biting at daycare

Hi all,

Perhaps this does not only pertain to only biting twins: How many times per day or week, is it acceptable for biting to happen at daycare to the same child in your opinion?

I know in our hearts we all donot want this to happen at all, but it happens. I wonder where is the limit. At home I don't do anything but just sit by them to assure biting doesn't happen (stopping before the biter bite verbally or removing - and of course the house is very bad ...), and we only have the twin. At daycare, the teachers cannot afford the time to follow single kid, so biting happens and I just felt that it 2x/ day or consecutive days is too disservice for the child that being bitten.

Thanks for the feedbacks.

 

At daycare I shouldn't be happening more than once a week(or even that often). They are aware of who the biter is and most often the bitee is the same child. They should be watching those interactions closer. My Jess bit jazz all the time but never really bit any one else. So they watched for signs of stress from Jess when jazz would get in her face to prevent the biting

 

Biting at daycare should happen once... and then not again. If it happens a second time, I'd probably go in and talk to the schoool. So, my answer is less than once a week. Certainly not twice a day. If that's happening then the teachers have a problem on their hands. The child might not be ready for school, or maybe the teachers aren't watching carefully enough for the triggers that biting is about to occur.

 

My tolerance for biting incidents between the twins would also be much lower than twice per day.

Biting is doing a disservice to both the bitee and the bite, actually I believe even more the biter because the child needs adult help in coping with the situations that lead to biting before it becomes a fixed habit.

I would expect a good daycare to watch for such situations. If they do not, I would not be very happy about the level of care and attention the children are getting. Depending on the situation and how satisfied you are with the daycare in other respects, it might be a red flag more me if things do not improve. At the very least, I would make an appointment and discuss this issue with the room teacher and possibly the principal: If you have the same problem at home maybe you can give the daycare teachers a list of signs to watch for and methods of prevention that have worked for you? Then I would expect to see marked improvement quickly.

 

That is way too much. Is the biter your other twin, or another child in the class?

I will say that my older son and my girl twin were never bitten at daycare, while my boy twin has been bitten between 5 and 10 times. I can definitely imagine why - he is much more likely to snatch something out of someone's hands then my other two. But still, that's 5-10 times total over the course of 15 months! Not twice a day!