both want to be held

Help! I have play mats, piano toy, bouncy seats, etc, but they both want to be held most of the time. I set them down and they cry and keep crying. I'm holding one while the other cries now. It's impossible to hold one all day-- let alone two! Plus I have a 3-year-old who is looking for some time too! Any advice?? Is this just a phase?? I'm really getting worn down- and sad too because I feel like I can't meet their needs.

 

This is temporary, and you will get through it. What I did in those days was put one in a bjorn and hold the other, kinda side by side on my chest, and I laid on the couch or bed and watched tv or read. I didn't get many chores done but it kept the babies happy and that was important. Of course, I didn't have a toddler also....

For times you can't hold both, have you tried the FP Aquarium bouncer or a swing? That was often a good fallback for me, especially the bouncer with the vibration mode.

 

Hi my babies are going through this right now also,I tell myself I'm doing the best I can and I try to give evryone as much attention as they need,I to put one in the front chest carrier and hold the other or I sometimes sit down on the floor and put both in my lap while I play on the floor or color on the floor with my 3 year old,its hard but I do it.It'll get better I do know it has to right

 

Can I suggest slings? You can wear them both and take care of your three year old as well.. everyone will be happy then!

 

I would also suggest a sling, or a swing! Have you tried swaddling them together?

 

Mine hated the sling ... what I do is plop them both on my EZ 2 Nurse pillow, one on each side, on the couch and put an arm around each of them so they feel my body on one side of them and my arm on the other and cuddle them that way ... I make goofy faces, talk to them, read and show them toys, or just chill and watch TV, either way they get good "cuddle" time in with Momma and I can kind of hold both at once.

 

Oh, I SO know how you feel. We're going through a bit of this right now, and it just makes me so sad that I can't devote complete attention to both. When dh came home the other night I had both of them in my lap screaming (because neither was particularly comfortable). I haven't been able to master the sling thing, unfortunately.

What sometimes works for me is to put one in the swing, hold the other on my lap, get really close to the swing with the babies facing each other and sing or talk together. I know it sounds cheesy, but I try to project lots of smiles and positive energy towards whoever's in the swing, as if I were holding him too. Sometimes it actually works!

 

If you find something that works let me know. Mine are doing the exact same thing right now so maybe it is a phase they all go through. I can't swaddle mine together because they don't like to be that close to one another, and for that exact same reason I can't really hold both at the same time either. Even when I hold one I can't lay down with him or he starts crying. I'm at my wits end right along with you.

 

My recliner is the most precious toy that I have. I get both kids and sit down with them. I put one on one side of me and the other on the other side so that they are not touching each other. For some reason they hate it when they touch. I have a 7 year old and yes it is possible to feed both babies and play the xbox at the same time. Just do your best thats all you can do!