Big u/s tomorrow...

So-our big u/s is tomorrow. We(I mostly) do not want to know the sex, as this is most likely our last child. :cry: When I think about not finding out-I get SO excited. It's crazy. I can not wait to hear the ob say, "It's a GIRL!" or "It's a BOY!" That just excites me no end. Not much planning needs to be done as we have everything from the boys. I plan on doing the room(bedding, etc) after the baby gets here(in case it is a girl), and if it's a girl-we need girl clothes-that's it! And even still-there are plenty of things that are gender neutral.

OK. My question...I kinda want to ask the tech to get a picture of the sex of the baby and put it in a sealed envelope so I can have it for LATER. As in later for the photo albums, etc. Is that crazy? My friend said I wouldn't make it home. I think I would! We had a fun u/s over the weekend(a friend scanned me for peace of mind-and good pictures), and I had NO desire to find out what the baby was!

So-would/has anyone done that? Or is that just a crazy idea???

 

If you want to ask, go ahead........what can it hurt? If you want to look in a few weeks, or a month, or NOT AT ALL, at least you would have it.

I have never understood the stand of either finding out or waiting until the actual birth to hear "it's a girl" or "it's a boy"....either way it is a surprise whether you find out during pregnancy or at the birth.

 

I think it is a great idea Meaghan, although I would be one of the ones who would be ripping it open before I got out of the office! Good luck with the u/s!

 

my sister did that with her last pregnancy and they opened it on the way home LOL
but we all new that they would not be able to not look
i say go for it. whats the worst that can happen, you look. right?
good luck at your apt. how fun.

 

I have a very dear friend who did just that, in fact the u/s tech placed in the envelope and sealed it for them. If that is your desire you will make it without a problem.

 

Copy and paste of my myspace blog about the same topic. Its long but I was in the same position...

Most of you know that I did not want to find out what sex the babies were. I had many reasons. We didn't know what we were having with Anna and I thought that was fun.That was mostly financial, we didn't have insurance at the time and we don't qualify for any type of medicaid. The one ultrasound we had showed that she had four chambers of the heart, two hemispheres of a brain, and a closed spine. She was healthy, and that was all that mattered to us.
We did the same with Sofie and intended to do so with the twins, the problem is, almost everytime I go to the doc they do an ultrasound, so I always have to tell the sonographer to stay away from that area. Anyway, when I went to my 20 week ultrasound 3 weeks ago, I told the sonographer to go ahead and write the sexes down on a piece of paper and seal it in an envelope I had made out to my best friend Tasha in Florida. She did what I asked her and I had that envelope at home on my computer desk all night before I mailed it the next day. I had no desire to peek. None of my local family or friends were to know that the results even existed. I sent it to Tasha because I thought it was something special we could have between us as she is so far away, plus I knew she wouldn't tell me no matter how much I begged.
Anyway, with all the hurricanes and confusion down there, the letter was sent back last week. I let Anna look at it and told her that it was her secret, she couldn't tell anyone, not even me if I asked. We were on the way to school and she opened it and started laughing and crying. I told her again, you can't tell ANYONE, it's your secret cause you're the big sister. She asked if she could tell Sofie since she was a big sister too and I agreed to that. I then told Anna to take the paper in the school with her and throw it away, I didn't want to see it. She said o.k. then I dropped her off. When Sofia and I got to school, I was getting her out of her carseat and saw the bright blue piece of paper sitting on Anna's booster seat. SHE LEFT IT IN THE CAR!!! I couldn't help it, and I peeked. So, I've known for about a week. I'm so disappointed that I looked, but I did and I can't take it back. I hold on to the chance that the sonographer was wrong, not about the babies, because I'm over the moon!! But, even if she just mixed up who is who and I got a surprise that way, I would feel better. Anyway, now my Myspace Public can know.....

Baby A is a girl
Baby B is a boy!

