Daughter is freaking out

I had a girls weekend this past weekend -- traveled with friends to Vegas from Thursday through Sunday afternoon. I was so excited to come home and see the babies, and they were happy to see me too. I work Tues, Wed and Thurs (we have a nanny that comes in). So I was with the twins Sunday 1/2 day and all day Monday -- I came home from work yesterday and my daughter was MISERABLE!!!!!!!!

She was screaming and crying and inconsolable unless I held her...even during dinner I had to hold her and feed her while DS sat in his high chair and ate. DH is traveling (as usual) so it's hard to deal with two babies when one is not cooperating. She woke up three times last night (didn't have to go in and soothe her to sleep she soothed herself back to sleep), but I could hear her.

If it was an ear infection or UTI I think she would have a fever, right? She doesn't have a fever at all....I gave her orajel and motrin last night but she was still freaking out (we can see a second tooth coming in)...could this be separation anxiety or maybe she just missed her mama?

 

Since she stops crying when you pick her up, I am thinking it is separation anxiety. It is usually at it's worst right around that age. I know our sleep went to heck for a couple of weeks because of it.

I would continue giving the Motrin since you know she is teething though.

:hug:

 

OK, thanks. I don't want to create bad habits (her eating when she's sitting on my lap), but I'm not sure what else to do when I'm on my own. Luckily I have a friend coming over tonight to help.

 

I agree that it is probably seperation anxiety. Glad you have help tonight. :hug:

 

Just talked to my nanny - she said DD is still clingy and whiney....

I guess it could be a combination of both (teething and missing me)...unreal. Poor DS never gets as much attention as her because he just doesn't require it, I feel guilty.

 

QUOTE(dezmitch @ Apr 8 2009, 11:08 AM) [snapback]1264323[/snapback]
I guess it could be a combination of both (teething and missing me)...unreal. Poor DS never gets as much attention as her because he just doesn't require it, I feel guilty.

Believe me, your attention at some point is going to be 80% towards him. Be glad that it isn't both of them at the same time. They need different things at different times. WHen your dd needs you, go to her.. don't feel guilty that your DS doesn't get attention. When you have a spare minute, spend some time with him, but in time, he may be the one needing attention. :hug:

 

thanks!

 

I agree that it sounds like seperation anxiety to me. She just missed YOU!! Hopefully this will pass in a couple of days.

 

QUOTE(dezmitch @ Apr 8 2009, 06:08 PM) [snapback]1264323[/snapback]
Just talked to my nanny - she said DD is still clingy and whiney....

I guess it could be a combination of both (teething and missing me)...unreal. Poor DS never gets as much attention as her because he just doesn't require it, I feel guilty.


Yes, it sounds like teething and separation anxiety. Im going through something similar myself with my DD though she isnt as bad as yours from the sounds of things. She just needs lots of TLC. Dont feel guilty either. My DS is a handful at the moment and demands my attention so DD is getting a bit less as she copes better than him. Its hard work with 2 like this when you´re on your own! GL and hang in there!