Crazy Hormones got me in trouble

So I guess I was being really extra with my mood swings. I had to have a private meeting with my supervisor concerning "Morale" and whatI can do to boost it. Like I told you before everything I was doing towards my staff has been justifiable and should have been adressed a long time ago so I have no idea why she cannot see that herself, or take it into consideration that I am pregnant and can't help it she has kids herself so she should know what it is like. :angry: However people are complainig about having to work with me and about the work assignments they are given. So my question is how can I cut back on the aggravation and my irritability at a job where I am a supervisor and it is my job to delegate and communicate verbally with about 15 staff with differnt personalities everyday and still keep my cool with out being overbearing because I really cannnot control my mood swings and I need my job. I have 14 weeks to go but I am seriously thinking about going out early I have the time but I wanted to save it for after the babies were born. Any suggestions to save my job and my sanity. :unsure:

 

Speaking as someone who has been resposible for several coworkers quitting (I had a job for 9 years when I was in college and after and people would tell my boss they were quitting beause they couldn't work with me) I can really relate. The thing with me was I just couldn't stand when people had poor work ethics but my boss didn't care because he needed the bodies when they showed (even if they only showed 50% of the time). The thing that got me the most was both myself and the less than reliable were treated equally, no rewards for being responsible and no punishnments for being irresponsible. Is it something like this with you? Could there be a policy instated that could help?

Otherwise, I suppose grin and bear it and keep your thoughts to yourself are pretty much the only option until you stop working???

Like I said, I have been there and absolutely did not have pregnancy hormones to blame it on, just me being me!

 

QUOTE(Dianne @ Jun 28 2007, 03:10 PM) [snapback]310733[/snapback]
Speaking as someone who has been resposible for several coworkers quitting (I had a job for 9 years when I was in college and after and people would tell my boss they were quitting beause they couldn't work with me) I can really relate. The thing with me was I just couldn't stand when people had poor work ethics but my boss didn't care because he needed the bodies when they showed (even if they only showed 50% of the time). The thing that got me the most was both myself and the less than reliable were treated equally, no rewards for being responsible and no punishnments for being irresponsible. Is it something like this with you? Could there be a policy instated that could help?

Otherwise, I suppose grin and bear it and keep your thoughts to yourself are pretty much the only option until you stop working???

Like I said, I have been there and absolutely did not have pregnancy hormones to blame it on, just me being me!

I think the situation is very similar I think my boss should be supporting me rather than the employees whose performances are lacking. I'm not sure if there are any policies on the issue my job has a way of creating their own guidlines if there were a policy anyway. Thanks for the advice all I can try and do is bear it

 

I took a class on Dealing with Difficult People which at times could also be your boss. You really don't have time for that, but you can order books or take the class online with Fred Pryor Seminars. Explain to your boss that you want to know what you can do to adjust to the other personalities, even if it is them, then have your job pay for the online course. I still have my booklet from the class and pull it out all the time. It has helped me tremendously with my staff.
However, the hormones do make me want to kick people in the neck sometimes. I just look at them like I would like to kick them and talk like nothing is wrong. This seems to confuse people. I love it.

 

I think you have to stay firm with your principal for good work ethic..for quality work...and at the same time have enough of a sense of humor to separate when you are just having a bad day...not feeling well...from the actual frustrations of the people you work with. This is very good training for having children, believe it or not. There will be days when your kids drive you up the wall and you have to be able to distinguish between what is justifiable frustration...like if they are willfully disobeying you...and when you are just having a bad day and are irritable. I find that when I have a bad day here at home with the kids, if I'm cranky, not feeling well, tired, etc... it only aggravates the situation. I have to be able to step back, take a deep breath, laugh a bit, try not to take every frustration too seriously or else the atmosphere of the whole house has a black cloud the whole day... I'm perpetually irritated at every little thing the kids do unless I separate my own discomfort/mood swings with the reality of their behavior. It's a difficult thing to do..but a very good habit to get into. And being honest, when you can be open...when it doesn't compromise your standing of authority, helps. Take a deep breath...and when someone else messes up, in spite of all your efforts, try not to stress out... you only have 14 weeks left...so even if the buck stops with you, you can honestly answer that you did everything you could...

 

I think the class Erika mentioned is a good idea. I've had a similar one and it gives you alot of good tips on how to communicate your point w/o offending. Have you had any management classes? For many employees, they can be motivated by sheer positive reinforcement and coaching. Belittling, snapping at them, etc will only foster hostility and make them LESS inclined to want to do a good job for you. Basically, you are sort of like a parent - you need to find a way to bring them around to your side and to want to do well for themselves and for you. There are lots of great ideas out there. Some managers offer rewards systems for going above and beyond, some find that just treating their employees now and then with donuts for breakfast or an afternoon ice cream snack (I know, it sounds childish, but it works sometimes) helps improve morale, is low-cost, and the ROI is usually huge. There will still be some people who just want hop on board but when you have the backing of the majority of your staff, weeding out the bad seeds becomes less difficult.

As far as having mood swings, it's so hard to keep them in check but your work life and your personal life really do need to be separate. It's no fault of anyone at work that your having pregnancy hormone issue and they shouldn't have to feel like they are walking on eggshells because of it. Just my $.02 but you need to find a way to keep that in check. Many companies have a policy against creating a hostile work environment and being moody does just that.

I hope things improve for you soon.

 

QUOTE(Jennie-OH @ Jun 29 2007, 08:08 AM) [snapback]311553[/snapback]
I think the class Erika mentioned is a good idea. I've had a similar one and it gives you alot of good tips on how to communicate your point w/o offending. Have you had any management classes? For many employees, they can be motivated by sheer positive reinforcement and coaching. Belittling, snapping at them, etc will only foster hostility and make them LESS inclined to want to do a good job for you. Basically, you are sort of like a parent - you need to find a way to bring them around to your side and to want to do well for themselves and for you. There are lots of great ideas out there. Some managers offer rewards systems for going above and beyond, some find that just treating their employees now and then with donuts for breakfast or an afternoon ice cream snack (I know, it sounds childish, but it works sometimes) helps improve morale, is low-cost, and the ROI is usually huge. There will still be some people who just want hop on board but when you have the backing of the majority of your staff, weeding out the bad seeds becomes less difficult.

As far as having mood swings, it's so hard to keep them in check but your work life and your personal life really do need to be separate. It's no fault of anyone at work that your having pregnancy hormone issue and they shouldn't have to feel like they are walking on eggshells because of it. Just my $.02 but you need to find a way to keep that in check. Many companies have a policy against creating a hostile work environment and being moody does just that.

I hope things improve for you soon.

Very helpful advice. I have considered positive reinforcement as a way to may things go a little smoother. I guess I have been very selfish because I never viewed my hormones being an issue to anyone but myself. You are absolutely right about people not having to walk on eggshells because how I am feeling. My main concern however is people just to get the job done do it correctly so I don't even have to speak to you about it again or at all.