Baby invasion

So yesterday, I was at the register at a store and this lady came up to the twins and started pulling back the umbrella on their carseats to look at them!! I didn't see it at first b/c I was signing my receipt. Then I turned around and she was invading my babies!! What do you do or say in this situation? I was at a loss for words b/c I couldn't believe my eyes. I don't want to be rude...how do you handle this situation? I'm sure there's more to come.

 

Was she touching them? I didnt mind if they were just looking, but I would draw the line if they would start to make a move to touch them and just politely say, "please dont touch." That usually got them to step back. They are your babies and you should not be made to feel uncomfortable at all.

ETA: spelling

 

hmmm that's over the line. I pull the umbrella over them especially when they are sleeping so people, hopefully, won't stop and say too much...

I might have said something like, "oh, i keep the shade down when I'm trying to get them to sleep", or stepped close to them and said "sometimes they are a little shy and afraid of strangers " (of course this doesn't work if your babies are smiling and cooing at the person, but mine really do have stranger anxiety so most of the the time they are just wide eyed....) when speaking with strangers I am in the habit of rocking the stroller/cart and it kind of deters people from touching at least...

most of the time I just grin and bear it and walk away as soon as I can!

 

I've said, "please don't touch. They can get very frightened by strangers." I've rarely had to do this. You absolutely have the right to assert yourself if you are not comfortable with a stranger grabbing the stroller/babies. I hope it doesn't happen again anytime soon :hug:.

 

I would say please don't get to close they get sick easily and I don't want the germs around them

 

I didn't see her touching them, but by the time I turned around, she had the umbrella up. If I did see her touching them, I would have said something. I just can't believe people can be soo intrusive! She was an older lady and I know how they can be, but still, like you all said, they are my babies and I need to draw the line. Thanks for your advice on the responses to use. Now I'll be better prepared for next time.

 

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Was she touching them? I didnt mind if they were just looking, but I would draw the line if they would start to make a move to touch them and just politely say, "please dont touch." That usually got them to step back.

I agree. Idon't mind at all when people look. I just don't like the touching! I also think that some people are just more upset by stuff like that. I am not.

 

I just say something like "hello" and quickly hurry whatever I'm doing - like I'm in a rush. People get the idea.

 

I hate it when people do that! I intentionally keep the visor down so people can't look at my kids. I have had a lady pull it up once and say "I can't see them - I want a better look." :angry: Anyway, what I always say in a joking voice is "sorry, I'm in a hurry. We're running late like always" and then walk away. They think it's cute that a mom of twins is running late, like we're unorganized and can't get anywhere on time. Oh wait...we can't get anywhere on time!

 

i must be antisocial because i would have had no problem asking her, "excuse me, what are you doing?"

you don't owe it to strangers to let them put their faces in your babies' faces. it's okay to call them on it if they invade your space.

 

If someone touched the stroller or carseats I would say "Excuse me! What are doing?!" People are bizarre.

 

I got some great advice on here awhile back when I had a busy bodie remove my son's paci in walmart...he was 4 mths old at the time! the advice was ...to put the mosquito netting made for the carries over it....and I didn't have that problem any more!


Good luck...and get ready, people are crazy!

 

You could have gotten really close to her, pull her hat up, and peer closely into her face...maybe then she'd get the point! Hahahahaha!!! If only we treated adults like we treat babies...people might think twice about hwo they act!

 

people are so weird sometimes... i don't touch anybody's things unless i know them... i agree with pp, i would say something about wanting to keep the shade down while they slept
i would've been mad about it too. we all have to expect some level of attention having twins, but "don't touch my stuff lady" is what i wish i had enough ba**s to say... unfortunately i can't usually be that forward... i sure do think it though

 

an older lady did that today at walmart, was way in their faces and one of them was asleep. she had ahold of the stroller side and i kept pulling it backwards towards me and trying to be as polite as possible (her mom was a twin..woohoo). i walk fast and avoid eye contact with people, and if i hear, ohhh twins, i ignore it. dh thinks im rude but i dont care lol. its hard when youre standing still though!

 

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an older lady did that today at walmart, was way in their faces and one of them was asleep. she had ahold of the stroller side and i kept pulling it backwards towards me and trying to be as polite as possible (her mom was a twin..woohoo). i walk fast and avoid eye contact with people, and if i hear, ohhh twins, i ignore it. dh thinks im rude but i dont care lol. its hard when youre standing still though!



I agree with the don't make eye contact..that's some of the best advice I got from TS. It really works. I also tend to ignore pp when they say oooh twins! Cause ya know what's coming next. Now that it's rsv season, I will have little tolerance for pp invading my babies. Thanks for all the advice ladies.