is irritating that mine have started waking up at 4:00 a.m. because that's when they finally get cold from kicking their covers off. I have to go in and re-cozy them. It gets my heart pumping and I am awake for a min. of 45 min. as a result. I feel ya!!! I'm not suffering from the depression, but the good news is that you are only doing a few days and not 2-3 weeks. :hug99:

Your Mom might be able to help you get a good nap on the days that she's there. I would ask her for that!! Good luck!! :hug99: We are here for you!

 

My DH goes out of town every so often and it's really not that bad. In fact, sometimes it even goes smoother. Since I am a horrible cook, I buy some frozen things or make simple stuff for dinner, like grilled cheese. I clean when they are in bed for the night. I'm sorry about the sleep issues. If you aren't getting a full night's sleep, go ahead and take a nap at their nap time. Oh, I also do stuff like get as much ready for the morning as I can, like pour milk in sippy cups and stick them in the fridge, cut up fruit, etc. I take my shower before I get them in the morning. Good luck!

 

I went through the same thing back in September. I totally dreaded it, but it turned out to not be that bad at all. My mom helped out a bit when I couldn't be there at night, etc. which was only a couple nights. I couldn't really plan meals very well because, since dh works out of the house, he usually gets dinner going and it's ready by the time I get home with the girls. This time didn't work out like that. I tried but I think we did do take out a few times. Healthy take out, but still take out.

 

QUOTE(Snittens @ Nov 2 2007, 06:51 PM) [snapback]478984[/snapback]
My DH goes out of town every so often and it's really not that bad. In fact, sometimes it even goes smoother.



I agree. DH works out of the house, and I often find it is more meddlesome than helpful.

 

so sorry!
I feel your pain, literally!

my dh left yesterday for arizona until Wed and last moth was in Dallas for 5 days. 5 days alone with 4 kids is a bit@*!

You can do it!

 

My dh was just out of town recently for 8 days, so I feel your pain! Well, sort of.....I only have 2 & we all slept pretty ok.

Something that helped me a LOT was I made a meal plan before he left & got all my groceries so that every night I had something right there for dinner. And I had a couple "emergency" dinners like a frozen pizza for those crazy days. Then about 1/3 way through the week we went to Toys R Us and got a new toy & that helped a lot too. I also had a list of the pay per view movies if I wanted to watch something later at night if I couldn't sleep (I never sleep as well when he's gone.) That way I didn't have to worry about going to the video store.

Good luck!

 

I have an active duty Coastie, he's home for 3 weeks and gone for 2 months usually. I freaked too when I heard about the pace he's in and out. You'll be suprised at yourself at what you can do. It's good your mom is coming. Support is always welcomed and a saftey net.
My girls have always slept fairly well, so not sure how you're going to do nights there. Sounds like you two are a bit more complicated for sleeping arrangements, but you'll do it and find the strength and you'll be amazed at yourself at how well you and they did when it's all over.
I second PP about keeping things /meals simple. And usually I try to keep up with the dishes when I'm feeling particulary overwhelmed. Sounds like you can catch up on everything else when your hubby comes home..
Good luck, you won't need much, you'll suprise yourself!
Keep us posted on your week.