chance to go away by myself

My bestfriend called yesterday to come and visit her for 4 days cheap flights to arizona. I have never left my babes for longer than 5 hours. I know pathetic but thats me. I feel guilty leaving them and I worry if Dad will be able to handle it. He gets frustrated when they fuss getting their jammies on. How would he do baths, jammies and bottles by himsef. His family lives far away and I really don't want to bother my mom and dad they pretty much lived here the 1st 4 months. Would you go or have you gone away and left them soley with dh?

 

I'll be doing this in Nov. There's a conference I really want to go to. DH will take the girls to daycare as usual, but will be on his own for the evenings and weekend. He'll manage. I think your DH would be able to handle it too. I think you should go.

 

QUOTE(pmartin @ Aug 12 2008, 01:05 PM) [snapback]926420[/snapback]
My bestfriend called yesterday to come and visit her for 4 days cheap flights to arizona. I have never left my babes for longer than 5 hours. I know pathetic but thats me. I feel guilty leaving them and I worry if Dad will be able to handle it. He gets frustrated when they fuss getting their jammies on. How would he do baths, jammies and bottles by himsef. His family lives far away and I really don't want to bother my mom and dad they pretty much lived here the 1st 4 months. Would you go or have you gone away and left them soley with dh?


As long as he has some help nearby, and if you can survive it - go for it. It will do wonders for DH's confidence and appreciation for all that you do. It's also really nice to get a break. It gives me lots of perspective.

 

Nope, I wouldn't.
My kids are 2 years old and I have never left them for more than a few hours and have no plans to.
My Dh may be capable, but I would miss them too terribly and would never enjoy my vacation.
I spent many years childless and enjoyed more vacations and alone time than I ever wanted, so maybe that is my issue. If I were a very young mom and maybe didn't get to travel, etc. perhaps I'd feel differently.

Good luck whatever you decide!!

 

I would want to, but there is no way DH would be ok with the boys by himself for that long... I can't even leave for half an hour without him calling and wanting me to come home.

Side note: When the boys were a year old we did leave them with my sister for 4 days. It was the longest 4 days of my life but it was a nice break. If you think your DH would be ok I say go for it. I am sure that you need some you time. And, when you get back you will be so happy to see your little ones.

 

He'll survive. I would go, in fact after they turn a year I am going to meet some friends from here for a week-end...baby free! I cannot wait. I say if you want to go and your DH does not mind, then go and have fun, I bet you deserve it!

 

Yes I have done it and it is one of the best things that I do for me and my kids. I LOVE my girls and love taking care of the 24 hours a day 7 days a week, but everyone needs a vacation at some point.

Your DH is their father - and he will handle doing things alone the same way you handle it. I find that my DH does great, and he not only enjoys spending some time with the girls without me correcting him or telling him how to do things, but he also appreciates me and what I do for our family a little more.

 

I haven't faced that yet, I have left them for a whole night a couple times and it's hard. I'm kinda having this issue too for labor day weekend. My friends want me to go away for a whole weekend without men or kids. Honestly right now I am having a hard time being away from them for a night, let alone a whole weekend.

I think your DH will be fine, it's more you I wonder about. It's hard to be away from them

 

He has to learn sometime... maybe ask your folks if they can hang with the kids for one night... but ultimately it comes down to if you feel he will be able to handle it.

He would find his style of doing things... which won't be like you.. The daddy style where the kids probably wouldn't get a bath for 4 days, or dressed nice (you know it... the yucky tie-dye shirt with the plaid shorts uniform), or won't have their hair brushed but the essentials... food, diaper changes, yadda yadda yadda would get done. The schedule might be screwed up as well... but he has to learn sooner or later. When I was planning my get away trip (supposed to be today) my mom was going to watch the kids but Jeramie would have been fine doing it by himself. (Jeramie is such a girl that they would have been dressed great though...)

Anyways, on your trip you want to have a great time and if you feel like you would be on edge leaving them and would be unable to relax and have a good time then you know it is too early for the 4 day weekend.

best,

 

QUOTE(Hillybean @ Aug 12 2008, 06:26 PM) [snapback]926472[/snapback]
Your DH is their father - and he will handle doing things alone the same way you handle it. I find that my DH does great, and he not only enjoys spending some time with the girls without me correcting him or telling him how to do things, but he also appreciates me and what I do for our family a little more.



I totally agree. Give him time to adjust and I bet he will do great! Have fun! Call often and you will have a great time!

 

I would love to and would be totally okay with it! My dh on the other hand would not be...like pp stated-I cant leave for more then a half hour and he would be calling me to come home!
I keep asking my boss if there is some "manditory" out of town training I "need" to go to! No such luck!

 

I would TOTALLY go!!!!! Actually the first time I left the girls with DH was when they were 9 weeks old. He had them for the weekend while I went with my best friend to our 10 year college reunion. I missed them terribly, but I also had a great time and DH had fun being home with them... oh and he totally appreciated me when I got home! I left him detailed instructions and schedules (as per his request). The second time DH had them all by himself was for 4 days when they were 1 and I had a conference. I got several phone calls while I was away "Hon, I honestly don't know how you do this! You rock!" hehehe.

