CIO questions

my boys are turning 7 months next week and i have some CIO questions:

do yours sleep in the same room? (we all sleep in our room, one in the crib and the other in our bed)


do you just let one CIO when one is asleep? what if the other wakes the other up?

do you still give a bottle at night? at what time?

how long do you let them CIO until you end up picking them up?


im so frustrated with my other one, he sleeps good during the day, but super horrible at night, he wakes up every 2 hours and doesnt stop crying until i pick him up, and he sleeps right away the minute i get him.. puts him back down and the cycle continues till sunrise.. some nights that im soo tired i just let him cry but its too loud that he aggravates the other.. they bathe at night, have a bottle before sleeping around 8pm, but wakes up at 10 upset and not want to eat, 12mn, 3am to eat and upset, until around 5am..
i dont know what to do anymore..

help...

 

mine sleep in the same room as each other (not as me) and in the same crib. they haven't yet woken up the other, but they don't cry all that much so it is a non-issue for us. i give them their night-time bottle at 8 pm and they usually sleep till 7:30 am. if they wake up before then it is usually just one or two cries and then they are back asleep.

i think with cio the most important thing you can do for yourself and for the child is consistency. it is nice for you because then you have a "plan" and you know what to do when. (i.e., if you are using a ferber type method and going in at certain intervals or if you are just not responding at all). it is good for the child because...well because consistency is always good! so if you are committed to cio then you have to cio. but picking up sometimes and not picking up other times can be very confusing to the child. i had that issue with my dd and i don't blame her for being a mess! she didn't get that it was ok to cry at 3 am but not at 1 am. so when i was committed to no more middle of the night feeds then it just took one night of cio and she was sleeping through.

good luck!

 

my boys are turning 7 months next week and i have some CIO questions:

do yours sleep in the same room? (we all sleep in our room, one in the crib and the other in our bed): They slept (and still do) in the same room, but not our room

do you just let one CIO when one is asleep? what if the other wakes the other up? Yep, dd slept through CIO for ds - if she woke up then we would have been doing CIO for both of them

do you still give a bottle at night? at what time? We stopped giving a nighttime bottle at about five months, the same time that we did CIO

how long do you let them CIO until you end up picking them up? Never picked them up - only had to do CIO for a couple of nights but we were doing don't go in the room at all and so picking them up and giving in was not an option since it defeated our purpose.

 

thanks for all of your responses.. we will try this out tonight.. wish us luck!

 

Good Luck! It's so so hard but for us it was worth it.

Now I have babies that sleep 11-12 hour stretches at night while before they both had to be rocked to bed, given pacifiers and bottles (2-3oz) during the night and worst of all would scream the second they would be in the vicinity of a crib.

This is what we did before, because now I just put them in bed, leave the room and they go to sleep rarely crying for about 2-3 min (unless they pooped). I never believed it would happen but it's true for us.

Do yours sleep in the same room? Once we started CIO, we separated them

Do you just let one CIO when one is asleep? What if the other wakes the other up? Yes. They usually don't wake each other up because they are in different rooms. Usually if one baby is crying, the other might cry for a bit but will eventually go back to sleep.

Do you still give a bottle at night? At what time? Nope. I stopped night feeding after mine reached 18 pounds and were waking up and not even finishing half a bottle for three consecutive days (2-3 oz), so I figured it was just for a habit and cut it out. They CIO for 1-2 nights.

How long do you let them CIO until you end up picking them up? For the nighttime, I do not pick them up. I also rarely will go back in intervals. My only rule is if crying for more than 5-10 min, I will go back in just to check if they pooped (mine LOVE to go to bed and poop) if not, I leave and don't come back. If pooped, obviously quickly change and back to the crib and then leave and don't come back.

For naptimes, I have 45 min rule. I rarely have to apply it now that they are good sleepers.

 

what time is your last feeding at night?