Can you relate

Just curious if I am the only one that feels like no body else (family & friends) understand how important it is to keep them on the same schedule and how stressful it is. My family makes me feel like I am crazy and that I should be out an about with the boys all the time and not worry if they miss their naps or get off schedule and that it is so easy to just pack up and take the kids out for the day. They think I should be able to nap the boys outside on a blanket. Maybe I am just anal. Going to the beach the other day was stressful in itself. It took 45min to unpack the car and set everything up lol. I feel like one baby is much more portable and if they miss a nap or snooze in the car you can just go with the flow. But I find it so stressful when one baby take a nap in the car, the other one is up and crying and now when you get home one is ready for a nap and the other is ready to play. I'm just rambling now so I will stop lol. I feel like no esle understands the effort you put into keeping them on the same schedule so that you can have some down time for yourself and nights without them wakinging that are maginifed when they wake each other up and I get tired of explain it to everyone that perserving their sleep is necessary to be able to function lol

 

I feel like my family doesn't understand either!! My twins are very easy going and "good" babies, but that isn't an accident! I worked really hard to get them into a routine and now they are pretty flexible with it!
The other night I had a migraine so I left the boys with my mom and their father for an hour while I slept. I woke up at 8:30 to get their bottles ready (because no else can do this apparently) and Grayson was sleeping!! I was soo mad! Then it threw off his whole schedule for that night and the next day and they were like big deal- you can get him back on schedule....Ummmm hello! I just worked the past 5 months getting them here! So yes I totally understand!!!!!!!!!

 

Yup, I can totally relate - even still at 18 months!!
My girls have always been on a solid schedule for food/naps/bedtime & I am not a fan of changing things up :lol:
It makes it easier on us and them to keep things orderly!
Of course there are the days when we have things going on or events to be at & we don't follow the schedule, but it isn't that often
I basically had to tell myself that it doesn't matter what others think cause they don't have to live with crabby twins when we get all screwed up with our schedule!

 

I always found when the twins were young it was SO much easier to maintain their schedule than deal with the fallout if we didn't. Often other people didn't understand the need for it (especially grandparents it seemed) but it worked for me, so I ignored them & did what I needed to do. If you have a schedule & it makes life easier for you, then don't worry about what other people think. For the first year, it's all about what makes life easier for you!

 

Yup, I get it. I get the, why does it matter, or relax it's fine crap all the time. I had a girlfriend that wanted to go the mall the other day and she was having a hard time understanding why my window time frame was so short and why I need to stay on top of the time. I just don't have the twins, I also have a 24 month old and and almost 4 year old. Routine is EVERYTHING around here. I just figure people can keep up or go home lol.

 

I totally know what you mean. My family bothers me about this all the time! Especially about the going out part, not that I dont go out but that I only go out at certain times and it always takes me an hour or more to get out the door so we are almost always late for everything! My parents are always saying " I dont know why it takes you so long to get out the door, we had 3 kids and it never took us that long" and I always tell them that its because they had all their kids 2-3 years apart and only had one baby at a time. I have 2 babies and a toddler that cant dress himself or put his shoes on so I have 3 kids to get ready pkus myself and pack a huge diaper bag! Parents of singletons just dont understand. I have taken my kids to the beach a few times this month and one of the times was a huge disaster because we went during naptime(big mistake) and both my girls were crying and my son was being very uncooperative. It wasnt very fun but whenever we plan to go after naps and feeding we always have fun. Schedules just work better. If they were in your shoes they would understand!

 

Yep can definately relate, nothing has been said to me directly but i get what they are thinking. Like pp have mentioned it's not them that have to deal with 2 overtirred babies that can't sleep because they have been thrown off there routine. If i had one baby then i may not be as rigid as i am now but i have to do what works for my girls and keeping them on a good routine keeps them happy so that is what i will do regardless. I honestly dont think care what others think but yes it is very frustrating, people just don't realise do they.

 

Heck yeah! I totally get that. Having a schedule keeps me sane to this day. Now, I am alot more flexible now that they are older and so are they for the most part, but when they were little we lived pretty strictly by it. Funny when people throw them off schedule (like my parents) I often pondered just leaving them with the fallout and running out the door. :woohoo: Then they would have to deal with it and understand why I just went ballistic on them. ardon: Do whatever you have to do to survive and stay sane.