breaking down

okay ladies, someone slap me and tell me to suck it up or someone tell me it's all going to be alright. just tried on a bunch of pants from last summer that were quite baggy and comfy, just the way i like them. WELL i just tried them on to see if they might fit this summer (theyre all cottony and elastic waists) and NOT A SINGLE PAIR FIT. on top of the fact that ive gained 25lbs so far and my thighs and arse as bigger than theyve ever been i feel like complete and total crap. now i KNOW im supposed to gain weight, but come on! baggy pants from last summer dont fit! im supposed to be getting fatter in the stomach area, not my thighs, hips, and friggin butt!!! will i EVER be comfy in my body again cuz as of now i feel like a cow. AND on top of all that, DH just called and he leaves in 9 DAYS for boot camp!!! i dont know if im excited for him, or sad, or scared. but 9 days!! and he's gonna be gone for 13 weeks. he may or may not be home for the babies birth, if not, he'll be home when theyre about a week old or so, and then 6 weeks after theyre born i'll join him wherever we get stationed. good news, he got a nice sign on bonus so we can pay off our debts, YEA!! he wants it so bad, and i am so proud of him for losing the weight he needed to (50lbs!!) and sticking with it even when it was rough and he wanted to give up. but im gonna be alone (not so much alone...im living with my parents and brothers and sisters...) but im going to be without HIM, and he's the only person i want to be around. im just being stupid, i should be grateful for my family, and i am. i love them so much and i dunno what id do without them. ugh i dunno, im rambling, so forgive me. thank you for reading, and giving me the slap/encouragement i need, i dont know what id do without all of you.

 

i fight your battle every day.. i need to be thankful for my family but sometimes i just want to do it alone..

i guess alone comes to soon so ineed to be thankful, however..


weight gain is part of having babies.. you can worry about loosing it once you have given birth..

many hugs, no slaps

 

I am sorry about your DH leaving, I can imagine how hard that is for you. Vent to us anytime. Hang in there. Sending you lots of :hug99: :hug99: .

 

First, the weight gain- it is hard. Our bodies change more than just ballooning out in front. Try not to dwell on it because you need to gain weight now to have healthy babies. You'll get your body back later.

As for your husband leaving- that is even harder. I am sorry. My husband and I have been apart several times, some longer than others. I think it is much easier before you have children to weather the seperation. And you will be so occupied by your family. It will be a blessing to be able to all be together. So many women are on a base somewhere with no family around. The bright side to him leaving earlier than expected is that he might make it back for the birth of the babies. Please know that there are so many people who understand how you feel. Before my husband leaves for extended periods I feel my heart will break. The good news is that it never does! We are stronger and more capable of dealing with things than we think. You starting out life with your twins debt free is a huge plus too.

Hang in there and check in for support now and then. I have and it has helped me so much.

 

Can I slap you, THEN hug you!

I don't think you need to be slapped. But I remember looking almost full term at 24 weeks, so I can imagine that old clothes would not fit. Of course they shouldn't! I am sorry you will be away from DH. That must be hard. But all of this will be worth it in the end.

 

Don't worry about the pants! Try them on this summer! You are preggo with TWINS! Weight gain is SO important. I didn't gain enough and my boys were so small. The extra inches will help your babies be stronger.

As for your DH, I'm not gonna lie. It's hard. What branch is he going into? I've noticed that the Air Force is very helpful when it comes to family matters. As long as his higher ups know your situation, you should be okay. I know boot camp is different b/c you can't talk very often and it needs to be completed, but it's worth him looking into. You're family will get on your nerves, but every time they do, I want you to think of the thousands of women stuck on bases too far to visit family. After living in Japan with Marine wives whose babies were not only born without their Dads around, but without any family to come help either, I've been so appreciative of every moment I have with my DH. On that note, I found it easier to be separated from DH once the boys arrived since they kept me so busy.

Hang in there and do all those things that you know you can't do while you're holding/feeding/changing two babies! I wish I would have read more while I was pregnant.

 

I know how you are feeling.. I am not even 17 weeks and have already packed away my size M maternity stuff that I was wearing at the end of my pregnancy with my last.. I am gaining it all in butt and thighs also.. and my arms.. WEIRD..

on a good note though.. it means a little shopping time.. Maybe go make yourself feel better with buying some new cute maternity clothes.. nothing better then retail therapy.

I am so sorry about dh leaving.. I can't imagine not having mine around.

 

Well vent away… I feel guilty now after reading your post… my Dh wants to take my son Dunn buggy on his birthday (April 6th) and sleep over night at a camp ground at the beach… and I’m like, your gonna leave me alone pregnant with twins when I’m 34 w 4 d pregnant with TWINS!!!! Did I mention I am pregnant with TWINS… YOUR twins to be exact… so maybe its ME who needs to buck up.
Now regarding weight gain, I couldn’t wear my regular jean at 3 months prego… and with my son I gained 80 pounds… I would guess (as I get on the scale backwards) that I have already put on 50 with this pregnancy, and I was in my regular jean after my son was born at my 14 day check up (of course they were spray painted on me, but they were on and THAT’S what counts… so don’t worry about the weight until they are out, who knows it may melt off like it did for me…

 