 

I don't think it's crazy, at all! Like a pp mentioned - it would be your envelope and if you decided to peek, so be it. If you decided to be surprised, that's great too. I know just how you feel about wanting the big surprise at the birth. I found out the genders of the first 4. I had always been interested in being surprised, but DH really wanted to find out every time. With #1, he and I agreed to find out the gender, with #2 I still wanted to be surprised, but I caved on the u/s table (it's really hard to say, "no" when they ask if you want to know the gender!), with #3 I was DETERMINED to get my surprise, but then we found out there were two babies, so I changed my mind and decided I wanted to know - besides, with twins you get so many u/s, I'm not sure I could have not noticed the genders if I had tried! So, finally, with #5 I got my desire and didn't find out the gender. I have to say, though, that it drove me batty! I really disliked not getting to know this little person inside of me. I like calling the baby by name or at least by 'he' or 'she' rather than 'it' or 'the baby'. I like knowing whether to buy pink or blue, and I like being prepared! Also, the moment of birth is so spectacular in and of itself, whether you know the gender or not, that I didn't feel like that big announcement of "it's a boy" was as huge as I had made it out in my mind, KWIM? It's hard to explain, but as soon as we found out #6 was on the way, I knew I would learn the gender! I'm really not trying to talk you out of it, as I completely understand the desire, but I ended up being disappointed in the big moment itself - because it didn't make it any more special. I learned something about myself in the process of being surprised - and that is that I don't like being surprised , so I think the envelope thing is an excellent strategy in case you change your mind!

 

With my ds#3 I found out and my dh had NO clue!! He should have known because every girl name he mentioned I said SURE!! (and they were AWFUL!!!) and every boy name he mentioned I said no to!! (until he mentioned Dawson which I love!) PLUS I used the same crib bedding (BLUE and RED AIRPLANES) as with ds#2!! I guess he thought he had finally taught me his cheap ways!!

I would not have the will power not to open that envelope!! like a pp did, I would address it to a friend who could keep it but have it stamped and ask the OB staff to mail it! with their address as the return address!!

I am so excited for you!!!!!!

 

Never done that myself, but go for it if you want to. Though I honestly think doing that is setting yourself up to find out b4 birth.

I have done it all ways.

• My first 2 pregnancies were unknown gender until birth - it was great.
• My 3rd - DH & I found out, but told NO ONE else. That was perfect.
• Twins - we knew & let others know.

Looking back....out of these, knowing but keeping it between the two of us was great.

 

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Never done that myself, but go for it if you want to. Though I honestly think doing that is setting yourself up to find out b4 birth.

I have done it all ways.

• My first 2 pregnancies were unknown gender until birth - it was great.
• My 3rd - DH & I found out, but told NO ONE else. That was perfect.
• Twins - we knew & let others know.

Looking back....out of these, knowing but keeping it between the two of us was great.


You know..I've thought about finding out and not telling anyone. That was/is still an option I suppose! Not sure if I could keep it in though!

 

I think the sealed envelope is a great idea, but I would also be ripping it open in the car, LOL.

I have two good friends who are due within the next couple weeks, and both didn't find out the gender -- and both didn't find out with their first two children, also. I so admire that decision, and think it would be so cool....but dude, I am just impatient, LOL. And I can't fathom not having my nursery perfectly decorated before the baby gets here.

Let us know what you decide! I'm even impatient to find out who your new little person is!

 

We didn't find out with this one, that was my wish not DH's. I would totally cave if it was written on paper or somebody else knew and not me! I don't think that by not finding out, you are proving anything, I just think it's fun!

Your OB is going to get pics of the US for the file, so could you just ask the US tech to take pictures of those parts and send them with the rest of the pics to the OB, but not to write the sex on the report? Then your OB could give them to you later??? Just a thought...

 

*UPDATE*

We went for the ultrasound...and did NOT find out! Nor did we get a picture either... I was seriously thinking of finding out and not telling anyone, but dh said I didn't want to know, and in the end I would be disappointed I found out when I didn't want to. Sooooo....the tech knows and the ob doesn't and won't because it's not in the report anymore.

We go back in 4 weeks for a better check of the heart. Everything else was great which I was relieved about! And the baby weighs 9oz!