I went to the doctor on Monday and was 3 to 4 but probably more like a 4 cm dialated according to the doctor. I expressed how miserable I was and how much I wanted to go ahead and be induced since I had made it to "full term". She finaly agreed to set it up to break my water for next Monday and to check me again at on Thursday when I had my NST since I would be so close to 38 weeks and if progressed at all she would do it then instead. So I go in today and the nurse calls her and she says "she was 4 to 5 before. Check her and call me back." I guess I dialated a whole cm on Monday during my appt. and didn't know it. Wow. So when the nurse checked she said I was the same and told the doctor that. So of course she said to send me home. So first, she told me SHE would come to check on me and see how I was feeling and if I had progressed. The nurse even said I didn't check you before so I don't know how thinned out or what effacement you were before to know if you are the same or progressing. Then she told the nurse to tell me to come back on Monday and we would see again and think about breaking my water then. Even though she originaly told me we WOULD do it first thing in the morning. It had to be on Monday because her partners had already told me they would do nothing before 40 weeks (even though I never asked them to so I might have convinced tehm to do it a little sooner) so she had to do it on a day that she was on call. The nurse expressed to her how much I wanted her to break my water sooner and she said "yea I know. She has been bugging me for weeks." That made me mad!! I have never even heard of this doctor until I saw her this last Monday. The nurse suggested that maybe she meant I did it to the other doctors and didn't mean just her. Well I have been a very strong person through this and never complained about one thing (except to ask what I could do to ease the back pain) until my last appointment. Nor have I ever even suggested that they do anything before 40 weeks. Then at almost 35 weeks everything below my hips swelled to twice the size it once was, I got carpel tunnel so bad I could barely sign the papers for preadmitting yesterday, my ribs feel they are going to snap at any moment, and a couple days ago I got that rash on my stomach, and it itches so bad and nothing it helping it! Not to mention that a week and a half ago they measured the babies at 6 lbs 11 oz and 6 lbs 9 oz. So not on the small side! So at this appointment I asked if they would break my water to help things along instead of using drugs. And even though she was very reluctent she said ok. And before I left the nurse said "I haven't had twins but with my singleton it was hard at the end, but you only have a couple weeks left you will be fine" One she had ONE baby not two. If you haven't had two 7 pound babies in you at the same time I don't want to hear that you know how I feel! Because you don't! But anyway I then go home (barely since my ankles are swollen so bad I can't bend them and I had to park at near the end of the parking lot) and look at the doctors appointments I had scheduled and was supposed to cancel since the doctor HAD said she would deffinately break my water on Monday and realize that the appointment I had scheduled for Monday was with her!? How is she going to be on call and in clinic? They told me before they can't do both on the same day. So now I'm confused and don't know what to think or do and all the doctors are in training today and tomorrow so I can't talk to anyone. My husband is pissed and said that he doesn't like this doctor and doesn't want her to deliver the babies even though he hasn't even met her. This hospital has strict policies against anyone being induced for anything other than medical emergency before 38 weeks. They said it's because the babies aren't developed and will have heart and lung issues. I really feel like I might be pregnant FOREVER!!! Everyday is long and hard and I just want to lay down and cry the whole time. But who has time for that when you have a two year old and a husband who got stuck on 12 hour shifts 6 days a week with no extra pay (benefits of the stupid military). Ok I feel a little better. Thanks for listening.
:hug: I am glad you were able to vent. The end is tough, when you are just so uncomfortable you don't even know what to do with yourself. I am so sorry the OB is frustrating you totally. Big :hug: to you!
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: The end s*cks, and it s*cks even worse when you feel like your doctor is not on your side. And nurses should know better than to make comments that they know how it is, because they totally don't. Hang in there!
Sorry to hear you're having a rough time! I just wanted to agree that military doctors seem to be so unsympathetic more than any other doctor I've ever met. Mine was schedule me before 38 weeks, but none of them think I'll make it anywhere close to there. I found out that at this military hospital if it's an unscheduled, emergency csection they cut you vertically! So now I'm really freaked out! I have to make it to my scheduled day or I get cut vertically!
Oh man seriously why do they do this to women?! UGH! I feel sooo bad for you! :hug: Will they do a membrane sweep instead of breaking your water, they might be more apt to do that sooner than the water breaking. I had this done and within 2 days I believe I went into labor, or is that what you're talking about? It will be over soon now, I know it doesn't feel like it. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Military Family here too, get that crap for sure. I remember the night before my c-section not being able to sleep at all (not that I was sleeping very good anyway) because I was convinced the damage the twin pregnancy had done to my body would not heal. I was so scared after I had the babies the pain would be life long lol. It is so hard in the end. Every day seems so long. But you are closer then you were a week ago and you wont be pregnant forever. I love my babies, but right now, I don't envy you. It is hard. I remember in the end how much of a mental game it was. You can do it! Sorry the docs and nurses are being poopy (have to keep it g-rated right? lol). That does NOT help anything right now. I think we have all learned what the phrase "labor of love" means. Deap breaths, you can do this!
:hug: :hug: :hug: I just wanted to offer some sympathy from someone who has recently BTDT. I just gave birth and my smaller twin was 6 lbs 3 oz. The bigger one was 7 lbs, 5oz. It's really tough, but just take it one day at a time. Hopefully, the size of the babies will trigger labor soon. My OB thinks that the size of my boys is what brought on labor at 37 weeks 3 days.
You have done an incredible job making it this far! I hope you go into labor on your own and drag a dr out of bed to deliver your sweet babies! that was my evil side talking! Seriously, I know what you are saying, if you haven't had twins....SHUT UP! hehe here is a big hug and vent to us anytime!
QUOTE(ShortStackJo @ Jun 25 2009, 08:40 PM) [snapback]1368687[/snapback] Sorry to hear you're having a rough time! I just wanted to agree that military doctors seem to be so unsympathetic more than any other doctor I've ever met. Mine was schedule me before 38 weeks, but none of them think I'll make it anywhere close to there. I found out that at this military hospital if it's an unscheduled, emergency csection they cut you vertically! So now I'm really freaked out! I have to make it to my scheduled day or I get cut vertically! WHAT???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why do they do that??!! Whats the rationale?? A vertical cut is HORRIBLE!!! I dont get it! I'm sorry, I've been reading your stories about these doctors and they have sounded bad up to this point but that is down right alarming!!!
So sorry to hear all this, it sounds awful. You should tell that nurse that your being 38 weeks is about like being 44 weeks with just one baby. So unless she carried to 44 weeks, you don't think she could understand. I feel so sorry for everyone that has these horrible doctors. I really feel blessed to have my doctor who has told me that she would not want me to carry past 38 weeks and that anytime after 36 as long as the babies are big enough she would be comfortable doing whatever, even scheduling a c-section. Another thought - have you been doing all the other things that supposedly induce labor naturally? one that I learned about in my childbirth class is using the breast pump for an hour every day. I figure it will be good practice for later anyway.
