So I was taken off of bedrest, and got to go to work for three whole days. But I think they are going to put me back on bedrest because I started spotting again yesterday and having really bad cramps, but the spotting did stop. We did IVF, and I'm really high risk. I'm only 9weeks 4 days along, but both babies measure 8 weeks 4 days, and 8 weeks 2 days. Is that normal, or are they just small? The U/S tech wasn't my normal one, so she didn't really know what to tell me. Anyways back to my subject, see the thing is, is that I run an animal rescue for small exotics, and it is in my basement. I take care of Chinchillas, Sugar Gliders, Hedgehogs, and some bunnies (that can not seem to ever find a home or the home backs out) We are moving into a bigger house in 3-4 months, and I am trying to get as many babies as I can adopted out. But am I going to be able ot handle everything? Being on bedrest, I'm not allowed to be on my feet for more then 10 minutes at a time, and not allowed to lift more then 2 pounds. A friend comes over every few weeks to help when she can, and my husband helps me with the feedings every night if I need him too. But with being on bedrest, it's getting harder and harder to care for all the babies in this house that need me. What am I going to do when the twins arrive? Will I be able to find enough time for everyone? Animals will always be in my life, but we have also tried for 5.5 years to have a child, and now are being blessed with two. I don't know how to explain it, the easiest way for me to to explain it, is every animal that comes through my door is loved and cared for, and treated as if it were a child. I'm afraid that after the twins do come, that they (the animals) won't get the attention from me that they need. And if they get a little less time are all my babies going to resent me for it. I just want everyone to be happy. Most came from not so good of homes, and they need all the love they can get, and have some so far with the love I have given them. I'm just scared I guess, but what if I can't give them what they need for a little while? I've tried finding volunteers but had no takers, I had only one person interested and once I started explaining what it would be I would need, I never heard back from him. Sorry edited to say, sorry didn't know if I should put this in this forumn or not, but my major concern is for when the twins are born.
That sounds like a lot. First, for right now, being on bedrest and having all of that to take care of. I understand your struggle, as you have been taking care of your "babies" for so long, but now you have 2 new babies need you to keep them safe at all costs. I had 3 kids when I was put on bedrest for 9 weeks. I felt like the world was going on around me, and without me, but I knew I was doing the VERY BEST job I could do for my babies, and nothing else was important. I think if I were in your situation, being so early on with the pregnancy and already experiencing cramping, spotting, and the babies measuring a bit small, I would not be up at all. I would be in bed all day and drinking high protein shakes(Boost/Ensure), and eating lots of high protein foods to help those babies grow. I wonder, if you could find a few middle school/high school students that need community service hours to help out? I am not sure where you are, but here in FL, many schools require it of their students. Meanwhile trying to get most of the animals adopted out to good homes. Another thought, have you tried Craigslist for a volunteer? As far as after the babies are born, somedays I could barely muster up 5 minutes for a shower! The first 3 months were very difficult, with the sleep deprivation, and constant feeding and attention that they require. I am not saying it would be impossible, since I made it through with 3 other kids, but it will be difficult! You are in a tough situation! Please take care of yourself. :hug99:
I am in Illinois, and I have tried craigslist. I am also posting again today about it on craigslist, looking for some volunteers. The schools here, I do not believe require community service, at least they didn't when I was in school. The only community service people are required to do here is if they break the law for something minor, and the judge thinks it will help the person become a better person.
QUOTE(becky5 @ Feb 3 2008, 03:36 PM) [snapback]603121[/snapback] That sounds like a lot. First, for right now, being on bedrest and having all of that to take care of. I understand your struggle, as you have been taking care of your "babies" for so long, but now you have 2 new babies need you to keep them safe at all costs. I had 3 kids when I was put on bedrest for 9 weeks. I felt like the world was going on around me, and without me, but I knew I was doing the VERY BEST job I could do for my babies, and nothing else was important. I think if I were in your situation, being so early on with the pregnancy and already experiencing cramping, spotting, and the babies measuring a bit small, I would not be up at all. I would be in bed all day and drinking high protein shakes(Boost/Ensure), and eating lots of high protein foods to help those babies grow. I wonder, if you could find a few middle school/high school students that need community service hours to help out? I am not sure where you are, but here in FL, many schools require it of their students. Meanwhile trying to get most of the animals adopted out to good homes. Another thought, have you tried Craigslist for a volunteer? As far as after the babies are born, somedays I could barely muster up 5 minutes for a shower! The first 3 months were very difficult, with the sleep deprivation, and constant feeding and attention that they require. I am not saying it would be impossible, since I made it through with 3 other kids, but it will be difficult! You are in a tough situation! Please take care of yourself. :hug99: Couldn't have said it better!! I hope you find a solution that works for you and all of your precious babies :hug99:
QUOTE(yaniah @ Feb 3 2008, 11:20 AM) [snapback]603170[/snapback] I am in Illinois, and I have tried craigslist. I am also posting again today about it on craigslist, looking for some volunteers. The schools here, I do not believe require community service, at least they didn't when I was in school. The only community service people are required to do here is if they break the law for something minor, and the judge thinks it will help the person become a better person. They didn't require it when I was in school either, definitely something to check into! :hug99:
Are there any vet schools in your area, vet students may be willing to come help ... or are there any vet offices that would be willing to help you? Animal rescue services that could send some people a few days a week? I agree that when the kiddos come you are not going to have much time for anything else. Do you have family in the area who could help with the twins or is it in your means to hire a part time nanny or sitter? All rhetorical questions ... just thoughts. I would try to line up help now for when the kids are here and as for now ... I agree that you need to stay off your feet. It IS just a hard situation and I wish the best for you ... it sounds like you have a HUGE heart for these animals! I wish I could come and help but I live in NC! =(
You are juggling a lot! The way I see it is, there is a time and season for everything. Right now is the time for you to focus on your own family, and the safety and health of your babies. The time will come again that you have the freedom/time/ability to run your rescue operation as well. I would keep trying to adopt out the ones you have, but not take any more on. I hope you are able to find the balance, but most importantly I hope you're able to have a healthy pregnancy Reyna
QUOTE(mrsfussypants @ Feb 3 2008, 12:44 PM) [snapback]603246[/snapback] You are juggling a lot! The way I see it is, there is a time and season for everything. Right now is the time for you to focus on your own family, and the safety and health of your babies. The time will come again that you have the freedom/time/ability to run your rescue operation as well. I would keep trying to adopt out the ones you have, but not take any more on. I hope you are able to find the balance, but most importantly I hope you're able to have a healthy pregnancy Reyna :clapping: Great perspective Reyna!
