Cousin with same name

My husband and I really love the name Avery for one of our twin girls. The problem is, his brother has a son with the same name. We live in NY, they live in Alabama. My husband only talks to his brother maybe twice a year. We have only seen Alabama Avery once in two years, and that was at a funeral. I don't think he even knows who we are. I want to call my brother-in-law and ask him if he has a problem with us using the same name. What do you all think? (Normally I don't think it would be a big deal, it is just the boy/girl thing.) Lisa

 

Tough call... though I would not personally use a name of someone else in my pretty immediate family, even if we didn't see them often. BUT I say this only because I have a personal situation where someone we see regularly named their daughter Katelyn about 9 months after my DD was born, whom we also named Katelyn. This person is my step-brother and we see often and frankly it really ticked me off. Plus I just think it is lame that my step-dad (who I am very close to and have known most of my life) has to explain that he has two granddaughters named Katelyn. Yes, as you can tell I am still bitter, even 2 years later! I would definitely call BIL and feel him out first.

 

I have a nephew named Avery and we had a hard time coming up with a name for our baby b so we picked Ava
which is close but not exact AND then my step brother named his daughter AVA just 2 months after my dd was born!!
so my mom has Avery, Ava and Ava as grandkids! it doesn't bother us at all as a matter of a fact it kinda flattered me!
we just call my Ava "Ava Grace" and theirs Ava Madeline"

if you like it - use it!

 

I like Ava too!

Thanks for the input guys, Lisa

 

I wouldn't use it in your situation but I DO like the name Avery better for a girl !!

Anyway,I LOVE your other girls names too!

How about Bethany and Delaney,Josie and Sadie,Daphne and Phoebe,Savannah and Sydney,Lexi and Laci,Lacey and Laney...

 

I wouldnt' use it if someone in my immediate family had used it (or one of my friends)...but that's just me.

I LOVE Avery for a girl. I know a little girl named Avery and we used Avery for Morgan's middle name. I think of it more for a girl than a boy, but it's becoming popular among boys now too. In fact, the little boy next to Morgan in the NICU was Mason Avery.

Edit: I wanted Morgan's first name to be Avery, but DH said NOPE, so we settled on it for a middle name.

 

I'm also for contacting the other couple and seeing how they feel about it.


We were considering the name Isabela and one of my best friends has a daughter name Isabelle. I asked her about it. She was totally fine about it. We live in different countries so don't socalize together although we are still close. Also in this case she calls her daughter Izzy and ours would have been Bela or Isa for short.

 

I wouldn't do it because the kids would have the same first AND last name. I have a friend who did this - gave her child the same name as BIL's child. So the grandparents have 2 grandchildren named "John Smith." But then her name is Erin - her brother is Aaron. :blink:

 

I named my DS Ethan and his cousins whom are younger and we only see a handful of times a year are named Edan and Evan with which everyone calls them Ethan ... kinda funny

My dads wifes daughter whom we dont really ever see or talk to has a daughter named Chloe that is a year older than my Chloyee... I dont see a problem with it but we never actually I dont think my Chloyee had ever been in the same room as her Chloe... humm but I dont see a problem with it like you said they never see each other ...now if they were around weekly daily or even monthly it might be kinda weird but I dont see a problem with it....

Honestly its your child and you like the name who cares what others think... JMIO

 

I have really been meaning to call my BIL, but I feel weird about it. We really don't ever speak to or see them. It is a bizarre situation. Someone posted that the grandparents then have two grandchildren with the same name, and that did strike me as a bit akward. I don't know. I am hitting the books and sites again trying to fall in love with another name. If I don't, I guess I will call him. I do like Cassidy, but not as much. I don't know if my husband will like it. We have always liked Chloe too. Wow, it is just so hard to keep coming up with names for the same sex!

 

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I wouldn't do it because the kids would have the same first AND last name. I have a friend who did this - gave her child the same name as BIL's child. So the grandparents have 2 grandchildren named "John Smith." But then her name is Erin - her brother is Aaron. :blink:



I see your point about the grandparent thing....

 

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I have really been meaning to call my BIL, but I feel weird about it. We really don't ever speak to or see them. It is a bizarre situation. Someone posted that the grandparents then have two grandchildren with the same name, and that did strike me as a bit akward. I don't know. I am hitting the books and sites again trying to fall in love with another name. If I don't, I guess I will call him. I do like Cassidy, but not as much. I don't know if my husband will like it. We have always liked Chloe too. Wow, it is just so hard to keep coming up with names for the same sex!



I am having trouble w/ two boy names, too!!! It's tough!

 

definitely try to find a different name. I just think that's really odd for both brothers to have kids' with the same name. We have a bit of an issue going on with my family. My sister his having a dd in the spring whom she is naming Eliana. (Said "eel-lee-ah-nah") her oldest dd is named "Ana." My middle dd is frequently called "Ellie"... and my youngest is Julianna. So we're all a little boggled as to why she's going with Eliana...and obviously it's not identical to any of these 4 names...it's just so stinking close we can't understand why on earth she's doing it. She plans on calling her Elia...which sounds a lot like Elios...as in the frozen pizza. None of us like it but we're trying to keep our mouths shut. She got our opinion on it once before she committed to it...and in spite of that she's sticking to it. But we do have permission to call her "Lia" which I think most of us will take advantage of ! LOL! There are so many beautiful names out there...I'm sure you can find another one which will be equally beautiful.

 

I really feel for you! It is so hard when you have your heart set on something.

Things i would think about...

1)the two avery's have the same last name? either pick another name if this bothers you, or talk to the grandparents aswell to see how they feel about having two avery's with the same name. If you still want to name her avery, gp and you could reference the other avery as alabama avery.

2) Have you thought of the other twins name? If not concentrate on her for a while, you might find the name you come up with for her might not go with avery. What did you have in mind for her?

3) I can understand that you never see the other avery, and they won't even be the same sex....and avery is more of a girls name......we thought of it for a middle name for our twins....

4) I thought of austyn and avery as middle names for my girls, do you like austyn? Or ava? One of my friends has a baby called avannah (cross between ava and savannah) i love it. alannah, adie, aliyah,........

I sure hope you work it out....people can be funny about names....I think i have waited long enough to have my girls. i will name them what i want....I wanted to name my twins indiana and briana (indy and bree) indiana is the daughter of my hubby's friends ex wife, whom we know well....i didn't want to steal her name, but i loved it...and i couldnt think of anything else....then i found bella or my hubby did...and indy was out the door just like that. My girls will be named bella and briana (bella and bree)

When it all boils down to it, she will be your daughter, a twin, a girl, and lots of states away and only 2 phone calls a year away from alabama avery. and even if they would share the same name, you could always call the boy avery ALABAMA AVERY so you don't confuse them, this could go for grandparents too. If you really like it......USE IT, if you really feel awkward about it, grit your teeth and just call BIL and say " how would you feel about us naming one of our daughters avery?"

Good luck...very interested to know what you decide, and what the names are for your other twin.

Hope you and your girls are doing well, and that your hubby is safe.

Tash

 

I forgot to add...if you do decide on another name, you could always use avery for a middle name as pp said, i think.

 

amity

addison

are you stuck on a's?

 

I personally wouldn't use the name either. Or like pp have said, use it for a mn.
What about Ellery?
It sounds very similiar and I like it better than Avery, but JMO.
What was the other name you were going to use it with?