Crying Newborn Question

I know they say you can't spoil babies as young as mine are, but it sure feels like mine are spoiled. When you pick them up they stop crying, but the minute you put them back down they start crying again. I even did my own little experiment where I picked them up and then put them down a few times in a row and it was the same thing. Crying, stop, crying, stop. I have a hard time getting anything done because it seems as though they constantly want to be held.

So my question is this, when you put them down and they start crying how long do you let them cry before going to check on them when you know all their needs have been cared for?

 

I know they say you can't spoil babies as young as mine are, but it sure feels like mine are spoiled. When you pick them up they stop crying, but the minute you put them back down they start crying again. I even did my own little experiment where I picked them up and then put them down a few times in a row and it was the same thing. Crying, stop, crying, stop. I have a hard time getting anything done because it seems as though they constantly want to be held.

So my question is this, when you put them down and they start crying how long do you let them cry before going to check on them when you know all their needs have been cared for?

 

Completely depends on what I am doing or have to do ... go to the restroom (short), prepare my oldest dd's dinner (longer), etc. I can't meet the needs of 3 children at the same time, so whatever happens, happens. It's hard sometimes (and therefore I have help 3 evenings a week 5-7 from a student to help put my dd down), but you got to do what you got to do. I don't love my children any less because I can't (and don't want to) pick them up all the time. They'll get better and "used" to it.

 

mine are 3weeks old and let me tell you - they would probably sleep
all night if they could be held all night!! I think they just feel secure! I try not to let them cry for long - but as Franca said -
with other kids in the house sometimes it is hard.

 

What about swaddling them up tight and snug?

 

HI,

I'd suggest swaddling as well and I'd invest in a swing or two --

have you read the "happiest baby on the block? it offers suggestions for fussy kiddos. Keep in mind tha thtis will pass.. you just gotta get through it.. and with two, I know it's hard.

Good luck

Teri D

 

At that age they do just want to be held -- they aren't being spoiled, they just crave human contact. I recommend a sling -- they make it much easier to get things done while still "holding" the babies (and when mine were your age, I could manage two in the slings Rambo style and do some household tasks).

Also, keep in mind that research shows that babies who are held more during the first 3 months (whether or not they are crying) end up crying LESS than babies who are put down and allowed to cry -- they are still developing their sense of the world, and the more you create a secure, safe place for them (ie with you), the more they will be content.

Kim

 

Ditto to swaddling...and sleep positioners. Helps them feel snuggled in and cozy.

 

My dd is going through the same thing. (we are also in Houston and Baby A was Cameron also!). Hers are awake ALL night! They have tried everything... car seats, swings, bouncie, swaddling.. the only thing they can count on is if they hold them and let them sleep on their chest. I just keep telling her it will get better.. but she wants to know which day..
I'm thinking about taking them tonight for her..
Lindy, mom to Stephanie and Nana to
Cameron and Corey

 

One of my boys is like that, he wants his momma. The way I look at it, he's not spoiled, he's a baby. Babies need love. If Ronin starts to cry, I always tend to him.

 

Ditto on swaddling and maybe some white noise? Also, do you think they might be having the beginnings of reflux? They may be in pain when you put them on their back and it might feel better to be upright.

Good luck!

 

Mine are nearly 4 months old and they do that... cry as soon as you bend to place them down. I swear they have sensors that makes their eyes open as soon I go below a certain height! They can't be spoiled yet so I just pick them back up and try again. Or if they are just needy, I put them (one or both) in a sling!