Can't Sleep

Nobody even has to respond, I just need to talk for a minute! I have been having such a hard time sleeping anyway, but for the last three nights I have been putting my 1 year old in her own room and she had been sleeping with me. (We moved, she was sick, husband left.... I have a million excuses as to why she was in my bed!) I know I have to get her sleeping through the night in her own room, but it is all I can do right now to keep myslef from scooping her up and snuggling her.

I did fall asleep and slept for about two hours, but I just can't fall back asleep. I obsessively check for emails from my husband, as he is 8 hours ahead. I just read one, and it actually made me even more sad. I had emailed him some name choices and he responded that he liked the one and wasn't sure about the other. No big deal, but then he went on to say that he has nothing to contribute, so whatever I pick is okay with him. I get that he has so much more than I can even imagine going on right now, but I still feel sad that he is detached from this pregnancy. I feel like I am doing everything alone and really miss the old days when we would pour over the baby name books together.

In my heart I know that he isn't really detached, but in a way he is. Don't get me wrong, he is the greatest Dad. He spent months videotaping months of bedtime stories for our girls and doing things to make this easier on them. I just feel like maybe this whole twin thing doesn't even seem real to him right now. They were a surprise, so at times they don't even seem real to me.

Thanks for listening. Lisa

 

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I Hope you are able to get some sleep soon. Im sorry that your hubby can't be there with you to go through this with you. We are all here for you. Take Care!

 

Lots of HUGS!!!!

Try some benadryl, dear. You need rest and even if it is induced, it would be best for you. You will feel better and think more clearly (and be able to handle the day's ins and outs without your hubby) if you get more sleep.

HUGS!

 

I am so sorry you are going through this rough patch. I live in AK and have renters who just got back from Iraq and previous renters who went through their spouse's tour while in our house. It is just such a hard time for everyone; those at home and those deployed. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, except that I wish there were those of us who could take your pain away from you, but I know we can't. I really hope he comes home soon and I hope that your lives will be all the better with these two babies on their way.

P.S. I also understand the insomnia...two hours of tossing and turning last night. I agree with JediMom. Take the Benadryl. Get some sleep so that you can take care of yourself, your daughter, and the two babies you are building. Finally, WHO CARES that your daughter is in bed with you! In the end, it won't hurt either one of you, so if it is working...let it work! Don't feel guilty. You have enough on your plate!

 

Thanks guys, I will take benadryl tonight! Honestly, I wouldn't care about my daughter sleeping with me if she didn't wake up all the time. When I have to pee or anything she is sitting up and calling for me. I know I can't take care of twins during the night if that is the case. So I have to get her sleeping on her own.

My husband emailed me again to tell me he talks about the twins all the time, and didn't mean to imply that he didn't care what names they were given. I guess I am way too emotional and exhausted for my own good.

Thanks again, Lisa

 

:cray: I am soooo sorry you have to go this on your own. You have my complete sympathy. I don't know how you military wives do it. My SIL, had to go through her pg (singleton) without my BIL. He was in Iraq. He was able to come home for a week or two when she had him, but then he had to leave again. He is finally home, and they are a family again. But I wish I could come over and give you lots of hugs. I understand about being alone during a pg, though. I had just separated from my ex-husband, when I found out I was pg with my youngest DD. It was a really tough time. I was lucky to have my two older children. I know it is hard to lay there at night, missing him. I hope he is able to come home soon. God bless you and your family. I will be praying for you and your family if that is alright. I hope you were able to get some sleep.

On a different note: I have the opposite problem. My DH crowds me, wanting to hold me at night, and there is just no getting comfy. My belly keeps growing, and I am running out of room! I have to admit, I love when he goes to work... (he leaves an hour before I get up) it's the best sleep I get all night! LOL!

 

dear lisa,

i really feel for you at the moment, i can't imagine what it must be like for you to have your girls at home, pregnant with 2 more, and no husband, and lots of thoughts running around in your head.

I am suffering from insomnia too, when ds wakes to pee in the night i can't sleep for 2-3 hours after just thinking what i can do tomorrow, etc, its terrible, but it must be worse for you. Try to keep your chin up, as hard as it probably is, your girls need you, your babies need you and your husband needs you to be strong.

I don't know what to suggest to help you feel he is connected with this preg, maybe give him some name chioces, a short list, and get him to choose the babies names from theere. Talk about when they will be baptised and who to invite etc, i don't know...maybe he could talk to you about what is going on over there (maybe you already do) he mighght need to talk as much as you do, talk about spending a nice intimate evening alone together when he returns...

I am just thinking out loud, i am not a shrink, but if i could just help with one thing that could ease your pain, i would feel better....and as hard as it is for you and your girls to be without him, he must feel terribly alone and detached himself being away from you in such an unpredictable, unstable place.

I hope you get some sleep...sleep helps everything...sending prayers your way.

 

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:cray: I am soooo sorry you have to go this on your own. You have my complete sympathy. I don't know how you military wives do it. My SIL, had to go through her pg (singleton) without my BIL. He was in Iraq. He was able to come home for a week or two when she had him, but then he had to leave again. He is finally home, and they are a family again. But I wish I could come over and give you lots of hugs. I understand about being alone during a pg, though. I had just separated from my ex-husband, when I found out I was pg with my youngest DD. It was a really tough time. I was lucky to have my two older children. I know it is hard to lay there at night, missing him. I hope he is able to come home soon. God bless you and your family. I will be praying for you and your family if that is alright. I hope you were able to get some sleep.

On a different note: I have the opposite problem. My DH crowds me, wanting to hold me at night, and there is just no getting comfy. My belly keeps growing, and I am running out of room! I have to admit, I love when he goes to work... (he leaves an hour before I get up) it's the best sleep I get all night! LOL!



I'll take the prayers, and thanks for the laughs. I got a kick out of you wanting to oust him out of bed ao you can sleep! Lisa

 

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dear lisa,

i really feel for you at the moment, i can't imagine what it must be like for you to have your girls at home, pregnant with 2 more, and no husband, and lots of thoughts running around in your head.

I am suffering from insomnia too, when ds wakes to pee in the night i can't sleep for 2-3 hours after just thinking what i can do tomorrow, etc, its terrible, but it must be worse for you. Try to keep your chin up, as hard as it probably is, your girls need you, your babies need you and your husband needs you to be strong.

I don't know what to suggest to help you feel he is connected with this preg, maybe give him some name chioces, a short list, and get him to choose the babies names from theere. Talk about when they will be baptised and who to invite etc, i don't know...maybe he could talk to you about what is going on over there (maybe you already do) he mighght need to talk as much as you do, talk about spending a nice intimate evening alone together when he returns...

I am just thinking out loud, i am not a shrink, but if i could just help with one thing that could ease your pain, i would feel better....and as hard as it is for you and your girls to be without him, he must feel terribly alone and detached himself being away from you in such an unpredictable, unstable place.

I hope you get some sleep...sleep helps everything...sending prayers your way.


Just reading your sweet post helped. Isn't not sleeping the worst? I hope you get some rest tonight. Thank you for your support. I appreciate it, Lisa

 

I totally agree with the Benadryl idea. I was also thinking that if you want to feel like you have someone in your bed with you, then maybe you could put one of your DH's shirts on a body pillow and hold onto it all night. Not sure if that would make you feel better or worse, just a suggestion.