Daycare

Hi ladies! We have sent the kids to daycare 2 days/week for 2 weeks. They did ok. But i have some concerns

Today we went picked them up. Nolan was ok, but i heard some kid was crying. I realized its was her crying. I saw her was hiding at the corner and cried. Not upset. Bur the teacher didnt try to calm her down at all. Then i triedto put her jacket on. She threw a fit. We went home she was upset and cried for over 1 hr. i dont know what happened today though.

Before we came picked them up. Nolan didnt cry but michelle did. Teachers always told us that "oh shes upset because another teacher left the room" i kindda think they lied to us. I dont feel comfortable to send them there

Also today michelle face was so dirty. Looked like she rubbed sth around her face. Bob said maybe she tried to eat sth not food when she was hungry. They didnt eat lunch at school today, refused. Hey dont get used to te food yet though. So i usually feed them breakfast, then they will have snack, lunh, snack at school. Then dinner at home. Usually when we pick them up, we bring milk, hotdogs or food. They eat so fast so we know they are hungry.

My concern is that if the teachers have been honest to us. I understand that my kids will cry. Daycare is totally new to them. Everytime i called to check on them, their teacher said "they are doing great blah blah blah" i dont think they are really 100% honest though.

What do you think? Have you experienced this situation before? Am i overworried? Tia!

 

My kids stay at home with a nanny, so no experience with day care, but I would say follow your instinct. If you don’t feel comfortable sending your kids there, don’t. The other alternative is to visit the day care during the day when they don’t expect to see you. I know that you also work so this might be difficult. Is there an alternative day care that you could try?

Good luck

 

I don't have kids in daycare either but I agree. If you are not feeling comfortable with them there, I would look for another place. I think dropping in when they don't expect you is also a good idea.
Another suggestion might be to bring your concerns to the director in a nice way, perhaps he/she can speak to the teachers and find out what's going on.
Good luck!

 

I agree with stopping in unannounced and if you don't like what you see, go with your instinct and take them out. Are the other children in the daycare dirty or unhappy?

 

Drop in for sure. As a former daycare coordinator, I encourage it. An open door policy shows that there is nothing to hide. While it is true that young ones cry and get dirty at times, it should never be a consistent issue. Go with your gut of course, but definitely drop in!

 

I agree to go with your gut and to make an unannounced, mid-day visit. We had my daughter going to daycare 1-2 days a week for a few months and she would sometimes cry when I dropped her off. But for several weeks she almost ALWAYS cried when I picked her up. What made that okay for me was what the daycare provider said about how she had spent the day. She would talk about how my daughter was so good at this or that thing that I know she loves to do (and I had not mentioned). That told me that she was fine during the day. So if the teachers aren't doing anything to mitigate your concerns, it is definitely worth exploring deeper.

 

I do find that once we get to daycare for pickup, the teachers immediately abdicate responsibility to us, so that could explain why they were leaving her to you. And crying is normal at first, and getting dirty is normal.

All that said, if you aren't comfortable, go with your gut. Drop in unannounced to see what is happening or just pull them to another place. There's a reason your gut feeling is off. An it's a lot of things that are bugging you--not just one thing that might be them getting used to daycare.

 

Thank you so much ladies! My husband and I have been discussing about this. We are not sure that the daycare is not good yet. All the kids there are happy and clean. My boy starts getting used to it. He doesnt cry when we pick them up. And their diapers are always clean when we pick them up. Last time was the only time my daughter's face was dirty. We came to conclusion that my daughter has become very needy lately. She likes to be held alot. And the past week, they got runny noses and did not feel well. So she was double needy. The teacher told us that when she was mad, she totally shut down, just sat there and starred at nothing, and quietly cried. Well I know my girl. So I dont blame them not to pick her up. I dont want them got special treat at daycare either. But my husband and I have a problem if she cries for hours which her teacher said she didnt cry that long. Its great if the teacher has been 100% honest. I dont know. So tomorrow, I will drop them off and pick them up earlier. Usually, I pick them up at 5. I will at 3:30 tomorrow. If she cries at 3:30, then I am sure she cries over an hour at daycare. Another reason that she cries so much is she is hungry at the end of the day. They refuse daycare food. And we are not allowed to send food in. So they usually have breakfast at home then eat nothing or just a bit at school, then huge dinner at night.

We have not decided to change daycare yet. Its hard to find available spots for 2 and only 2 days/week. Plus, its so hard on the kids if we switch them. Then they will have to start over again. I hope she will have better day tomorrow, because she is over the cold and runny noses.

Daycare is not our main childcare. They have baby sitter. We all love the baby sitter. But when she is sick, my life is such a mess. So we want to have backup. Plus, they thought the kids needed to have friends.

So what should I do if I find out she cries over an hour at daycare? Should I just stop sending them, or give them sometime to adjust? I will leave for business trip on tuesday, and come back on friday. They go to daycare on monday and wednesday. I am just so worried how they will do at daycare on wednesday. Plus, this is the first time I will be away from them that long. It is so hard on me.

Thank you!