Day Nanny is here for the first time

Am I really just supposed to go upstairs and sit and my desk and work and let her be with my children all day? I can hear them screaming and yelling and they haven't napped yet and I know they just want their mother - they will still scream and yell at me, but still, how am I supposed to do this?

 

Go for a walk ... they'll be fine. Everybody needs to adjust to the new situation.

I can't wait for my nanny to show up at 2 pm ... what time is it????

 

If it were me, I would go put them to bed.

 

I don't have a nanny, but can you go down and offer to help to get them to sleep? I am sure she is just in a learning curve getting to know the babies and vice versa. I know when my babies are off their nap schedule, it makes for one rough day and night (and sometimes the following day too). Good Luck!

 

Until your nanny learns all of your tricks, you aren't going to get a lot of work done, if you are anything like me! She is supposed to be a help for you - not your replacement. If you want to go hang with your babies, go do it, especially the first week!
I would definitely give her a chance, but for me, when I have a babysitter come, the girls freak out at the stranger factor (well, one of them does) and the sitter doesn't know all of my routines/tricks to get them to play. Obviously, there is going to be some crying, but if you can ease the transition, why not? It will make you feel better, and hopefully the nanny will be grateful for the tips, not resentful or put out.

Maybe the first few days you just need to help her a lot, but explain that this works for you and that it is really hard to feel helpless while they cry and you are trying to work and that as soon as the twins are used to her, she will have her own tricks she will be teaching you. I think you do need to set a limit - like two or three days. You can't just be doing her work for her. Good luck. Are they crying less? did you change formula or swaddle? How is it going?

 

I had to spend a few days spending a lot of time with the nanny until she got their routine down and they got used to her. But then, stay away. You'll just upset them if you keep popping in.

And yes, sometimes I walk outside for a little while to clear my head and let her do her job. They fuss for you too, so give her time to figure them out.

 

ehh....not probably the response you were looking for - but I have unfortunately gotten used to hearing them cry almost to the point that I really have to pay attention when it IS my turn to watch them, or I won't respond to their crys! Like I said, not the response you probably wanted to hear, but... I do make up for it at nights and on the weekends though in that I mainly won't let anyone else touch them - I'll get up with them at night, sometimes sleeping in their room with them, take care of them all day and play until they can't play anymore.