C/S with baby...

I'm opting for the repeat c/s with this baby. Now-when I had the boys-dh stayed in the hospital with me the entire time.

So now...what do we do? I would want dh there at least the first night. Is that crazy? I won't be able to move too much, at least the first 24 hours. He can get the time off of work. I'm thinking he will only be there for the one night, and then be home the rest of the time with the boys.

How was it for you in the hospital alone? I guess I just don't want to be alone! LOL!

 

DH went home to stay with the kids. Our hospital doesn't have the best arrangement for them to stay over and it would be hard for him to sleep there. I think I only spent 2 nights with Elizabeth b/c I was so bored I just wanted to get out!

 

My husband went home. The kids stayed at my brother's house the night before I went in and the first night after Liam was born, but after that, he was home with them. Doug didn't stay when the twins were born either. I loved being alone!!

 

DH was with me both times. The 'bed' they provided worked... not the most comfortable, but he managed. The twins spent two nights with grandma when Evan was born. Then the first night we were home, the twins were back with us.

 

The first night DH stayed with me because I didn't have B until 7:55p.m. after laboring all day (attempted VBAC that didn't work because of her head position). We had some very close family friends pick the kids up from daycare and take them home/feed/bath/bed. The friends know our evening routine. Then after B arrived, my MIL stayed at the house with the boys. DH got up early the next morning and helped get the boys ready/dressed/fed and took them to daycare on his way back up to the hospital. Then that evening, he picked the boys up and did the evening routine and after they were in bed, my MIL again stayed the night with the boys so DH could stay with me. The following morning, DH again went home and got the boys ready for daycare. I was discharged on the third day so we only had the two nights. The boys did fine. My main concern was not to disrupt their routine and we managed that for the most part. But I'm not sure if you have anyone you can count on to take care of the boys while you're in the hospital and if not, what I did wouldn't work.

Hope you get it figured out!

 

With the twins--The 1st night DH stayed and the next he stayed with our older 2 DDs. It was best for them and it was just one night. I did not have a C/S and stayed 2 nights.
This time around with 4 at home, I will be lucky to have him for delivery and will not press if he can not stay even one night. I can handle the baby solo, it will just be a little sad, I think. ILs will watch 4 kids but it is asking a lot IMO for more than one night. I think we will have them fill in so he can go back and forth during the day. That and I really think our 2 little ones will need him emotionally.

 

i think what i'd do is have dh stay the first night, and then he can decide if he wants to go home to the kids or stay the rest of the time. my parents will be more than happy to take the girls for those days, tho. (no, i'm not pregnant! lol)

 

good questions, i have been wondering this also.

 

My situation was a bit different. DH was planning on staying with me at the hospital (we assumed Olivia would room with me). Well, she needed 36 hours of NICU time, so DH just went to work and stayed at home and visited me in the evenings. I was glad b/c I wanted him to take a few days off after we were home. The twins went and stayed with my mom/dad for the weekend they brought them back after I was discharged.

 

dh will be there for delivery and then go home in the afternoon to get the kids off of the bus. Neighbor will have the twins. The next two days dh will go to work and come see me at night with the kids. I want him to use his time off when I'm home. With my singletons he never stayed the night. I knew I could handle it just fine and he'd be miserable on the hospital couch. With the twins he stayed and helped but boy was he exhausted lol! This time I'll be alone at night again and I know I'll be fine (knock on wood) BTW I'm having my baby in 4 days! 3/11/09!

 

For my 2nd C/S, we found someone to watch the kids for the first night. I really wanted him there the first couple of times I got out of bed. Then he went home and stayed with the kids. Although, my girls were in the NICU, I didn't have to care for them in-room. If I did, I might have needed someone. My mom and my SIL offered to come stay with me, but honestly, I enjoyed the alone time. IDK when I'll ever get that again.