bleeding.... :(

okay! i am as you probably all know 28 weeks along and have had some problems with me alreday dialated to 1cm and 90%effaced. i am on bedrest at home. NO CERVICAL PRESSURE! and i have been on a no sex rule now for about 5-6 weeks. IM GOING CRAZY! BAD CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i feel like me and my fiance have lost that intimate relationship that was soooooo wonderful! so lastnight (STUPID ME) insisted we have intercourse just take it easy! well we did! no deep penetration.... really easy slow love making. he was scared to death! so was i...but it felt so wonderful to have him there especially with alot of the stress we have been having. well he stopped outta nowhere and said i was bleeding...BAD. so i got up turned on the light and sure engough i was! ( i had had 2 episodes of this already with intercourse this pregnancy) so i went to the toilet to let loose anything else that needed to come out and this HUGE blood clot looking thing came out. i got out some chop sticks and pulled it outta the toilet and me and him examined it. it looked like a peice of chicken liver. it was all blood and very thick. i know i am so darn selfish and stupid for doing what i did. but i just needed that so much! so i decided not to call the dr. or go in that i would just see what today brought. well i am still spotting. and im kinda weirded out that it might have been my mucus plug, but it wasnt mucusy! it was think and RED RED RED! and was about an inch and a half long and wide! so anyone got any ideas what it was?? why i am bleeding?? the dr. said it was just irritation to my vaginal wall with my previous experiences. Im kinda worried but then again since the doctors pushed it off before, maybe its not a big deal. it was all over him, all over me, all over the bed....it was pretty gross! and i had alot of cramping and about 5 braxton hicks an hour afterwards. and then i feel asleep but was woken up by a horrible sharp pain in my lower abdomen..... and it freaked me out. then it happened again. today i feel just fine! just the spotting is still there!

sorry if this is tmi....

 

I'm not clear from your post what your dr said, but I would suggest you take the bedrest seriously.

If you are still concerned, go to L&D and have them check the babies on u/s.

Good luck.

 

I would definitely call your Dr right away, and from here on out you should follow your Dr's orders. 28 weeks is still extremely premature and you want your babies to have the best possible chances to cook as long as they can. GL!!

 

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I'm not clear from your post what your dr said, but I would suggest you take the bedrest seriously.

If you are still concerned, go to L&D and have them check the babies on u/s.

Good luck.



they just said how when you get pregnant the vaginal wall can get easily irritated which can cause bleeding. and told me that if i didnt care about having blood all over, lay a towel down or jump in the shower. they made it seem as if its no big deal that it was more of an annoying thing!

 

Having this problem with a past pregnancy, My advise to you is call the dr right away. I wont go into my details but call your dr. Your ultimate goal is healthy babies. I had that happen to me too.

 

I know you realize it was a poor decision, but PLEASE take this kind of stuff seriously, and don't do it again! Semen acts as a natural labor inducer, so that's another reason to follow your Dr.'s orders and just don't do it. There are many other ways to be intimate, have a little fun and be creative without having sex!

 

well we didnt make it to the semen part or me having an orgasm. i think the only thing that could have caused problem was the actual penetration which like i said...was very mild. thank you all!

 

Sex,is NOT the only way to have an intimate relationship. YOU and HIM should both know that! Sex, in my eyes is not worth the health of my babies, Im so glad nothing worse came of what happened. I hope you know now that bed rest and doctors orders should be taken seriously. I hope all is ok, thinking of you and the babies!

 

If you're on bedrest due to being dialated and effaced I think it's pretty safe to say you should be on pelvic rest too! I would call the doctor...what my doc said is that a bit of **spotting** with intercourse is normal, but anything more than that and I needed to come in ASAP. Doesn't matter now as I am 29 weeks and on modified bedrest and pelvic rest so won't be doing any of that for awhile now anyway.

Not worth risking your babies health ya know?

 

With that kind of bleeding you need to be seen ASAP. Stop having ANY KIND OF SEX! Good luck!

 

If I were you I'd have gone in immediately!! There's no room for guilt or fear right now cos you want to make sure the babies are alright! Hope you've seen the doc by now and everything is alright!

Like what pp said, sex is not the only thing that brings closeness in a couple, and I say it with total empathy and understanding because hubby and I have not had sex for the past 7 mths or so! I so understand that NEED!

 

Go see the doc immediately! Seems like maybe it's your guilt that's kept you from having gone already - but don't delay!!! Bleeding is a serious thing! It can speed up labor in a major way, and if you're not being monitored by somebody who can help the labor stop, you could be in serious trouble. 28 weekers won't survive a birth outside a hospital.

 

I know you acknowledge what you did was not smart so please be smart and call your doctor. Any type of bleeding like that, particularly after being dilated, effaced, placed on bed/pelvic rest could be a problem.

I think you should at least let them know as you may need to be checked out or they may tell you it was no big deal. I don't know...but I think you should call and certainly take the bed and pelvic rest seriously. A lot of us have BTDT and we know it's hard but you have to do what you have to do.

