Daycare mom's....please tell me they will be ok

I just enrolled the boys in a Kids Day Out program at a local church. It's from 9-11:30 every Monday. Today was their first day and as the teacher's took them in the room they each starting screaming and crying. They stress to leave right away so that's what I did. As I was walking down the hall, I could hear them and I almost started to cry.

It's been 40 minutes and I'm waiting for my phone to go off telling me to come and get them because they won't calm down.

On the positive side, I now will have (hopefully) 2 1/2 hours to myself every Monday morning. Right now I'm at a Barnes & Noble on my laptop having a cup of coffee. I feel lost without them and don't know what I will do for the next 1 1/2 hours.

All I keep hearing is them screaming as I left.

It will be ok.....it will be ok......right???

 

It will be okay!! I promise. Give it a couple weeks. They may cry a little every time you leave for a couple weeks, but they are probably fine shortly after you leave. Mine still go through odd stages where they don't really cry but whine for me not to leave. Jack went through one for a couple weeks 2 months ago. Now, I can't get him to come tell me goodbye he's having so much fun!

 

Of course Judy! :hug:

It will take some time ... your boys are old enough to realize what's going on ... so it's going to be a rough week or so getting them in the swing of things! But they will get used to it and end up loving it! They will make friends, do all sorts of fun stuff, and you'll be sad because they'll be disappointed when you come to get them!

Mine are in full time daycare since I work, and they have told me to "Go away Mommy" a few times when I've picked them up because they want to stay and play more!

Hang in there!

 

:hug: It will take some time and the second day may be worse because they will *know* what is going to happen, but it does get better! :hug: Enjoy your free time!

 

Thanks. It's been an hour and still no phone call. Since they will only be going one day a week, I know it's going to be rough for awhile. I can enroll them up to 3 days a week and I may adds another day later on, but I wanted to take it slowly and see how they do.

Just hearing them screaming and having to just walk away breaks my heart. I swear, I could not sleep last night. I woke at 3:00 and finally got up a little after 5:00.

I know it will be good for them and me.

 

Yes! They will be just fine...and don't feel bad! Enjoy this time to yourself and relax--do something just for you. It will get easier and easier each day, and soon they will be running to daycare!

 

They will be fine and were likely done crying before you got to the car!

Mine have been going since 6 weeks and there are still times they cry when I leave (and other days they don't even notice). If we had a particularly bad morning or I'm concerned for some reason I stand by the door where they can't see me. It's never been more than a couple of minutes before they were eating or playing. Talking to the teacher afterward may make you more comfortable too.

Even if they did a bit of crying this time, it will only get better and they will have fun and you will get a break. You deserve a break!

 

It will be okay!!! DS has moments now & then where he cries when I leave, but DD is usually so happy to be there, she doesn't even see me leave. I've stood outside the door though & listened to DS cry & he does usually stop really quickly after I leave. And at the end of the day, they are both so happy to see me---when they coming running to you with open arms, that's a great feeling!

 

Mine have been in daycare since they were 6 weeks old and still Lauren cries every morning. Some mornings it is only a whimper, some full out tears. It is heartbreaking. I used to stand outside and listen and wait until they stopped. But, they did stop and some days cried when I got there because they didn't want to leave. :crazy:

Enjoy your free time, you deserve it!!

 

I used to nanny for a little boy who (at ~18 months old) would stand at the window next to the door, screaming as his mom pulled out of the driveway. Horrible screaming. BUT, 1 minute after you couldn't see her car anymore, he was totally fine. He would walk over to me and immediately be ready to play or read a story.

You deserve your own time, and you little ones will be just fine!

 

What's worse is when you drop them off and they run away from you. And when you ask for a kiss to say goodbye, they tell you no and keep on running to go play!!! It will get better, and they'll be fine!! Imagine the hugs and kisses you get when you go pick them up!!

 

:hug: They will be ok :hug:

 

My boys have been in daycare since they were 12 weeks old and most days they LOVE it. Some mornings are hard and others are easy. Even if they are upset for a few minutes, they will be fine in the end and you will all be better off for having them go. They get to do something new and different and you get a break for a few hours each week.

 

Hearing them cry had to be rough, but it will definitely get better! Once they get used to the whole thing they’ll enjoy it, and you’ll be able to take some much needed (guilt free) time for yourself!

 

We all survived. :silly: When I got there to pick them up, I was walking up the stairs and listening for their cries, but I heard none. The teachers said they did well and cried for only 20 minutes (which I guess is good for the first time) but then joined the rest of the class. They did well going upstairs in the muscle room and they even did an art project. She even said they ate them out of snacks. Yes...the way to my boys heart is through food.

It was nice because by the time we got home it was time for lunch and then naps.

I did a little bit of shopping and felt very relaxed by the time I picked them up.

This is really the first time in 14 months that I've been able to do something without them and it felt really good.

Can't wait for next week!!

 

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