Cuddle time..

Hi!

My twins are 13 days old, and we are totally inlove with them. But I'm noticing that it seems all we do is feed, change and put to bed. I feel bad that I'm not cuddling more often. During feedings we need to sit them up and can't really relax and cuddle because of them spitting up...they eat every 2-3 hours, so we try to nap etc...during time inbetween.

I just feel terrible. I would love to oogle over them more, but feel like I should use their time inbetween feedings to nap.

Any suggestions??

Thanks!
Reb

 

Don't worry, you have their entire lives to cuddle with them! I bet in a few more weeks this will no longer be an issue for you - as you get more accostomed to feeding them and they get more accostomed to eating, you'll have more time for cuddles.

 

Nap while you can...it gets to a point where there is little or no time to nap once they are more alert (and crying a lot more!!!)

 

Keep napping...there's plenty of time to cuddle and oogle. Congratulations by the way! You're going to love it!

 

I agree with the previous responses. As "new" newborns they will eat and sleep a lot but in the next few weeks you will notice that their wake times will lengthen (hopefully during the day and not so much in the middle of the night) They look at your face with those big eyes, and you will get all the cuddle time you are craving. It is important that you rest as much as possible now since your body has been/ and is going through so many changes.

 

Get rest while you can. There will be plenty of time to cuddle!! :hug:

 

I used to feel the same way too. I felt guilty because I was too busy with all the stuff I had to do and didn't have time to enjoy cuddle time with the babies. But at this age, you express love for your babies by all the the caretaking you do for them. Each time you feed them, each time you wipe their bottoms, each time you pick them up to change their clothing, each time you put them down for a nap, you are expressing your love for them in a way that makes them happy and content. So don't worry about cuddle time. You'll have plenty of cuddle time when they are older and can do things for themselves.

 

I wish I knew. I think with twins, that's just how it is! Most of our "cuddle time" was when a baby fell asleep and we were scared to put her down because she might wake up. :blush: They don't spend that much time awake at that age anyway.

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But at this age, you express love for your babies by all the the caretaking you do for them. Each time you feed them, each time you wipe their bottoms, each time you pick them up to change their clothing, each time you put them down for a nap, you are expressing your love for them in a way that makes them happy and content.

Very well said!

 

i agree with PPs - rest when you can! it's so important - it's hard to be a good mommy if you're exhausted. that being said, i totally know how you feel! for me, it wasn't so much guilt as it was a feeling of being "cheated" out of cuddle time. with two babies there was so much work to do, i felt like i could never just stop & enjoy them being babies, you know? but as PPs also mentioned, it does get better as they have more awake time - now we have lots of time during the day to play, cuddle & enjoy each other. i also love what the one lady mentioned about caretaking=love - what a great perspective!

 

My b/g twins are almost 7 weeks and I felt the same way! Now we are getting into a better routine and I do have more time to cuddle. . . It was hard at first because I remember when we brought home our son I felt like all I did was cuddle with him. . .I remember my mom telling me that I needed to put him down and that he was going to be spoiled--but I didn't care. When the twins first came home, I did feel a little cheated out of that time with them because I too, felt like all we did was feed, change, sleep and start all over. . .Hang in there. . .It gets better by the day and then they are awake more and you have more time for interaction and playing with them. . .

Laura

 

We're just finally getting to the point where we are getting the cuddle quotient more into play. (at 5 months)

 

I think every twin mom feels this way. I used to feel so guilty and felt like I was a bad mom. All you do is feed, change, put down for a nap all day long. It feels like a hamster wheel. I promise it gets better. They'll get bigger and will go longer between feeds. When you have someone else there to help you, take that time to cuddle with one of them, then switch. I also think you start to get use to it as they get older. I am outnumbered. I will hold whoever needs me more at that moment. Sometimes, they have to cry for a bit. That use to kill me. Now, I realize they won't be harmed for life by it. Hang in there. It does get better. I don't think it gets easier, but different. I think twins will always be hard, but so worth it. You get twice as much love back.