 

QUOTE(JESS6626 @ Oct 19 2008, 03:34 PM) [snapback]1032574[/snapback]
okay! i am as you probably all know 28 weeks along and have had some problems with me alreday dialated to 1cm and 90%effaced. i am on bedrest at home. NO CERVICAL PRESSURE! and i have been on a no sex rule now for about 5-6 weeks. IM GOING CRAZY! BAD CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i feel like me and my fiance have lost that intimate relationship that was soooooo wonderful! so lastnight (STUPID ME) insisted we have intercourse just take it easy! well we did! no deep penetration.... really easy slow love making. he was scared to death! so was i...but it felt so wonderful to have him there especially with alot of the stress we have been having. well he stopped outta nowhere and said i was bleeding...BAD. so i got up turned on the light and sure engough i was! ( i had had 2 episodes of this already with intercourse this pregnancy) so i went to the toilet to let loose anything else that needed to come out and this HUGE blood clot looking thing came out. i got out some chop sticks and pulled it outta the toilet and me and him examined it. it looked like a peice of chicken liver. it was all blood and very thick. i know i am so darn selfish and stupid for doing what i did. but i just needed that so much! so i decided not to call the dr. or go in that i would just see what today brought. well i am still spotting. and im kinda weirded out that it might have been my mucus plug, but it wasnt mucusy! it was think and RED RED RED! and was about an inch and a half long and wide! so anyone got any ideas what it was?? why i am bleeding?? the dr. said it was just irritation to my vaginal wall with my previous experiences. Im kinda worried but then again since the doctors pushed it off before, maybe its not a big deal. it was all over him, all over me, all over the bed....it was pretty gross! and i had alot of cramping and about 5 braxton hicks an hour afterwards. and then i feel asleep but was woken up by a horrible sharp pain in my lower abdomen..... and it freaked me out. then it happened again. today i feel just fine! just the spotting is still there!

sorry if this is tmi....


I agree with the prvious posters- call your doctor. Especially since you were having contractions and pains. And, as someone who's been on pelvic restriction for my entire pregnancy- you can make it just fine without having sex especially if you're already dialated and 90% effaced. 28 weeks is way to early to be having your babies because you couldn't find another way to connect with your fiancee. I don't mean to sound harsh, but as someone who's been on bedrest and at times not taken it as seriously as I should, you'd never be able to live with yourself if something happened because you didn't follow doctor's orders-which were given for a reason.

Good luck and I hope everything's okay!

 

well things have been better. i just called the L&D and asked them about me spotting and having this mucus like discharge and they ONCE AGAIN....put it off like it was ok. they said for me to just keep my feet up for the rest of the day and stay hydrated. i know i was selfish for the decision i made but there are alot of things going on in my life right now that are absolutely HORRIBLE and that was my only way of stopping crying....feeling wanted....feeling loved.....and just letting go for a few minutes. it wasnt for pleasure!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it was for the sake of my sanity and my relationship, which is the only thing i have! I have two girls that make me happy but also have attitudes outta this world. i like to vent but i am not doing it on here cuz .ast time i did i got nothing but negative responses from people and it made me almost leave the boeard permanently! so i took a different route the best way i could and that was to share a couple minutes of intimacy in a very gentle, loving way so that we didnt HURT the babies. so i am not going in to get checked. they dont feel its necessary and i am doing better today besides the mild spotting and mucusy discharge with a slight brown tint. so you can close this topic out now.... thanx for your replies!

 

QUOTE(JESS6626 @ Oct 20 2008, 12:54 PM) [snapback]1033785[/snapback]
i did i got nothing but negative responses from people and it made me almost leave the boeard permanently! so i took a different route the best way i could and that was to share a couple minutes of intimacy in a very gentle, loving way so that we didnt HURT the babies. so i am not going in to get checked. they dont feel its necessary and i am doing better today besides the mild spotting and mucusy discharge with a slight brown tint. so you can close this topic out now.... thanx for your replies!

I was not judging you and don't intend to but I really think you should go to L&D and not just take their word for it. Did you tell them that you had intercourse and were experiencing this or just that you were experiencing some spotting?

Mild spotting and mucousy discharge what my sign of PTL and I didn't feel a single contraction! Please go to L&D or your doctor and get checked out to make sure it's nothing more for you to worry about.

 

I am sorry you have felt judged or thought replies were negative...you shouldnt feel that way. Most everyone here wants to give you support and advice and care very much for you to have a healthy pregnancy and although no one can know exactly what you have been going through should take that in to account. Bed rest is tough, having other children to care for is tough and all of that is really tough on a relationship. Please take the responses on here as really just caring for your unborn babies and not as a judgement on you. You learned your lesson and know what can happen, many ladies on here also know the pain of seeing their babies in NICU and wish they could have done more to keep them in a little longer to avoid all of that.
I really agree with previous poster about getting checked-I would just want peace of mind more then anything. Can you feel them moving around as much as before? You probably dont have anything to worry about. I just wanted to add that at 31 weeks I lost my mucus plug and went in to l&d and I was having preterm labor (couldnt feel the contractions) was dilated to 3cm and tested positive on that test (cant remember what it was called) I had to stay in the hospital for several days so they could stop the contractions and then was put on bed rest at home and had to take medication.
I hope you are still doing fine and wish the best for you!

 

At the OP'ers request I am closing this topic.