Curiosity at bath time

I am very :blush: to ask this. The girls still take a bath together, but lately that have been focusing a lot of attention to each others private areas. I know that it is common for them to touch themselves at this age, but shouldn't I draw the line when it comes to them touching each other? It is usually a game to them, they will spray the other's "hiney piney" with one of the bath toys or something like that. I have explained that those are our private parts and we don't touch others. DH removes them from the tub and thinks "we" should start bathing them individually, except the we is me and that would take forever!

Ideas/suggestions? Am I making this a bigger deal than it is?

 

Mine have started to be curious too. They are curious about their own, so I think even more curious about their sister's because they can see it better? ardon: I just do a gentle reminder and move on. Mine are best off if I don't make a big deal of it and divert attention. They tend to carry on if I make a big deal of it.

I don't see a need for bathing them separately. They are sisters, have the same parts, will be together forever, and probably in the same changing room looking for bathing suits when they are teens. IMO, no reason to separate them. They are just curious.

 

I agree with Michelle (who btw has a totally adorable avi! :wub: ). I would just not make a big deal of it. They'll get tired of it soon enough. Of course, if one is bothered, then I'd give a lecture about private parts, but if they're just playing, I'd shrug it off.

 

I agree with Holly and Michelle. Unless they are bothering each other, its normal to be curious.

 

every once in a while Abby asks where her winky went and I just remind her that boys have winkies and she doesn't - Ian (for whatever reason) is far more obsessed with his parts than hers...LOL

 

Hi:

I have 4 year old boy/girl twins and we still bathe them together 90% of the time. They have had natural curiousity about each other's bodies -- we don't make a big deal about it, but I have matter of factly explained about privacy and private parts and such. Thus, my kids know that some parts are private and THEY can touch them and Mommy/Daddy can touch them if they are hurt, etc., but other people (including siblings) cannot touch them and these parts are private.

(It was some time ago, but when my DD was trying to keep DS from touching one of her art projects or something she announced loudly -- ITS PRIVATE! ITS ONE OF MY PRIVATE PARTS! YOU CAN'T TOUCH IT!") So, I guess the explanation has gotten through.

The bigger issue in my house is our glass shower door (and bathroom without a lock). Many mornings (seems like most), I have an audience for my morning shower.

Good luck!

Meg --- mom to 4 year old boy/girl twins

 

Oh yes, I have a boy like that too! He'd go around playing with himself all day if he didn't have pants on. (And sometimes takes his pants off so he can do just that. :lol: )

 

We still let Cooper & Brooklyn bathe together. They do have a natural curiosity with each others parts. The other day I heard this conversation coming from the shower:

Brooklyn: Bubbie what's that? (pointing to his penis)
Cooper: That's my peanuts
Brooklyn starts laughing hysterically and then stops suddenly, grabs herself, looks at me and says "mommy, where's my peanuts?"

So, I then had to go into an explaination about girls not having a penis, etc....

They have touched each other and I don't make a big deal about it. I just tell them "we need to keep our hands to ourselves, we don't touch each others privates".