Baby Shower ?'s

So my the Grammy's and Uncles are throwing us a shower at 27 weeks because I had told them to do it early, after reading everyones percepective's on here and agreeing I wanted to be comfortable enough to enjoy it and incase of bedrest and everything i want to be organized and ready early. So my mom started the invitations and was talking to my aunt earlier today (granted my aunt is a very jelouse person and negative about anything that is not about her, and my whole family is well aware) but she was like why would she have it so early, and my mother was like I dont know I guess its different with twins, and she was like thats crazy who has a shower at 6 months.

I know my aunt just needed to put something down, and she couldnt complain that my family is giving me a second shower after having my son because she had four with her kids so this is her way......But I want to know what I should say to normal people who ask why so early?

 

No one ever asked me why. ardon: But I guess I'd tell them what you stated earlier. A twin pregnancy is different from a singleton. THere is a higher chance of bedrest and an earlier delivery. Plus you do get uncomfortable sooner then when you are pregnant with one. There is also the getting ready part. Sure you don't have to, but if that's what makes you feel better, then there is no need for any reasoning. You'll have double the stuff to put away and double the clothes. If all else fails, just say it's because you want it and that is that. :blbl: :laughing:

I'm sorry she has to question things and be a downer. :hug:

 

I would just tell them the truth. Women carrying multiples rarely make it to full term, the risk of early bedrest/hospitalization is greater for us, and it's just dang uncomfortable to do ANYTHING in that last trimester. You wouldn't have a shower for a singleton when the woman is 38 wks pregnant, and our dates have to be adjusted accordingly.

I've found that most people really aren't knowledgeable at all about the world of multiples. Heck, I wasn't either...until about 4 months ago. :blush: Sometimes I feel like I spend a lot of time explaining things, but I guess that goes w/ the territory...

Eve

 

I had it close to the end of my pregnancy and I was miserable. I could hardly enjoy it. I was so tired and cranky and huge. Would have been much better early on.

I had it close to the end of my pregnancy and I was miserable. I could hardly enjoy it. I was so tired and cranky and huge. Would have been much better early on.

 

I had one last weekend (28w 4d) and am so glad that I did. I was able to walk around and enjoy the day. Besides, it truely is up to you, not anyone else.

Jenn

 

We find ourselves explaining so much throughout a twin pregnancy, I consider myself "favored" SOME people just have to know everything!!

 

Sorry about the 'debbie downer'!!!

I had 3 showers, one at 7 months, one at 7.5 months & one a few weeks before my c-section.
I was pretty dang uncomfortable at the last 2 (on bedrest for the last one) & totally recommend doing it early.
You will feel so much better & be more active the earlier you do it
Good luck!!

 

I bet your aunt will be the main one at your baby shower eating up all your food hurling out her opinions & boring suggestings. :lol: I have a low tolerance for that kind- your aunt sounds like my step sister & mother.My step-sister is jealous because sometimes my cousins & family friends find out things about me & the babies before she does-and frankly they (stepmom& sis) wants to suck all of my personal business out of me while hording theirs.And lately they have been calling quite frequent asking "how are the babies doing?"As if....what is going to be any different from the last 3 weeks they asked. Long story short...I am presently trying to figure out how to shake them off. They are the type that...everytime they call (which they live in another state that I moved away from) I know that some bad news is bound to follow after their "hello's and how ya doings." If someone hadn't died-someone was sick or husband left them. So of course I don't want them monitering me and my babies. Everytime I get off the phone with them I say a prayer over myself & my babies-and now that I've noticed the frequency of their calls...I started puting anointed oil over my belly and ask God to protect my unborn. :lol: BUT IN ANY EVENT...I- like you-will be having my baby shower around 26-28 weeks.And that is because I will be having 2. One in my home state of Louisiana & the other here in Georgia. Louisiana will be at probably 26 wks & Georgia at 28 or 29 wks. This is the wisdom that I will share with you....Avoid ignorant,jealous,hateful,bearers of bad news kinds of people. ( I don't say that to bash them personally-but that personality & wicked spirt ) Many of them may really mean well-but just don't know any better.I think that our mind & spirit should always be put on a pedastal-this should be the most happiest & joyful time of our life-We are the seed carriers-Why let someone else put a dabber on our time? Dont Worry Be Happy it is good medicine for the babies.

 

I had my shower 4 weeks ago at 27 weeks. The timing was perfect. I wasn't too uncomfortable, I was only starting to get uncomfortable around that time. We had the shower at my house (obviously not a suprise shower) and that worked out well also. I didn't have to go anywhere and we didn't have to lug a bunch of stuff back to my house. My mom wanted to to my shower this weekend, I will be 31 weeks tomorrow. Last week I was put on bedrest for preterm labor. So I'm glad it was a month ago and a little earlier than usual. There is now way I could have enjoyed it on bedrest. If people ask, tell them it's because multiples carry a higher risk of preterm labor and delivery and bedrest. It's just a fact. Not that anyone should question when your shower is anyway. Sorry your aunt is being a downer.

 

Two really good friends of mine planned my baby shower for me, it was just yesterday actually (at 27 wks & 6days) it was supposed to be the week before but their schedules didn't co-ordinate for them to both be there. No one asked why I had it early, I actually had a few people ask me why I didn't have it sooner!!!!!! I don't think you're having it too early at all because you never know what can happen. I had the 'perfect' pregnancy with no probs at all until I went in for my 24 wk sono and my cervix had shortened to 1.8cm and I was funneling and fFN was present, I've been on hospital bedrest ever since!!!! But I was stil able to have my baby shower here in a conference room and it was great!!!! Best of luck to you and just have your shower when you think you should.......after all it's your body and your babies!!!! Good luck!!!!