If your DH is on board I say GO! If you DH is apprehensive, call your parents for backup, but still GO!

 

Go!!
He'll be fine. He may have to adjust, but that's fine. If I had the same opportunity, I'd do it.

 

At 9 months, I would do it. I agree with Leighann, DH can totally handle it and if not call in the troops and go. I left for 3 days when the boys were 4 months old and not STTN at all. DH was totally on his own. I got 2 whole nights of sleep and came back much more relaxed even though I was gone for something stressful--my Dad was really sick.

 

I would SO go! He'll be fine, and I'm sure your folks would be more than happy to stop in if needed. Enjoy!

 

I'm going away for a weekend solo in Sept. when they are 10 months, and again, a week and a half after they turn one. I say go for it!

 

He'll be fine and he'll figure out his way of doing things. If your parents are close though maybe someone could come help him at the worst time of day (afternoon nap, bedtime) a couple of the days just so he'll let you leave the house again!

 

Totally go. DH will be fine. I worried so much about my DH handling them by himself, but when my Dad died about a month ago, I had to go away for 5 days. DH did fine.

 

Yes, you should go!! I am sure DH can handle it. He needs to see how much hard work it is to take care of children on his own. i went away overnight with my womens group at my church overnight(it was only 1 hoour away) but it helped me to get away and spend sometime bor myself.

April

 

You should go! DH and I are going away without the babies and we are leaving tomorrow! I've been so worried I actually went to the doctor today and got a prescription for anxiety but I am going!

 

You should go! I would totally go if I had the chance! Your DH will handle things, you can always contact your parents for back up if need be and let him know if he really feels he cannot handle it then Mom and Dad are ready to help out.

 

I would totally go! If DH doesn't have a choice but to do it...then he will. It certainly won't kill anyone if they have to cry for a minute or two (Dad included..hehe). We left the boys with my parents for a weekend when they were 3 months old (my older daughter too). It was so nice - of course I missed them but it was only a few days.

 

QUOTE(pmartin @ Aug 12 2008, 02:05 PM) [snapback]926420[/snapback]
My bestfriend called yesterday to come and visit her for 4 days cheap flights to arizona. I have never left my babes for longer than 5 hours. I know pathetic but thats me. I feel guilty leaving them and I worry if Dad will be able to handle it. He gets frustrated when they fuss getting their jammies on. How would he do baths, jammies and bottles by himsef. His family lives far away and I really don't want to bother my mom and dad they pretty much lived here the 1st 4 months. Would you go or have you gone away and left them soley with dh?

I dont know about you, but i will not even feel comfortable leaving mine with my husband he gets frustrated to quickly and he is not patient but if your husband is by all means you deserve a break me i feel more comfortable with my twenty one year old watching my boys rather than him (LOL).

 

I would leave my kids with my dh, absolutely. I am not sure if it would have been so easy for me to do with my first or second children. By now I feel ready for a break though, and wish I had the opportunity. I say go for it!

 

My dh could so handle the twins by himself - better then me actually! Once I stop bfing I will be doing a trip, but hopefully it will be with dh! I can barely wait to have a few nights to ourselves. But if we can't find someone to look after the babies that we trust, then we will do a separate trip each until we do find someone. Everyone needs breaks! I say go and have fun!!

 

QUOTE(pmartin @ Aug 12 2008, 01:05 PM) [snapback]926420[/snapback]
My bestfriend called yesterday to come and visit her for 4 days cheap flights to arizona. I have never left my babes for longer than 5 hours. I know pathetic but thats me. I feel guilty leaving them and I worry if Dad will be able to handle it. He gets frustrated when they fuss getting their jammies on. How would he do baths, jammies andmsef. His family lives far away and I really don't want to bother my mom and dad they pretty much lived here the 1st 4 months. Would you go or have you gone away and left them soley with dh?


Hi

I am actually going to do that in october. I am going to Boston for 5 days, do some shopping and to see Madonnna Their father will have my parents and their grate gradmother helping out. Only thing I am worrying about, will I enjoy my vacation or will I miss them to much :blush: They will be 10months in oct.

(what does dh mean? I guess it is a shotcut regarding the dad but from what word?)

I hope my spelling is ok

Best regards from Iceland

 

Our girls are 6 months old and the longest we have been away is just overnight. I missed them terribly but at the same time it was nice for hubby and me to get away for a little bit on our own. (They stayed with grandparents) My husband has never kept them overnight alone but does a great job on days that he has them at home by himself, although it is not often. I think he would do great though! Anyway, I think you just do whatever you're comfortable with, I would say go but only if you're ok with it. Otherwise, try waiting a little longer, or try a shorter trip first.

 

HECKKKKKKK YES!!!!!
I am going to Vegas Friday-Sunday.
Sure, I will miss the babes. But they will be the same right when I get back.....

Too bad I will probably come home more tired than when I left!!!!!