baby showers for 2nd pregnancies

I am sure this topic has been brought up but I was wondering what all of you are doing about baby showers if this is your second or more pregnancy. I feel weird having another shower when Ijsut had one for my son 2 years ago and invitign the same people. I feel liek it will be greedy. What do all of you think?? Do you think its different because its twins??

 

I might be in the minority, but I believe that every single baby is a cause for celebration, regardless of whether its your first or your 12th. It's up to the invitee if they want to attend or buy a gift, but I think you should have a party without fail!

 

i have had a baby shower for both my singelton kids, and i will be having on for the twins as well.
for us its about everyone meeting the babies and celebrating there birth.

i have had a baby shower for both my singelton kids, and i will be having on for the twins as well.
for us its about everyone meeting the babies and celebrating there birth.

 

I do think it's different with twins, since in some ways it's like starting over--yeah, you have one of everything already but now you need two of most things. Some etiquette purists might feel differently. (I'm not really sure, just guessing; I know some people feel really strongly about not having a shower after a first pregnancy but I don't know whether or not they'd think of multiples as an exception.) But to me it totally makes sense to have a shower in your case!

 

QUOTE(caba @ Dec 10 2008, 11:07 AM) [snapback]1105516[/snapback]
I might be in the minority, but I believe that every single baby is a cause for celebration, regardless of whether its your first or your 12th. It's up to the invitee if they want to attend or buy a gift, but I think you should have a party without fail!



Ditto Ditto Ditto!! I agree have a party no matter what. With the twins my BFF and Mom threw a shower and we got tons of presents because really we needs tons of stuff. "Admission" to the shower was one package of diapers or one box of wipes, and you got entered to win one of 3 door prizes (pretty nice things). Honestly I didnt have to buy diapers for about 3 mnths!! I would say go for it!

 

[SIZE=12pt]We'll for us this is baby #6 & 7 and we have been given showers for each of our other children by our church. We have already been told by our church and my brothers church that they plan to give us a shower, even though our youngest is 15mth and will be about 21-22 months when the twins come. We do need more stuff. We don't have 2 car seats we don't have a stroller for 2 babies. Some of our stuff we gave away or sold after our 15 mth old as we thought that was going to be it So here we are like starting over again We will gladly take a shower if given one but we won't ask for one from anyone. We just have so many loving people in our lives they have all just jumped when we announced we were having twins[/SIZE]

 

I think I'm going to respectfully disagree with the PPs on this one. I didn't feel I needed a shower, and didn't have one. We had everything from my 2 yr old and borrowed 1 carseat bucket, crib, swing and an exersaucer. The extra swing and exersaucer are rarely used, in fact I already returned the swing and my boys are 6 mo old. We purchased an extra bouncy seat, double stroller and the high chair (we just use a booster seat that straps to a chair). I felt a shower would give me so much more extra "stuff" (i.e., clutter) and we've been just fine without one.

It sounds like a lot of you had showers after the babies were born. I personally wouldn't have wanted that as I was very overwhelmed over the littest things the first 6 weeks or so. Leaving the house made me physically exhausted. I also am a germ-a-phobe (is that a word???) and don't like passing babies around. What I would have liked, and got quite a bit of, was meals. That meant so much more to me than someone buying me matching outfits.

 

I had a babyshower for my son and I just recently had one for my twins !!

 

I also think that every baby is a reason to celebrate!!! I had a shower for each of my pregnancies and my twin shower (babies #4 and 5) was by far the best I RACKED UP!!! I got 2 of everything, my double stroller both carseats - I needed a truck to take everything home in!!!! It is not greedy at all!! showers are so much fun!!

 

QUOTE(caba @ Dec 10 2008, 10:07 AM) [snapback]1105516[/snapback]
I might be in the minority, but I believe that every single baby is a cause for celebration, regardless of whether its your first or your 12th. It's up to the invitee if they want to attend or buy a gift, but I think you should have a party without fail!

Nope, I totally agree with you Erica!

 

I had one with my girls, but it had been 7 years since I had a baby so I had nothing. I don't think it's greedy, those people who think so just won't come. Maybe that's not a helpful thought, but I, too, think it's a cause for celebration and with two you just need extra help.

 

We had a baby shower for my 2nd pregnancy since it was a boy and we had two girls. Our showers tend to be mostly relatives and close family friends though so that could make a difference. Seeing as you are having twins though, that is really seen as something special and I'm sure most people would be delighted to be invited to a twins shower. Just expect to get a lot of clothes instead of big ticket items though.

 

I think that it's ok to have another shower(s). No matter how different the ages are between the children. And like someone else pointed out, this time around there is more than one coming and you do need double the items. Or at least more to add to what you already have. Every little bit helps.

 

I don't normally agree with having a shower for 2nd, 3rd etc babies. This is because my mother drilled into my head when I was pregnant with my DD that I needed to pick things that were unisex for any future babies because no shower would be had. She said it was tacky. My mother's words, not mine.
But when we found we were having twins and that they were boys compared to our singleton DD, I agreed to having a shower. This time around we had a coed shower and it was given by my same friend as my first shower. My mother even relented and said it would be ok. I enjoyed it because we played different games that included the guys. Also we opened all the presents as the guests arrived and laid them out on a table for everyone to view. This left it more like a party with presents rather than a shower. I say have one and enjoy it.

 

I have had one every pregnancy, and am I having one this time.. Not my choice but the god parent insisted and threw them lol.. They were all very nice and I alwyas have said no present sbut they were brought anyway.. I believe every baby should be celebrated, JMO though.

 

Baby showers are a big help! Don't feel greedy.. I had a baby shower about 2 yrs ago too! But I don't feel greedy! Again, this is a TWIN pregnancy and it's double everything! So you need the extra help you family and friends can give!! GO FOR IT!!!