Choosing Godparents

Hello everyone,
We are in the process of trying to choose godparents for our soon to arrive girls. We cannot decide weather it is appropriate to ask one couple to be godparents for both girls or give each girl there own set of godparents? Any suggestions or advise on how you handled this.
I know it is not an earth shatter topic but just another decision to be made.

 

This is a really hard topic dh and i took forever to pick .. We went with one guy (brother in law) and one girl (my bestfriend ).. if you want it to do the couple thing thing i would just pick one coupe for both girls!

 

We actually chose 2 people per baby. My sister and her husband are my DD's godparents, and my brother and my SIL are my DS's godparents. Since the twins are most likely our only children, we wanted to involve as much family as possible.

I'm not sure what church you are talking about, but keep in mind that certain churches have restrictions on who can and can not be godparents. We christened in the CAtholic Church ... but one church did not want to let my sis and BIL be godparents becaues they were both previously divorced. We went to a different Catholic Church though, and that had no issue with it.

So just some food for thought ...

 

None of our kids have Godparents, but if I did I would give each child their own set of Godparents.

 

We have chosen 1 set for each child....

 

I am choosing seperate sets for each baby, My son has such a special relationship with his godparents (my brother and best friend) I wanted the babies to each have their own couple to spoil them and take them out for one on one time.

I have a question, do the god parents have to be confirmed in a catholic church and if so how do they ask you to proove it? We wanted my Nephew in law to be one of the god parents and he is very catholic however he is from Brazil and I am nervous about how he could get his confirmation paperwork sent here. So I was wondering how strict the process is, with my son both god parents had been confirmed at the church we were using so there was no question.

 

I am catholic and at our church they just require that one of the godparents is catholic. This has been helpful to us because all of my husbands side is catholic but mine is not. We like to try to pick one from each side of the family. As far as proving it none of my previous children's godparents have ever had to show any proof. I think this may vary from church to church though depending on how strict the Father is.

 

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I have a question, do the god parents have to be confirmed in a catholic church and if so how do they ask you to proove it? We wanted my Nephew in law to be one of the god parents and he is very catholic however he is from Brazil and I am nervous about how he could get his confirmation paperwork sent here. So I was wondering how strict the process is, with my son both god parents had been confirmed at the church we were using so there was no question.


Yeah, the initial church I was going with (and ended up leaving) needed some sort of letter sent from the church that the GodParent-to-be was currently a member of, stating that they were in good standing with the church, and active member of the parish, had all their sacrements (up to confirmation) etc. I was like "WOW!" Being that my sister and BIL had both been previously married. My BIL had an anullment, but my sister didn't, so their marriage was not recognized by the church. So they weren't allowed to be godparents.

We quickly found another church, a Catholic one, and they didn't ask for any proof. We just needed one person in each set to be Catholic.

 

For us, right now my sister is the godparent to our older 2 kids. The reason we only chose her was because we didn't want them split up if something should happen to dh and I.

Now with twins on the way, and she's a single mom to 2 boys herself, I'm not sure what we are going to do. DH has one brother who still lives at home with his parents, so he's not exactly appropriate. I have a brother who is about to get married this summer, and a younger sister who is still in college. Those are our options. Our best friend is another single mom to 2 children already and she has all she can handle with her ex hubby.

I personally don't like the idea of splitting the kids too much, especially between dh's family and mine because my family lives 2000 miles away from dh's family. Like I said, we aren't sure what we're going to do yet....

 

Just for the record, God Parents are not legally binding contracts in some way ... if something were to happen to me and DH, our WILL signifies that my sister and her DH will get our kids.

God parents are supposed to be responsible for your child's spiritual upbringing ... so it has nothing to do with what will happen to them in the event of your death. You can have 12 different sets of godparents if you have 12 kids, and they can still all go to one family member shoudl you and your DH die.

So if you don't have a will, your kids are not going to just randomly go to whoever you designated as GodParents.

 

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Just for the record, God Parents are not legally binding contracts in some way ... if something were to happen to me and DH, our WILL signifies that my sister and her DH will get our kids.

God parents are supposed to be responsible for your child's spiritual upbringing ... so it has nothing to do with what will happen to them in the event of your death. You can have 12 different sets of godparents if you have 12 kids, and they can still all go to one family member shoudl you and your DH die.

So if you don't have a will, your kids are not going to just randomly go to whoever you designated as GodParents.



Can that differ from religion to religion then? Because growing up we were lutheran and it was always known/understood that if something happened to our parents our godparents would get us. I never knew anything different.

We're baptist now and we actually don't do baptism and godparents for our kids, it's a church dedication where the whole church agrees to help raise the kids in their spiritual upbringing.

 

personally i would have a set of godparents for each child, or atleast i would if i knew anyone who we could trust enough with our children, without them being a burden... its funny, a friend of mine wants to be a godmother, but she hates children more than i hate green pepper. i'm not entirely sure she gets it... <_<

 

We have asked 4 seperate people to be the godparents (2 for each child). However, I wish we hadn't asked them just yet as my little twins future still seems uncertain. If she doesn't make it, then which two do I ditch?? Being a twin mum is tough already!

 

oh I think this is a tough question. I am thinking about asking 2 sets - one for each child. But thats not set in stone -- its a big decision.

 

I have my brother and sister as the godparents for my boys.
They will also be the god parents for my new son due any day now. I would love to choose a friend or inlaw but I wanted to choose someone who will always be in my children lives. Inlaws and friends can come and go but family is forever

 

all 3 of our children have their own set of godparents. we have a huge family & wanted to include more of them. also, we didn't want the godparents to feel overburdened since in our family the godparents spend more on their godchildren's presents for things & play a special part in their lives. it would have been a lot to ask 1 person to be godparent to all 3 of them. we did however "reuse" one of the twins' godmothers for the baby because between the 2 of us dh & i have 3 brothers but only 1 sister (his).

 

My friend actually stopped talking to me because I didn't ask her to be the boys god mother. She's jewish, but now she's agnostic so I don't even know why she wants to be their god mother, plus she doesn't like kids!

My best friend was killed in a car accident almost 4 years ago and I asked her parents to be the boys god parents. They have a very strong faith and I hope that through them, I can build my faith!