conflicting thoughts from obgyns in the same office?!

okay ladies! i am so very confused right now it is not even funny. I have a obgyn office with about 7 drs. and as you all know they want you to see each one so you don't meet them and feel weird at delivery. WELL! last time i went to the dr. in may he told me my weight gain was fine given the fact i started out over weight. i had only gained 3 pounds and was 16 weeks prego.. well i go in today and i get yelled at because i only gained 9 pounds the whole pregnancy. i eat all day long. well graze. i have a meal and like 2 hours later i have a snack. Then she goes an askes me why i am having so many ultrasound....i kinda just looked at her like ummmm....its what the perni is telling me to do....why not read the chart? i really had no idea what to say. I have mono/di twins i thought it was normal to have ultrasounds every 2 weeks....i just really am confused and wondering if anyone else had this problem with having so many doctors in one office. its frustrating because i am scared to go to the dr. because i am not sure if what i am doing is what this dr. or that dr. wants.

 

Holy cow. I wish I had ultrasounds that often lol. I am in my 3rd trimester and only get them monthly.

Anyway, maybe when one gets on to you tell them the previous doctor said it was fine and ask why she thinks it's not. Get full opinions from each doctor, and then if you need to just talk to the other doctor's in the office when they disagree. For instance, ask her why your weight is such a problem and should you be doing something additional to eating extra during the day - also ask her if there is a problem with getting so many ultrasounds and tell her you're not sure if there's a reason or if the other doctors just want to be more cautious.

Then if she said you need to gain more weight, do this to help the weight gain move along - and you should have less ultrasounds unless there are complications and there are not at this time, then you could address the other doctors and say "well she told me to do blah blah because of my weight gain. And she seems concerned about my frequent ultrasounds."

And if they still give different advice all the time, maybe confront them and say "why do i keep getting different information from each doctor!?"

It sounds confusing and stressful to me.

 

For the weight gain, if the babes are growing and developing fine I wouldn't worry. I gained a total of 20lbs my pregnancy. I did get a lecture, but I was eating and the babies were fine so I didn't let it get to me. I got the same lecture with my first, I only gained 13lbs with him.

I also had u/s every 2 weeks, I had mono/di boys. It's hard wen you don't see the same doctor every time.

 

i agree with jenpoe - if they say something confusing to you, tell them you're confused, that you need clarification, and why. maybe the new doc missed on the chart that your babies are mono/di? i also had u/s every two weeks because my girls were mono/di so i do think that's a fairly standard level of care for that type of pregnancy. :hug: i'm sorry they're stressing you out so much!

 

thanks guys i didn't even think to ask her about it i was just so upset because i felt like i was getting led in the wrong direction and had so much on my mind when i went i didn't even think to ask her to clarify it feels like each week is a day it is going by so fast and my mind is everywhere right now

 

that used to happen to me all the time. i'd walk out of an appointment & over the next two - three weeks i would think of all of the things i should have asked or said. so frustrating! :headbang: maybe write down some of your questions to take to your next appointment - then you don't have to worry about remembering.

 

That is so aggravating. I think we've all experienced that. If you've seen all of the doctors by now maybe they would let you pick one and stick with that person for your visits. It can't hurt to ask.

 

I am having sort of the same issue with my new office. One doc wont touch me with a vaginal delivery no matter what, she will only do a section. Another is cautious and would rather be safe then sorry but is willing to work with me on what I want. The third doc said I am a prime candidate for vag no questions asked, he would almost prefer baby b were breech but he is happy no matter what way he is. One doc wants cervical checks the others don't. I just decided that there is def one doc so far I will NOT under any circumstances see. I will talk about induction with my favorite doc so that I know that our best interests are there as opposed to what they are most comfy with. I would just say don't go back to that doc. You don't need to be treated like poo when you prolly already feel like it.(well I know I do anyways haha)