Vent away, anyone on this board either has been what you are going through or are currently going through it. I know about the weight gain, it sucks especially when you have to keep shelling out more and more money are clothes that you may not even wear again. I lost 45 lbs after they were born, but I'm stuck in the middle. My maternity clothes are too big but my prepreggo clothes are still too small. It sucks.

yeah it's going to be so tough with your DH being gone but two things come out of it. You are not alone completely, you do have your family. and it sounds like you guys will be financially secure which not alot of people have. You'll get through it, just know when you are sad your babies are sad. Stay strong and positive for them

 

Venting is what we are here for. I do enough of it myself. That said-You shouldn't fit into your regular clothes, loose or not. The idea of being pregnant is gaining weight in all the dreaded places. You have to gain weight for the babies to grow and be healthy. I was in maternity pants at 11 weeks, and have gained 50 pounds so far. I can't even get my larger pants on past my thighs and they haven't gotten that big. This is why they make maternity clothes so that you have clothes that fit properly in the proper places :lol:. I know it is discouraging. I can't even fit in the smaller maternity clothes that I had recently. I got so mad when I had my interview and none of my bottoms fit. I had to go out and buy a dress so I had something comfy to wear. You are doing what is best for the babies by getting bigger and feeling fatter. You will get used to it and actually grow to love it, I love my belly. Pretty soon you will fit in your clothes again and you may miss your belly, just think this summer those pants will fit perfectly.

I am sorry that your DH is leaving soon, that is probably not helping your whole outlook on things. That must be really hard. Hopefully he will make it back in time for the babies. I know what you mean about wanting him to be the one with you. I want to share the experience and have the support of my DH only in that moment. It is great that he is able to do what he has been wanting t do and is able to help you guys start your family without debt. That is awesome! Try to remember that this is only for a little while and that what is meant to be will be.

Jen

 

you guys are so awesome. :love0028: seriously, what would i do without each and every one of you? i dont even post on a daily basis or respond to others posts and youre all still so sweet. this is the only board i do post in, except for 1 here and there on another twin board, and once in awhile on ivillage. this is definatly the best place to be. thank you all for everything you said. youre all right, and i needed a wake up call, so thank you.

 

Big :hug99: !!

I'm sorry you've hit a rough patch; it's not the first and won't be the last. Go to Walmart and buy a cheap pair of big sweats, then treat yourself to a half gallon of ice cream FOR THE BABIES. Then take a bath with DH and celebrate being DEBT-FREE!!! That's great btw!

Hang in there, you're going to be fine :hug99:

 

QUOTE(Overachiever @ Mar 4 2008, 09:07 PM) [snapback]653173[/snapback]
Go to Walmart and buy a cheap pair of big sweats, then treat yourself to a half gallon of ice cream FOR THE BABIES. Then take a bath with DH and celebrate being DEBT-FREE!!! That's great btw!


lol literally, thank you SO MUCH for that

 

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Don't worry about the pants! Try them on this summer! You are preggo with TWINS! Weight gain is SO important. I didn't gain enough and my boys were so small. The extra inches will help your babies be stronger.



I agree! Your body changes so much so just go with the flow. You will be different after too. You will drop all the weight but may or may not be the same pant size. Gaining weight is good for the babies and you still have a while to go. Your ob will telll you if it is too much or too little so just go with their guidance.

 

QUOTE(cottoncandysky @ Mar 4 2008, 03:35 PM) [snapback]652597[/snapback]
okay ladies, someone slap me and tell me to suck it up or someone tell me it's all going to be alright. just tried on a bunch of pants from last summer that were quite baggy and comfy, just the way i like them. WELL i just tried them on to see if they might fit this summer (theyre all cottony and elastic waists) and NOT A SINGLE PAIR FIT. on top of the fact that ive gained 25lbs so far and my thighs and arse as bigger than theyve ever been i feel like complete and total crap. now i KNOW im supposed to gain weight, but come on! baggy pants from last summer dont fit! im supposed to be getting fatter in the stomach area, not my thighs, hips, and friggin butt!!! will i EVER be comfy in my body again cuz as of now i feel like a cow. AND on top of all that, DH just called and he leaves in 9 DAYS for boot camp!!! i dont know if im excited for him, or sad, or scared. but 9 days!! and he's gonna be gone for 13 weeks. he may or may not be home for the babies birth, if not, he'll be home when theyre about a week old or so, and then 6 weeks after theyre born i'll join him wherever we get stationed. good news, he got a nice sign on bonus so we can pay off our debts, YEA!! he wants it so bad, and i am so proud of him for losing the weight he needed to (50lbs!!) and sticking with it even when it was rough and he wanted to give up. but im gonna be alone (not so much alone...im living with my parents and brothers and sisters...) but im going to be without HIM, and he's the only person i want to be around. im just being stupid, i should be grateful for my family, and i am. i love them so much and i dunno what id do without them. ugh i dunno, im rambling, so forgive me. thank you for reading, and giving me the slap/encouragement i need, i dont know what id do without all of you.


That's great about some of the things! The weight thing- seriously, don't let that get to you. That's nothing compared
some other things that could be much more serious. I can totally understand you missing your husband!! I'm
glad you have support living right in your house! AND, your bills being payed off, what a relief that must feel.
Go hubby for losing all the weight, that's awesome, because that's hard.