bed rest with twins

I am 23 weeks pregnant and have started spotting and my cervix is softening. My dr has given me a prescription and ordered bed rest. Any tips on how to care for my girls, clean house and prepare three meals a day while I'm on bed rest?

 

the only thing i can tell you is to get help. you really cannot do all that while on bedrest, and don't be afraid of the house isn't as organized as you would like.

 

I agree - you can't do that on your own. Do you have friends/family/a church group that you can recruit to help out?

 

:hug: that must be so overwhelming to hear!

I agree that you need some help... even if it's just a mommy's helper to help bath and take care of the kids a couple hours during the day.

The best way to do meals is to make a huge pot of something and make it last for the week. Maybe some sort of soup that you can sit down and cut up the veggies and just let it cook all day.

:hug: I hope you get some other advice... Are you part of any twins group? I know that our local twins group delivers meals in situations like this.

 

I agree wholeheartedly. You need to get help. I agree that you need to let some things go as you can do them later. If you have a friend or relative near by that you feel comfortable having that person watch and feed your kids while you are resting, take full advantage of it. If you have any neighbors or anyone from church if you go to one that you are friendly with, accept help from them.

NEVER be afraid to ask for help!

If you can afford it, you can hire a mother's helper/Doula. There are some babysitters that can help you as well or hire a nanny or even an Au Pair (sp?) who can help you as well as your kids. You'll need to eat too and you'll need someone you can trust to take care of the kids when you are at the doctor's and can take care of you if you need the extra care. Some of this may sound overboard, but those are ideas that you may find suit your needs. My SIL was on strict bedrest once she hit the 6 month mark. She had a child before but was already a 2-month preemie before and needed extra attention. She had gotten help to focus on her son, and that really helped her feel less stressed and more relaxed. She was there so it wasn't like she was never involved! Her nanny helped her out too with cooking food and getting her groceries when needed. It was the best decision she coudl have ever made for her situation!

 

Thanks, everyone. It's really hard for me to ask for help, but it looks like I will just have to suck it up and do it!

 

Agree with others and like you I have a hard time asking for help but better this situation than being put in the hospital on bed rest. Maybe for now while you sort out a long term plan there are a couple of teenagers out of school in your area that can come and help during the day. Like others said make freezer meals or purchase them if you have those places available to you in your area. And let go of the fact that the house wont be as clean for a while and that is okay.

 

forgot to also say - hang in there it will be a long tough road but you can do it!