Bad Mommy

Today has been rough, the last couple of weeks have been rough. Both girls are teething and have had the flu. I just feel so emotionally drained and lately I have caught myself trying to soothe one twin and when the other starts crying and i can't help her I tell her "Please don't, it's ok, no more, please stop crying." Like she can help it, yenno? I just don't know what else to do. I get flustered because I just want them both to be happy and for them to feel equally loved. It's soooooo hard to do that sometimes. I don't know what to do! I feel so wrong for asking them to stop, like they can understand! I just love them so much and it breaks my heart when I can't help. I am frustrated. Any ideas? Thanks for letting me vent.

 

I don't have any ideas but I just wanted to let you know that I am right there with you. garrett and grant have started teething and they are WAY cranky. they are moody all the time so since I am always tending to their needs Gavin get a little demanding. I always feel overwhelmed. as soon as i feel like i can do this, a day like today happens. i always tell mine to please stop. today they were both screaming and I was overwhelmed. I just looked at both of them and said "sorry but I have to get a coke and some tylenol." I felt horrible for just letting them cry for a minute, but I was so exhausted. I took the tylenol and then back to the craziness.

I feel for you and i understand. Hopefully tomorrow will be better.

 

It makes me feel so much better to know I am not alone...I am so glad I found this forum! I feel like I am talking to a wall sometimes when I talk to my friends who only have one! Thanks for letting me know it happens...I am going to try harder not to do it.

 

s! I hope they are feeling better soon. It is so hard when they are both so needy! Hang in there!

 

Mine are still little & I already do this! I just keep telling them "I'm sorry, I'll be there as soon as I can". Sometimes it just can't be helped, things have to be done (usually for them) & time isn't always there to get them done.

We love them & they know it. We aren't neglecting them...we are doing the exact opposite. But it is still hard!

Hope they feel better soon.

 

You AREN'T a bad mommy at all!! Just hang in there, and it will get better. As long as you give them love and meet their needs, even if it isn't at the exact moment that they want something, all will be well.

 

I hope they feel better soon, and you too! It's so hard sometimes with two especially when they are so small and can't understand that there are two of them and only one mommy. I feel so bad when one is cranky and I have to give so much attention to her and her sister is not getting what I think she needs. We just have to remember that we are doing the best we can and that the babies are getting enough love everyday, even if we don't see it.

 

And, remember that if you are not healthy and sane...nothing will work right. You need to take care of yourself, too. You are doing a great job...you are a mommy to twins!! Most people couldn't do what you do every single day!