The boys are now over 9 months and still not STTN. :huh: Which means I don't either. For 9 months!!!!!!!!!! <_< They just had their 9 month check up and their ped. told me to let them CIO. She said to go in after 5 minutes then 10 and keep increasing the time. That was pretty much all she said. Tonight will be our third night of this and I feel like I'm not going to be able to do it. :mellow: How long is to long for them to cry? What do I do when they get up in the middle of the night? Last night Lucas' screaming got Logan all upset and then they were both flipping out at 3am. Do I do CIO for naps also? If anyone can answers my questions and give me any other advice I would be soooo greatful! Thank you!!! Jen
QUOTE(jdio33 @ May 7 2008, 02:54 PM) [snapback]761075[/snapback] The boys are now over 9 months and still not STTN. :huh: Which means I don't either. For 9 months!!!!!!!!!! <_< They just had their 9 month check up and their ped. told me to let them CIO. She said to go in after 5 minutes then 10 and keep increasing the time. That was pretty much all she said. Tonight will be our third night of this and I feel like I'm not going to be able to do it. :mellow: How long is to long for them to cry? What do I do when they get up in the middle of the night? Last night Lucas' screaming got Logan all upset and then they were both flipping out at 3am. Do I do CIO for naps also? If anyone can answers my questions and give me any other advice I would be soooo greatful! Thank you!!! Jen I don't have much advise because my boys took to it right away. The first night-they cried for 45 minutes total. That was it. When they woke in the middle of the night-we had a fan on so we didn't hear them. I did hear them-they woke around 2 am. We also set our alarm for 3 am to go check on them(the time they usually woke up at). At 7am-we got up and got them-both had huge smiles on their face. And when they had their bottles-they didn't suck them down like we thought they might. Night #2-down without a problem-and no night wakings. It will be 2 weeks this Friday-and they do not wake in the middle of the night anymore. I love it! They are 6 months old btw. Oh-and I did extinction CIO. I didn't go in at intervals, because I know they get even more upset when I go in there. So we just let them cry. And honestly-it wasn't for that long, so it wasn't bad. As for how long to let them cry, I think in the HSHHC, they say unlimited crying at night(don't quite me!). For naps, it's 1 hour. In the middle of the night, you could go check on them, maybe do pacifiers if they use them, see if their diaper needs changing.. Just make sure they are ok. And if they are-walk out. My boys rarely wake the other in the middle of the night. Maybe you could split them up while you are doing CIO, then put them back in the same room together. As for naps, I have not done CIO for that yet. I still rock them and then put them down. They are pretty good about going down though at naps. If it were me, I would get night time under your belt for a bit, and then worry about naptime. I hope some of that made sense! I think the biggest thing is to not be able to hear them. When you put them down, go outside, to the store, in the basement, etc...I went to the mall and spent $! If you have any questions-you can pm if you like. Good luck! I think consistency is key! Give it a week...and see how they do after that week....
The FY forum has a sticky about surviving the fist year and under the sleep section is different ways to help encourage better sleep, naps and STTN. There is a section on CIO and no cry/gentle sleep training. Here is the link and scroll down to the sleep section. It should give you some ideas on how to do CIO or if you want an alternative, you have choices. CIO doesn't have to be your first option if you are having a hard time with it. Some pedis recommend it without telling parents that there are lots of ways to help a baby sleep better and not all babies are the same so it is reasonable to assume they will not all STTN at the same age or by doing the same sleep training method. HTH
QUOTE I hope some of that made sense! I think the biggest thing is to not be able to hear them. When you put them down, go outside, to the store, in the basement, etc...I went to the mall and spent $! My common sense is telling me that you mean leave the house only when there's another adult/caretaker present, right?
Sorry you havent been able to STTN for 9 months. Mine were 9 months exactly when it finally clicked for them. :hug99:
QUOTE(joannabug @ May 7 2008, 07:58 PM) [snapback]761637[/snapback] My common sense is telling me that you mean leave the house only when there's another adult/caretaker present, right? Ummmm...ya
What your ped did not tell you is that CIO does not work for all babies. Or for all parents - and it is not the *only* way to get your babies to sleep through the night. If it is something you want to do, you need to do the research first, so you know exactly what your plan is. And you may not be able to do it with the babies in the same room. My advice would be to stop for now - it obviously isn't going to be an easy fix like it is for some people. Do some reading about the different types of CIO (Ferber, HSHHC), and other sleep training programs (No Cry Sleep Solution etc) decide what you are going to do, and then try again. Personally, if my baby cried for more than 15 minutes I would take that as a sign that a) they are not ready, or B) this is not the method that will work for them. FWIW, my babies (all three of them) only started STTN between 10-11 months, which is not abnormal at all.
CIO is not for everyone. I could never do it. Eventually my kids all slept through the night, but not until after their first birthdays.
Ditto what people said about CIO not being for everyone. We didn't, knowing our kids' personalities and our own thoughts about parenting helped us to make the decision. I would definitely do research. Meanwhile, maybe there are things you can be doing to work towards a good bedtime routine? Just patterns you can set up to make it easier on all of you, whatever you decide.
I'm not sure, but in the beginning (I know big difference between newborn and 9 mos) but to ease them at night we would feed them in a dark room with our sound machine on "womb" we turn the volume down a bit though. It sounds like a heartbeat in the womb. They seem to like it. We burp them, put them in their cribs with a binkie and their "softie" and leave. It usually works, they are at ease and slowly drift off to sleep.
