Dealing with little girl things.. please help!

Joy is my only girl, so I am a little new to all this girlie part stuff. The boys have never had a problem with us having to touch them down there, they love to wag their little pee pees around. Joy has always been very guarded. SInce she was a little baby. She does not like to be touched down there, and if she does have a diaper rash or I have to clean her really well (like a blow out diaper) she is very resistant to me having to clean down there. Is this normal for some little girls? Is it some kind of inborn need to protect it? I would feel better knowing that some of you have little girls like this too!

 

My daughter Faith is like this. When she was in diapers she didn't even want me to look at her to check for diaper rash. She always fought me trying to wipe her. Now that she's potty trained and wipes herself things are better. She does still sleep in a pull-up and one day she was putting her panties on and I thought she looked red and wanted to look she had a fit. I don't know if it's related but she more sensitive and easily upset than my other girls. Now that she does a good job washing herself in the tub I try not to worry about it too much.

 

omg, BOTH my dds are like this. it is soooooo hard to clean them in there during diaper changes. they squeeze their legs together as soon as i go to clean in there. i guess it feels weird to them? or maybe it kind of hurts? i try to be as gentle as possible but sometimes I literally have to hold open their legs with my arms and/or knees to spread them wide enough so i can clean in there. especially when they have pooped i get really concerned of infection if it's not clean enough. part of me is annoyed because it makes it so hard and when you have to do this several times a day with 2 girls it's frustrating. on the other hand i keep hoping and praying that they keep their legs shut for many many years to come, if ykwim? :laughing:

 

my 2nd dd is like that too. I always try to be extra gently adn slow and talk in a very soft soothing voice. When that doesn't work, distraction (but that ususally doesn't work).

She stops crying the minute I'm done cleaning her.

 

MY DAUGHTER IS THE OPPOSITE.. SHE LOVES TO BE NAKED LIKE THE BOYS..

THE BIG THING I FIND IS WHEN CLEANING HER.. LOOK IN HER EYES, HER SMILE, HER CUTE LITTLE NOSE
GET HER TO TOUCH HER HEAD, NOSE CHEEKS,,

DONT MAKE SUCH A BIGGIE ABOUT LOOKING DOWN THERE.. AND SHEWONT MAKE IT AS BIG A DEAL..

THE ONLY TIME I REALLY LOOK DEEP IS TO BE SURE I GOT EVERYTHING ONCE THE ENITIAL CLEANING IS DONE..
BUT IM STILL PLAYING WITH HER DURRING DIAPER CLEANINGS..

GOOD LUCK..

 

It really depends on what else is happening at the time for us. If I just go about my business and get the job done, and talk to them while I'm doing it, no big deal. Sometimes, if it was a very messy diaper, then they will do this since I have so much wiping to do. Maggie isn't shy at bath time, or while changing clothes in the morning, but she is on the potty.

 

I'm glad I'm not the only one going thru this. My DD acts the same way. It's to the point where my DH will not clean her down there because it freaks him out. Whenever I tell her that I need to clean her down there, she starts to whine or cry. Once I'm done cleaning her, she's fine.

 

Thank you to all that responded! I have often thought of asking, but for some reason felt uncomfortable sharing it. She has been this way since she first came home from the hospital. I would clean her as a newborn and she would start to wiggle. Now that she is 2.5, it is getting harder. She closes her legs and will not let us down there. My DH too won't clean her anymore unless he has to, because he refuses to force her legs open. I don't blame him. As a man it must make him uncomfortable!

Thanks for letting me know I am not the only one!

 

My daughter is this way too. It's tender down there. If you had to did in the folds to clean out a mess it would be discomforting to you too. :unsure: I think it just feels uncomfortable to them. And once it's hurt they are gonna be alot more protective of the area.

On real bad diapers I give her a quick bubble bath. Then the area is always clean when I take her out. She's very protective of her area too.

 

My girls are like this, especially when I have to clean them up after a poopy diaper. I don't like forcing their legs open either! I guess it's just what we have to do until they are potty trained and can wipe themselves.

 

My DD was 3 in June, she started right about her birthday not wanting DH to bathe & diaper her anymore. We were both surprisedd...didn't think it would start that young...it's interesting that some started as infants.

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on the other hand i keep hoping and praying that they keep their legs shut for many many years to come, if ykwim? :laughing:

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