Can't Orgasm?!?

Hey ladies. I know this is a little personal, I'm almost 26 wks with b/b twins. Me and my DH are still having "relations". Doc said it was o.k as long as pre-term labor wasn't an issue. My problem is... for the past month....I just can't orgasm!! I never had this problem pre-pregnancy. My question is...has this happened to any of you?? and will it get back to normal after I have the babies!? Thanx for listining.

 

lol, you poor thing. I had a bit of trouble starting in the second trimester. You just have to try much harder I found. :lol:

 

I had the opposite problem while pregnant, I alway orgasmed too quickly. :blush: I think it's because of more blood flow, it's more sensitive.

 

i also am able to orgasm more quickly, :yahoo: though a big bummer is i usually can multiple org, but i think as a pp mentioned the increased blood flow makes you very sensitive, and after one or two in a few minutes i can't stand any direct Clit :FIFblush: (sorry if tmi) stimulation. Lately though, my ogasm has been giving me braxton hicks so i have asked my husband to ban me from the big O...its just a bit scary. :cray:

hope the big O hits you soon, i pass you on some of mine!! :yahoo:

 

I'm sorry! I have been having the opposite affect. Too quickly!

 

Im with you! When I was preggo after about 16 weeks, there was no more big "O" for me either. I couldn't figure out how to make it happen for me, so unfortunately I can't give you a solution either. I feel (felt) your pain...

 

QUOTE(natasha163 @ Nov 3 2007, 12:06 AM) [snapback]479127[/snapback]
i pass you on some of mine!! :yahoo:

:laughing:

 

For those of you that get freaked out by the increased contractions after intercourse, you can try using a condom to limit this. Semen has a lot of prostaglandins in it which stimulate uterine contractions.

As for me, I'm banned from intercourse now due to preterm labor issues, so I'll just try to live vicariously.

 

Don't feel bad, I was the same way. I could never orgasm, and it was never a problem prior. I also would have BH contractions during intercourse and it became less and less pleasant for me to point where DH felt bad and we just stopped all together

 

At least you still have the desire to try. This is my 4th pregnancy, first multiples, and the only time it has been quite like this. I guess with the increased nausua and fatigue?

 

QUOTE(allboys @ Nov 3 2007, 01:05 PM) [snapback]479478[/snapback]
For those of you that get freaked out by the increased contractions after intercourse, you can try using a condom to limit this. Semen has a lot of prostaglandins in it which stimulate uterine contractions.

As for me, I'm banned from intercourse now due to preterm labor issues, so I'll just try to live vicariously.


thanks for the suggestion...i'll give that a try

sorry to hear you are banned from relations...hope you can hang in there , once the babies are born i'm sure it won't be long before you are back in the saddle (atleast...you'll be able to if you want to...there's nothing like something you can't have)

 

I never had orgasms hardly ever before I was pregnant. Now I am having them all the time. With the extra weight, etc. it may be pressing on some of those areas that normally don't get any touch other than to get an orgasm. So possibly it has temporarily desensitized you. Just a thought...no PHD here. We aren't banned from sex at 35 weeks, but we are "supposed" to wear a condom so the semen doesn't put me into labor. I had BH from sex earlier in pregnancy but not anymore.

 

Before I got put on pelvic rest, I had the same problem. Went from having easy multiple orgasms (pre-pregnancy) to having a hard time having just one and eventually couldn't even muster that. So disappointing because you read everywhere that sex gets better during pregnancy but I guess it's not for all of us! Sorry you ended up here too.

 

I didn't have that problem during pregnancy, but always while breastfeeding. I breastfed my 1st for 17 mos., my second for 12mos., and my third for 13 mos. I don't think I was able to orgasm at all during those long months.

 

I am with you!!! I didn't have a problem with my other children, and up until just recently I haven't had a problem. Seems like the last 2 weeks things have begun changing. (Sorry if TMI) I definately need more stimulation and it isn't even helping that much. We decided to change things around a bit during the middle of "relations" the other night. I guess it depends on what you feel comfortable doing, experimentation wise anyway. If you both feel comfortable with new positions or types of intercourse, it may be something that will help. :lol: I think my DH is going to be a very happy man for a while. The things that he enjoys most, is what gets me there at this point. LOL!!! He will have to enjoy it while he can though, after birth, we go back to what was more "normal" for us! I hope you will get a little satisfaction. If I couldn't... as uncomfortable as it is at this point (at times).. I don't think I would keep trying. It just becomes to much work!

 

Ha!

I was on "pelvic rest" from week 10 on, so there was no big O for me either!! Don't worry though, it all comes back after you give birth (well once you get through that crazy newborn phase that is)

 

Well if you’re not bashful I have some TMI… I didn’t have any trouble… ever… BUT I now have a Cerclage… and we were given the OK to DTD… well DH can feel it :FIFblush: (told you… TMI) and it makes him nervous (plus he jokes it’s made of barb wire)… so he doesn’t quite… go all the way… and it flippen drives me mad… he’s not hitting… “the spot” GRRRRR I think I may just have to get him all rallied up and just not quite finish… show him :8714bumper: … but I would feel pretty selfish if I went into PTL over my desire for organism… but man is he gonna owe me after they are born…
So I’m having trouble too, BUT it DH’s fault… and now he thinks its funny when I say… "I didn’t come here to lose buddy…"

 

TWO THUMBS UP TO YOU LADIES WHO ARE STILL GETTING IT....I HAVEN'T SINCE THE NIGHT OF CONCEPTION! :angry: I DIDN'T WITH DD OR DS AND NOW WITH THE TWINS! :icon_eek: NOTHING NADA ZIP ZILCH

 

At first it was no problem for me, but it's getting increasingly harder these days. I think for me the problem might be that my heavy breathing comes from trying to move my enormous belly around and not from being overly excited. It takes a lot of exertion.

 

QUOTE(bray64015 @ Jan 31 2008, 10:16 AM) [snapback]598969[/snapback]
TWO THUMBS UP TO YOU LADIES WHO ARE STILL GETTING IT....I HAVEN'T SINCE THE NIGHT OF CONCEPTION! :angry: I DIDN'T WITH DD OR DS AND NOW WITH THE TWINS! :icon_eek: NOTHING NADA ZIP ZILCH


How come??

 

it's definitely become harder for me but i've found that a good vibrator has helped a bit! it's got to have really good vibration though.

 

I'm sure there are several reasons why...1. I don't have a very high sexual appetie period and he never says anything about it so I guess he's ok with it too and 2 with our schedules it makes it hard to connect when I want to go to bed around 8 and he stays up till 11ish, if this was our first I'd worry something was wrong with us but it's not so I am use to starting my virginity over...

QUOTE(blended6 @ Jan 31 2008, 06:30 PM) [snapback]599650[/snapback]
How come??

 

i have been getting horrible contractions after sex so we stopped that but for some woman having the extra hand stimutaion will bring on the big O