Can your DH/SO take care of the twins solo?

My dh is great with the twins, he has never been afraid to be alone with them (as I was in the beginning, and still am sometimes!), he is actually the only person in the world that I feel completely comfortable leaving the twins with right now. I was just wondering if your dh can look after the twins on his own?

 

Mine actually didn't do it for more than an hour at a time until the boys were 11 months old, and I left him for the day so I could go see a horseshow. It was then that he realized that he could do it. As they have gotten older, he has done more and more.

 

Yes, mine takes care of them on his own, and has since the early days. Plus we have a third one who needs time and attention, too. He tries to take them for a little time every weekend so I can get some time to myself. And I do the same for him.

 

Yep! And he has since day one. I had a hard time letting him- for he has his own way sometimes, but I needed to let go of that control and let him do it so that I would feel ok leaving and doing my own things. It has worked out great. I've already gone away overnight too- and have plans to go away again for three nights in late October! I am very fortunate to have a DH who WANTS and LOVES to be with his kids and take care of them!

 

Yes, he can and does regularly.

 

Absolutely, always and from the beginning!!

 

Yes, he has done a great job of it from day 1. Compared to what I hear from my friends about their DH's with their solo babies, I am darn lucky to have a DH who loves to watch his kids and has no issues with any aspect of child care. He and I may not agree on all things regarding childcare but he is a wonderful dad!

 

I am so blessed to have a wonderful husband who not only gets up 3 hours before he has to be at work to help me get the girls up, dressed, and fed, but also is wonderful at keeping them alone if I need to go somewhere. He has never stayed overnight alone with them like I have but that opportunity has never arose. I'm sure he would do a wonderful job. Yea for great hubbies!

 

Yes, and he is the only one I trust to watch them on his own as well. He's actually pretty good with them!

 

Yes, mine does even at a weekend for a time. If there is something wrong or he needs to ask a question he always calls me but he is really good at watching them all by himself. He has always been great with the kids.

 

Yes. He's on baby duty every morning while I'm at work, and I'm on baby duty in the evenings while he is at work.

 

Absolutely! He's actually been taking care of the full time for 2 weeks now. I normally work 3 days/week but I have to do 5 days till mid Sept. His mom went on vaca so we had no one to watch them. This is his second week and is doing awesome.

 

He could if I left him alone with them. Have done it once but they were in bed. I just don't need to leave him with them at this point, no where to go LOL

Dianna

 

My dp didnt really have them very often by himself up untill they were about 9 months old. He has them by himself all the time now as i work 5 nights a week and he is fantastic with them x

 

He does, but he doesn't have a lot of self-confidence when it comes to watching them. I think that's primarily because he can't feed them, so if they get fussy he gets anxious for me to get home and give them the boob! However, he is much better at soothing them than he thinks he is.

 

Yup, my DH has totally stepped up to the plate in that department, and in fact is better than me at the nighttime routine. He does it solo 2 nights a week when I work 2nd shift and even on the days I'm home he takes over the bedtime routine which is fine with me, I could use the rest!!

 

Yup, my DH is so awesome. He actually played Mr Mom for a month when I was working full time and our daycare situation got screwed up ... so HE took advantage of his FMLA and stayed home ... he LOVED! it ... kept teasing me saying "Pick up the slack, make more money, and let me stay home." ... well, that's not going to happen ... hehe ... but he is just as capable as I am ... since we both work full time, it really has to be a joint effort ... we both are out of the house all day, so we both look forward to our time with them ...

And I've had many full days out of the house on the weekends and stuff where DH is home alone ... I'm planning a weekend away with the girls and DH is excited to have them all to himself, and have them "love on him all day" as he puts it.

 

Absoluetly.. They are 50% his too!

 

He can but doesnt want to...I understand it is a lot of work and can be stressful (we have a 4yo as well)
I hope he gets more comfortable with it in the future cause sometimes I just got to get away!!!

 

yes he's a stay at home dad, but he's never actually been there from the minute they wake up to putting them to bed.

I feed them in the morning before I go to work. his day starts at like 9am when they wake up again. Then I come home at 5pm to take over the night shift, dinner and putting them to bed.

I'm not sure if he can handle a FULL day with them

 

yup! My dh takes care of all 4 of our kids by himself just as well as I can. He is a wonderful father!

 

Yup, mine can and does whenever I need to get out. I still make the formula for him but he is fine with changing and feeding.

 

Absolutely. He does it all the time.

 

yup - and loves it!

 

He sure can! I leave him with the girls quite often and he does just fine!

 

My DH is wonderful and he is incredible with the babies. I am so thankful to have an equal partner. I don't know what I'd do if he wasn't...

 

Since I'm too lazy to pump . . . my dh is definitely lacking some of essential equipment to watch them at this stage. He'll do a few minutes solo while I shower or take a walk, but that's about it. He's much better with older kids anyway, so it works best for him to give me a breather by doing stuff with the big kids. He'll even take our still potty-training DS to work with him . . . now that's brave!

I don't know that there's anyone I'd trust to watch all FOUR kids for more than a few minutes. I don't know why. If I can do it, it surely can't be that hard!

 

Yes, my DH watches the kids all the time. He is their dad, so why shouldn't he? I would die, to tell the truth, if he didn't do this. I really need to have breaks from them all. I don't understand when dads look at being with their kids as anything but being a dad. I hate it when people say "so he's at home "baby-sitting" huh? NO! Actually he is at home spending time with his children. Or people say to me "you are so lucky that he will "watch" his kids. I think to myself, no, we are all lucky as we are a family. He gets to spend time with his children and they get to spend time with their dad. I'm sorry, I will step off my soap box now. This is just a point that really bothers me. It just seems that people look at women as though their is nothing more to them then being at home all the time with the kids. And its just so shocking to people when a dad can actually take care of his kids. Of course they can!! Why on earth wouldn't they be able to? I am the primary care taker, but there is still a me in there that steps outside the realm of motherhood and I feel incredibly blessed that I have a man who stands with me and sees that as well. He just spent three days with the kids so I could go visit my Best Friend a few hours from where I live. You wouldn't believe all the comments about him doing that for me. This is why I am saying all this. Its very fresh for me. And it juts irks me. Sorry, didn't mean to offend anyone on this, I just feel pretty strongly on this point.

 

Not only can he handle them alone but he can handle all 3 girls (including my 3 yr old) alone and has no issues-- he is truly amazing. He will be a SAHD as of SEPT 15th and I think he is going to do really well at it.

 

DH can, but doens't have much confidence. I can leave him for about half an hour before he calls me or sends a text message. He generally does fine, but doesn't do things like I do them so he "thinks" he is doing it wrong. I am giving him more and more opportunity being alone with them because I think they need quality time with just dad and the boys!

 

My DH is a pro, he has been since the day they came home from the NICU. Those NICU nurses taught him well.

I am lucky, my DH is a HUGE help! The only thing he's always been uncomfortable about is actual "food" feeding. Bottles were no issue, but I just think the kitchen and figuring out what to feed them stresses him. He's not much of a chef.

 

Wow! I am surprised by the many response that said yes.
I could never leave mines alone with him for more than an hour. Maybe two hours if my older kids are around.

 

DH was always good with the twins alone from day 1. Still is great with all 3 of them :wub: