bedrest with toddler

My daughter in law has just be put on strict bedrest-up for potty and shower only. She is 27 weeks pregnant with twins. She has a toddler to care for, and NO family in town. Any suggestions for how she can cope with this? It might be a long time to rely on friends. Thanks-future grandma of twins.

 

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My daughter in law has just be put on strict bedrest-up for potty and shower only. She is 27 weeks pregnant with twins. She has a toddler to care for, and NO family in town. Any suggestions for how she can cope with this? It might be a long time to rely on friends. Thanks-future grandma of twins.



long videos....or a little portable DVD player...that she can get into bed with mommy. Send her some coloring books, go to the dollar tree and send her a box full of goodies, WRAP them...and let dil give them to her as she "needs" to. a little something will keep her busy several times a day!

God love her it isn't easy...I hope she does well.

Missy

PS I have done bedrest with all 3 of my pregnancies....and once of them I had a toddler....but I had lots of family. Tell her not to turn down ANY help!

 

I feel ya. Im starting bed rest next week ( Im supposto be on it now but help wont be here tell then) and my partner is still out to sea. It wasn't tell just recently we firgured out a plan. I have a lot of the time covered but not all of it. I have some family helping but the other half Im using freinds and partners friends. I have a 3 yr and 17 mo. Someone suggested to me hiring help? I know I could not really afford that but don't know if you all could? Do you have a church or something?

I also looked at what were my neediest times of the day. Like nap time no big deal don't really need help. morning, baths, needed more help so asked for more then.

I know how hard it is. You feel torn between having to take of your child and making sure your babies survive. I know it can feel like being asked to choose what child lives and what child doesn't.

Im sorry she is faced with this. I know it is not easy. One thing my DR asked me when I told him no way was "if i did have a 3 mo early babies in the NICU who would watch my kids for me while I was with the new babies?" That motivated me to figure it out. I have done the best I can and really that is all she can do.

 

Reading this knowing I am probably going to be there eventually... my doctor is talking about bedrest in the next 4 weeks and I have a three year old. Sending your DIL positive thoughts!

 

I am in the same situation. Strict bedrest with a 2 1/2 year old. Luckily I have friends helping out while my husband is at work. It is really tough! I know my daughter is confused about why mommy can't do much.

 

You must have other twins in your family (it looks like you joined t.s. in 2004!). Do you have any family members who can travel and stay with her? My MIL was here everyday to help, and my Mother came from out of state for 6 months (we did have some health issues with the babies).